u/Enimatheoneandonly

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Salut à tous,

je me lance en musculation après des années sans sport. J'ai 25 ans, 1m80, environ 92 kg. Mon objectif c'est la recomposition corporelle, donc perdre du gras et prendre du muscle en même temps, je sais que c'est un objectif lent mais vu que je suis débutant ça devrait bien marcher au début.

Je m'entraîne à la Basic-Fit, uniquement sur machines pour l'instant car je ne suis pas encore à l'aise avec les barres libres. Je fais 4 séances par semaine en split A/B, avec un jour de repos entre chaque. La séance A cible les pecs, les épaules, les triceps, les quadriceps et les mollets avec du chest press, incline chest press, shoulder press, leg press, tricep pushdown et calf raise. La séance B cible le dos, les biceps, les ischios, les fessiers et les abdos avec du lat pulldown, seated row, lying leg curl, bicep curl, hip thrust et ab crunch. Je fais entre 3 et 4 séries de 8 à 15 reps selon les exercices, et j'augmente les charges quand je sens que je pourrais faire 5 reps de plus.

Côté nutrition je vise environ 2500 à 2550 kcal par jour avec 165 à 170g de protéines, le reste réparti entre lipides et glucides.

Ce que j'aimerais savoir, c'est si ce split vous paraît cohérent pour un débutant ou s'il manque des mouvements importants, si la fréquence de 4 séances par semaine est adaptée pour commencer, et si vous avez des conseils pour progresser vers les barres libres plus tard comme le squat ou le deadlift.

Hey everyone,

I need some perspective because this is a pattern in my life and I don't know how to break it.

A few days ago, I met 4 people in my residence building. We started hanging out and have been playing games together for the last few nights. At first, it was cool. But last night, I noticed a major shift in the dynamic.

The other four have developed this quick chemistry. They’re teasing each other, banter is flying back and forth, and they’ve already created a bunch of inside jokes. I, on the other hand, am completely out of the loop. I don't get their references or their humor yet.

What made it worse is that they actually pointed it out. They laughed and said things like, "Oh, you don't get it," or "You have no idea what we're talking about, do you?"

It made me feel incredibly lonely and excluded, right there at the table. The worst part is that this happens to me in almost every group I try to join. I always end up being the "spectator" while everyone else clicks.

I’ve been thinking about the whole trend of calling women pickme's, and honestly, this makes no sense to me.

People act like a woman wanting male validation or changing her behavior to appeal to guys is some kind of toxic sin. But if you look at it objectively, a pickme woman is literally just acting like a normal dude.

Think about it: men have to jump through endless hoops, hit the gym, pay for dates, and put in 110% effort just to get a single text back or a chance at a date. We spend our whole lives trying to earn female validation because that’s just how dating works. You have to put yourself out there and adapt to what the other side wants.

So why is it suddenly a crime when a woman does a fraction of that effort to stand out and make herself appealing to men? It feels like other women just get mad when a woman is attracted to men. A pickme isn't desperate, she’s just genuinely attracted to men.

Hey everyone,

I’m a 25 year old guy, and I’m looking for some honest advice or maybe just a bit of reassurance.

To put it bluntly: is it too late for me to start weightlifting and getting into shape? I know 25 isn’t "old," but I can’t help but feel like I’ve already passed my peak "prime" years (18 25) where my body would have responded best to training.

On top of that, the biggest barrier for me is that I have dealt with severe social anxiety and crippling shyness my entire life. Just the thought of stepping foot inside a gym makes my stomach turn.

I don't know how to use any of the machines, I don’t know proper form, and I’m terrified of looking stupid, doing exercises completely wrong, or worse—ending up on some viral video on social media.

Logically, I know these fears are 100% irrational. I know people are just there to focus on themselves and that nobody actually cares about what a beginner is doing. But my anxiety doesn't care about logic, and it's keeping me paralyzed.

Has anyone else started from absolute scratch at this age (or older) while dealing with bad anxiety? How did you get over that initial fear of walking through the door?

Any advice on how to start without feeling completely overwhelmed would be deeply appreciated.

Thanks guys.

What people mistake for "mistreatment" is really just the absence of the privileges that attractive women receive on a daily basis. Attractive women are constantly complimented, approached, defended, given the benefit of the doubt, offered help, and generally treated like they're special. Even average-looking women often experience some version of this. Society, both men and women, tends to place them on a pedestal.

When an unattractive woman doesn't receive that same level of attention or validation, she interprets it as being treated poorly. But being ignored isn't the same thing as being oppressed. You're comparing normal treatment to preferential treatment and calling the difference discrimination.

The reality is that most men don't go out of their way to insult or mistreat unattractive women. They simply don't invest the same amount of time, attention, or energy into someone they aren't attracted to. That's not cruelty—it's just the absence of a privilege that other women have become accustomed to.