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For the blocks that had it today how was it? Tia!!

Hey everyone! I’m starting engineering this fall and wondering if it is worth it to go to orientation.

I’m already pretty familiar with how university works since I'm a transfer student so the main reason I’d be interested in going is to meet people and hopefully make some friends in my block before classes start.

My issue is I’d have to take time off work to attend, so I’m trying to figure out if the social/networking aspect is actually worth it or if I’d be better off just meeting people once classes start.

I also heard that we get the scarfs during orientation, is that something I would be able to pick up at a later date or are they only available those two days?

TIA!!

For some context me and my boyfriend have been happily together for the last three years with no major bumps in our journey. He comes from a more conservative family while I myself am atheist. The other week we were having a conversation on dressing modestly and somehow came to the topic of dressing modestly for safety. I can understand thinking that if you dress a certain way you may be more protected from men, but as a woman in the real world who has experienced real men I know this is simply not the case and that if a man has bad intentions with you, your clothing will not change his mind. He told me that he believes that a woman is more protected if she covers up more so it is her responsibility to cover up. This surprised me as I never heard him talk like this in the 3+ years I’ve known him. I then asked him that hypothetically if something happened to me while I was at the beach in a two piece bikini, would he place some of the blame of the situation on me because of my swimsuit.

He said yes.

After hearing this from him I was immediately upset and ended the call and didn’t speak to him for the rest of the night. I felt like the earth had been uprooted because I could not believe he thought about things like that. I honestly felt like I didn’t even know him because I would not have dated someone who thought things like this.

The next morning I reached out with the intention to clear things up and was honestly considering breaking up. His “explanation” was that he said it in the heat of the moment and that he didn’t mean it. I didn’t find the conversation too heated at the time but it was over the phone so he might have been more worked up about it than I realized. He then went on to say that he would never blame me and he expressed himself wrong. He said that he only meant to encourage me or whoever to dress more modestly as a way to protect myself from men, but that he understood things happen and that he would never blame me or anyone else. His apology did seem genuine and I do feel like he regrets it.

I am just confused on where to go from here because I feel like saying something like that is too big of a deal to just let go because he said it in the moment. I went into the conversation that morning with the plan to break up but now I don’t know what to do. This is my first serious relationship and I don’t want to throw away three years over something said in the heat of the moment. Up until this point we had no serious issues so this really came out of nowhere for me which is why I feel like I’m struggling with the decision.

Thank you for any advice or insight!!

I’m planning to purchase a couple of sweatfleece pieces this upcoming fall but am overwhelmed by all the options of different tops and bottoms and colours so I wanted to know people’s favourite combos. I’m prefer to wear neutrals but am fine with some pops of colour. Tia!!