u/Entire_Sandwich195

Hi!

What did you do to avoid your paper bending when it’s dry? I‘ve been always struggling with it and accepter as inevitable evil. but I’d like to make some cards for my friends and here bending is unacceptable.

I use cotton paper. wash it from both sides. I tried just to stick it to the drawing tablet and use duck tape to keep edges still. I tried to dry it with the hair dryer and also naturally. I even tried to put some weight on it when it’s dry enough to not spoil the pain by it. I even tried to iron the picture afterwards.

Nothing helped. Ironing gave the best result, but eve this wasn’t perfect. I’m pretty sure that there should be a way to fix it and I just do something wrong.
does somebody have any ideas? Thank you in advance!

Hi!

I'm Kristina, a transfem in the early stage of transition living in Malmö and speaking English. I'd like to find people to hang out together, preferably offline, like going for a walk, going to a cafe, playing board games, just talking, etc. I'm looking forward to a long-term friendship. I'm not seeking a romantic relationship, although I'm open to one if it forms naturally.

A little bit about me:

I'm 34, still looking masc. I like to read, listen to audiobooks, watch popular science programs, and spend time with my cat. I also try to paint, sew clothes, and make mead (all of it with varying success :-) ). I recently bought a simple photocamera and am trying to figure out how to use it, not to become a cool photographer, but to go outside and take photos of interesting places. I also like to travel, see new places, and meet new people (not something fancy like on social media, just trying to spend weekends and vacations not at home).

It will be nice to meet somebody to talk to and spend some time together with. It doesn't matter if your interests do not overlap with mine, I like to discover something new. I'm fine with people having different views and beliefs, but I'm probably not a good match for those who constantly turn conversations into activism, politics, or ideological debates.

Hi!
I know that the question is stupid, but please let me explain. The problem is that I have been struggling with my voice for several months already. Videos, articles, etc. don't help much. I understand the foundations, like what pitch, resonance, and weight are. I can change them in isolation during practice. But all of it is just separate pieces of knowledge and doesn't lead me anywhere. I understand that I need guidance, somebody who will lead me through my work and explain what I should do next.

The problem is that all the voice coaches I managed to find on the Internet are really expensive. $80-120 for a lesson is something out of my league. I mean, it's $800 a month with two lessons a week. Maybe it's affordable in countries where insurance covers them, but I need to pay fully by myself. I would say that the top I can afford is $40-50 for a lesson. Reddit has the same problem, almost everyone I found is either very expensive or inactive for years.

And I have no idea where to find somebody less promoted and more grounded. I don't need a super-duper expert, a normal coach with several examples of the results will be enough.

Does somebody have any advice on where to search for them? I would appreciate any information. Thank you.

Hi!

I'm Kristina, a transfem in the early stage of transition living in Malmö and speaking English. I'd like to find people to hang out together, preferably offline, like going for a walk, going to a cafe, playing board games, just talking, etc. I'm looking forward to a long-term friendship. I'm not seeking a romantic relationship, although I'm open to one if it forms naturally.

A little bit about me:

I'm 34, still looking masc. I like to read, listen to audiobooks, watch popular science programs, and spend time with my cat. I also try to paint, sew clothes, and make mead (all of it with varying success :-) ). I recently bought a simple photocamera and am trying to figure out how to use it, not to become a cool photographer, but to go outside and take photos of interesting places. I also like to travel, see new places, and meet new people (not something fancy like on Instagram, just trying to spend weekends and vacations not at home).

It will be nice to meet somebody to talk to and spend some time together with. It doesn't matter if your interests do not overlap with mine, I like to discover something new. I'm fine with people having different views and beliefs, but I'm probably not a good match for those who constantly turn conversations into activism, politics, or ideological debates.

I don't know what it is, but I definitely need to talk about it. Long read. Not a question, but more like thinking out loud. Maybe somebody was in the same situation and has some thoughts about it.

I'm 34 and I have had pretty severe gender dysphoria for my whole life. It caused almost full emotional numbness in very early childhood. So I have never felt any emotions or feelings.

Recently I finally realized the problem and started HRT. It was a miracle, as after a while emotions returned. I started to feel - now I can be sad, can genuinely laugh, feel happiness, etc. Now people around me are not strange and incomprehensible creatures that I have always mimicked and cohabited with. Now I perceive myself as a part of society, I can feel the same as they do. For the first time in my life I’m not anxious about them, but I really want to be with them, to speak with them, to share my feelings, to be emotionally connected to somebody. It could sound pathos, but I really feel like I started to live instead of just existing.

Unfortunately, when I came out as trans, my wife left me, my family dishonored and abandoned me, as well as the only two friends I had, and I remained completely alone in full social isolation. And only after that did I realize how lonely people can be. Before that, I hadn’t needed socialization. Now I desperately want it, but I have no one. Of course, I’m working on making friends. But it’s not a fast process and can take years. Plus, I have never made friends, so I don’t really know how to do it, so my attempts are pretty awkward and sometimes strange.

This feeling of loneliness and abandonment led me to depression. Now I don’t have any desire to go outside or to do anything. I can’t force myself to do something, to continue trying to establish any social connections. And it feels like a cursed loop with no exit.

Now, when I think about the whole situation, I’m really surprised at how great and definitely positive changes can have such nasty and awful repercussions in some circumstances.