u/EnvironmentalAir1098

I'm 33M, she's 29F. We were together for six years. I loved her deeply.

A couple days before Thanksgiving last year, she told me she loved me but had to break up. Said things hadn't been romantic for a while, and our sex life wasn't doing it for her. I understood what she was saying, but after six years together, I asked for a second chance. I wanted to fix things — be more romantic, work on us.

Some background: We both lived with our parents. She wanted to get married eventually. I always told her we could get engaged once we moved in together. In my mind, that was the plan. I would have proposed if we ever got there.

The lead-up to the breakup started with a fight in Atlantic City with another couple — her friends. The fight wasn't even between me and her, but ever since that night, I felt her disconnect. I told myself it was just a rough patch. We still hung out. We went to a family party together.

That night, as we were leaving, someone asked if I was driving straight home. I joked, "Y'all know she don't FWM like that." People laughed. But she seemed really upset. I apologized at her house and said, "Of course you could always stay. I'd never tell you no." She went inside. I thought it was over.

Then one day she texted: "We need to talk." I immediately asked, "Are you breaking up with me?" She just said we had to talk in person. I was already a mess but tried to stay calm. The next day, she was cold. Barely answering. So I said I'd come to her house after work.

I pulled up, said hi to her mom, and we walked to my car. That's when she said she thought we should break up. We'd gotten too comfortable. Maybe one day down the line we could be together. I begged for another chance — to rekindle the flame. She looked me straight in the face and said no. Said this was a long time coming.

I asked, "Then why did you go on vacation with me?" I told her her new friends were influencing her. I even asked if there was another man. She said no to all of it. I don't know if I believe her.

After that day, she went no contact but left me unblocked on Instagram and other socials. I watched her live her life from a distance. Then after her birthday in May, she blocked me on everything.

I'm still heartbroken. She was so beautiful, and our dynamic was so good. The only thing we ever really argued about was when we'd get married. I always assured her I would. Maybe I was dumb and missed the signs. But I hope no one ever has to feel what I feel every morning — waking up not knowing if the other person even thinks about you anymore. Ask me anything you’d like to know I just wanted to vent and let my story be known.