u/EstablishmentIll9818

Hi so last night we ended up trying to have sex but my husband (23/M) couldn't stay hard and he blamed it on the fact i (22/F) don't cuddle or anything like that even though I told him that isn't my love language I'm not really one for affection as I wasn't brought up like that and it makes me uncomfortable, he was however brought us in a hella affectionate family.
We've just had a baby as well so I told him I'm changing as a woman, we met when I was 19 and I'm now 22 with a four month old, my pregnancy wasn't easy at all.

Our relationship is very strained as he’s continuously cheated on me and made horrible decisions so we’re going through a rough patch, we met in 2024 and have been together for over two years now.

It just feels like he's using excuses to make me feel bad about not giving him that affection but it seemed like he understood when I told him. I don't exactly know what to do?

Edit: I have tried to leave him and he just won’t go I’ve tried this countless times and he just will not leave me alone he begs and begs and even just walks back in and acts as if nothings happened

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So last night we tried to have sex and when we did he couldn’t stay hard and said it was because I don’t cuddle him or anything like that even though we had a conversation about me not liking affection as I wasn’t brought up like that he was though.

I don’t know what to do because this isn’t the first time it’s happened and we’ve just had a baby and I simply don’t have the time or the energy to be the same woman I was before, I’m just so fed up of him expecting this from me.

Hi, so I just went through probably the worst sleep of my life.

I fell asleep and then I was in my home with my partner and my three month old and my mother in law comes to visit but as she does there was this big storm that killed hundreds of people. For some reason I end up calling the police but when they answer all I heard was guttural screams.

Me and my family (MIL,HUSBAND,DAUGHTER) get into the car towards some safe house and we drive in places I’ve been before anyway we arrive at the safe house and theres loads of other prople there so I let my daughter sleep in a separate room for some reason. (For a quiet space I assume?)

As i sit in the room speaking to them I look out the window and a man is running to where we are with a red light in his hand.

We all absolutely bolt it out of the house and into a car only with a stranger but only then did I realise I’d left my daughter, I ran back and she wasn’t there anymore neither was my family so I run back out as I do there’s explosions, screams of terror, agony, literally every heartbreaking sound possible.

Eventually I find my way to another house after everything and i find my daughter and my husband but not my mother in law, I woke up after that as my baby needed a feed.

I am so extremely terrified of this, my mother in law was a child in the first gulf war in Iraq and she spoke to me about it earlier today and I feel sick, like genuinely sick, I had a single dream I couldn’t imagine living something like that everyday.

barak allah fi aljamie

Hi, so for a little context I met my fiance two years ago now, for the first year of our relationship he was consistently hiding messages from his ex from me and other girls included and I had to go through his phone to find these messages, they were on twitter and Snapchat we’ve had multiple arguments about this I cannot even begin to explain how many.

Anyway I fell pregnant in August 2025 and before I found out I went though his phone and found that he’d been searching girls on TikTok that looked nothing like me to get off and I even had proof of it, when i confronted him about it he lied to my face and said he wasn’t doing it I didn’t believe him obviously because I’d saw it but i decided to let it go, so when I found out I was pregnant it was awful I had severe hyperemesis (sickness) and I was hospitalized multiple times and couldn’t eat, sleep or even leave the house I’d scream in agony and he was there for me all the time.

During all of this I confronted him again and said if he didn’t stop lying to me I’d leave him, to which he admitted that he had been searching these girls and getting off to them (which is a boundary he’s broken as I told him I was uncomfortable with this and him watching certain videos) I went crazy essentially and cried my heart out infront of him.

We’ve had no more issues since I was pregnant other than him using the toilet for 40 mins each time (this is where he used to cheat on me🥲) and I didn’t check his phone during my entire pregnancy as I didn’t want to know because I didn’t want my daughter to feel anything sad or angry.

I’m now three weeks postpartum and I’ve had this feeling he’s doing it again as he’s acting suspicious with his phone and I just woke up from a nap to the house completely silent and him in the bedroom, I could hear slight noises on the bed so I walked into the room and he’s on the floor phone down on the floor and his face was red as if he’d just been caught doing something wrong, I then confronted him about this and he got slightly mad saying he hasn’t done anything but I just don’t trust him anymore, I don’t know what else to do and I feel like I’m losing my mind but then I also feel like it’s all in my head being three weeks postpartum?

Any advice on this would be greatly appreciated as I do love him but I cannot do this anymore if that’s what he’s doing.

Hi, so for the first week of having my daughter she was breastfed, occasionally I’d put it in a bottle for her and she’d be fine, no gas no stomach problems absolutely nothing however my milk supply has dipped massively I was pumping at least 10 oz and now I’m barely getting 1oz.

As a result of this I’ve had to put her on formula but ever since she’s been in absolute agony with her stomach and is having a really hard time trying to poop she’s extremely gassy, I went to the drs with her and they recommended switching her formula (kendamil) to either sma or aptamil, I got the aptamil advanced and it’s supposed to help with combo fed babies but she immediately threw up (which she has never done before) so we didn’t give her anymore and have continued with the kendamil now even on that she’s having a lot of spit up and is still throwing up not a concerning amount but as I say she’s never done this before, is there anything anyone could recommend? as i genuinely don’t know what to do anymore, my health visitor said to wait a few weeks for more symptoms and log everything in my notes but she’s in agony and my heart breaks for her I just want to help her but I can’t put her back on breast milk

(Sorry if this doesn’t make sense I’m absolutely sleep deprived and so stressed)