u/EscadoraWisdom

Question is in the title.

Long story short: I'm currently dating a very petite girl (34F). We get along really well, and we've been intimate twice already. I like everything about her physically, except for one detail: she has very, very small breasts, and I'm only now realising that's a turn-off for me.

You have no idea how ashamed I am of feeling this way... it makes me feel superficial and shallow. 😩

I like her, I really do, but I'm starting to think this is one "detail" I can't just ignore. Honestly, this is the first time I've dated a girl with such small breasts.

What should I do? She probably deserves to be with someone who likes her exactly as she is, but I am loving the connection we have...

A bit of a weird experience... or maybe I'm just overthinking (M39 and F34).

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I've been dating this girl for four weeks. Three dates so far, all of them seemingly went very well. She came to my place on our second date and we got intimate. We text almost every day on WhatsApp or IG and she's often the one to reach out first. We are supposed to see each other again next Sunday.

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Yesterday evening, she suddendly unmatched me on Hinge. I honestly never unmatch anyone I am dating, unless things are over. When I asked her why, she said there was no reason keeping the chat open since we talk somewhere else, and told me not to be paranoid and insecure about it. She also said that if she ever stopped wanting to see me, she'd tell me directly.

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Now, some more background: one thing that confuses me is that she sometimes worries a lot about compatibility over seemingly small differences. For example: I don't eat seafood and she does, I prefer rock music and she loves techno, she always eats dinner very late while my schedule varies. She also says that my writing style comes across as very formal and how she would have considered that a red flag in the past. However, she said she's learned over the years to look at the bigger picture rather than judge people based on isolated traits.

At the same time, I find we share a lot of values and interests: pets, art, and generally a pretty relaxed outlook on life.

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Am I really being paranoid? Does she sound genuinely interested but overly analytical, or am I missing something?