u/EnvironmentalPop1084

So I’ve recently separated from my partner of eight years due to infidelity and constant lying.

We have a child together so I am now trying to navigate the world of coparenting with a person who I dislike very much.

The thought of not getting to see my child every day makes me feel so upset. At the moment, our child lives with me and is seeing his dad a couple of times a week while we sort out how to coparent going forward.

Part of me thinks that maybe it’ll be good for me to have some time for myself, but I don’t have a big group of friends so I don’t have that many people to socialise with. I’m worried because feelings of loneliness are becoming quite overwhelming.

I’m not the most outgoing so making friends isn’t something that comes naturally to me.

For those of you that dislike your coparent, how do you deal with seeing them at handovers, particularly in the school holidays? And how do you decide how much time is spent with each parent?

Also, if you have any tips on how to deal with the separation, please let me know how you navigated that time in your life

I’ve recently ended an 8 year relationship after finding out I’ve been pretty much cheated on and lied to the whole time.

I want to focus on myself for a while before dating again, but I’m finding it really lonely. Did any of you feel like this? Any tips to get past it?

Every relationship I’ve been in, I’ve been cheated on. I’ve very recently ended an 8 year relationship where it turns out he’s been cheating the whole time.

At this point, I’m starting to think it’s me and something I’m doing/how I look/how I act.

I guess my question is, how do I figure out whether this is just really bad luck with the people I’ve chosen, or if it’s me and I need to change?

I always suspected he was up to no good but with no real evidence. It was more of a gut feeling so I wasn’t sure if that was my insecurities rather than him actually doing anything.

It’s come to light that he has been messaging a lot of women during our 8 year relationship. Including phone sex and pictures/videos.

It took a long time for him to even admit that he had been messaging these women as he had he denied knowing who they were at the beginning.

Once he finally admitted that he had been messaging some of them he was adamant that he had never ever met up with anyone and that it was only messaging.

He has now admitted that he has met up with one of them once and she gave him a BJ. He’s adamant that it was just the once. I am obviously not convinced that is the truth as he has drip fed the truth to me since I found out.

I keep picturing it in my head and it’s making me feel so sick that he could betray me and our relationship boundaries.

We have a young child together, and I don’t know how I am meant to co-parent with this person who makes me feel so sick and disgusted by him

It’s only been a couple of weeks since I have found out, but over those past couple of weeks I’ve just been drip fed more and more of the truth so I’ve no doubt he’s hiding a lot more.

I don’t understand how somebody could be so deceitful and behave in such a way that they don’t care about the impact that they have on their other half or child. I’m finding it really difficult to comprehend, I guess because our values and morals are very different.

I’m wondering how do you cope with such a thing when you have a young child to co-parent when your mind is on overdrive and can’t stop thinking about it.