u/Exact_Canary2378

I've followed Aspyn for many years now and I'm sure people have already said this but billy and Bri are here for the $$.

They moved across the country to be with their GF? More like they moved across the country to get on a TV show and Bri to become and influencer. Aspyn was taking Bri on brand trips before they went public.

I've seen the tiktok where billy says his first impression of Aspyn was that 'she is tiny' and you hear Bri say 'what do you mean...?' It's clear there is an objective here and not so much 'free love' IMO.

I think they are predatory and were preying on Aspen when she was at her lowest and most vulnerable. I know she is a grown adult but when Bri DM'd her, Aspyn was postpartum, a new single mom of 3, alone in a new community in CA, had lost her dad going through a public divorce and crashing out online. Who knows what else was going on behind the scene too.

I'm a 32-year-old mom of two kids (3 and 6), and while I absolutely adore them, I'm struggling a bit with this stage of life.

I've tried to build friendships with some of the moms I've met through my children's classmates, but honestly, we just don't seem to gel. I often find the culture around parenting in my area performative and judgmental. There is a lot of talk about organic food, no sugar, no screen time, organic fibres, only certain brands, no character clothing, and being the "perfect" parent. I often leave these interactions feeling like I'm somehow falling short, even though I know I'm a good mom and that my kids are loved and cared for.

I'm also no-contact with my family of origin and went through a rough divorce a few years ago, so I think part of me really craves community and connection. At the same time, I'm incredibly lucky to have an amazing lifelong best friend, a wonderful fiancé, and his family, who have truly embraced me and my children. They have been such a loving and supportive presence in my life.

I work full time, my life is busy and full, but I still sometimes wish I had more of a social circle.

For moms in a similar season of life, what does your social life actually look like? How do you enjoy this chapter if you don't really connect with the other parents around you? What traditions, hobbies, or routines make this season feel special?

Maybe this is just a season of life that I need to enjoy for what it is instead of constantly feeling like I should have a bigger circle of friends.

Becoming a parent has made me realize just how neglected and unwanted I felt as a child.

My parents never nurtured my interests or taught me basic life skills, yet they invested heavily in my brother. They taught him to drive, let him use their car, co-signed his loans, and helped him buy a house. None of those things were ever even presented as an option for me. When I was a single mother trying to buy a home for myself and my children, they made it clear that helping me would be a burden, so I did it alone. When I bought my own house, she didn't tell me she was proud of me or congratulate me. Instead, she immediately asked when I was going to buy a nicer, bigger house.

I grew up watching their toxic and abusive marriage, and my father would disappear for months at a time. As an adult, while struggling through a difficult divorce and raising two children on my own, my family continued to rely on me for rides, unpaid work, and favors while offering very little support in return.

My ex-husband put me through hell, and instead of standing by me, my parents maintained a close relationship with him. My mother loves to routinely remind me of how bad of siutation ym kids are in goring up with divorced parents (meanwhile never accepting how hard it was for me with her marriage). We are now no contact.

My mother never liked or wanted me. She saw me as a burden.

I never had a chance at a normal or decent life, but through all of this adversity I have built a life I love so much. I have amazing children, my fiance is the best father and equal partner, his family is truly a God send. They help and support me ways I never experienced with my own family i.e school pick ups, included in all family events etc.

I hate my mother so much - its heavy but I am working on it in therapy and my biggest fear is having my children feel about me they way I feel about my cruel mother.

Becoming a parent has made me realize just how neglected and unwanted I felt as a child.

My parents never nurtured my interests or taught me basic life skills, yet they invested heavily in my brother. They taught him to drive, let him use their car, co-signed his loans, and helped him buy a house. None of those things were ever even presented as an option for me. When I was a single mother trying to buy a home for myself and my children, they made it clear that helping me would be a burden, so I did it alone. When I bought my own house, she didn't tell me she was proud of me or congratulate me. Instead, she immediately asked when I was going to buy a nicer, bigger house.

I grew up watching their toxic and abusive marriage, and my father would disappear for months at a time. As an adult, while struggling through a difficult divorce and raising two children on my own, my family continued to rely on me for rides, unpaid work, and favors while offering very little support in return.

My ex-husband put me through hell, and instead of standing by me, my parents maintained a close relationship with him. My mother loves to routinely remind me of how bad of siutation ym kids are in goring up with divorced parents (meanwhile never accepting how hard it was for me with her marriage). We are now no contact.

My mother never liked or wanted me. She saw me as a burden.

I never had a chance at a normal or decent life, but through all of this adversity I have built a life I love so much. I have amazing children, my fiance is the best father and equal partner, his family is truly a God send. They help and support me ways I never experienced with my own family i.e school pick ups, included in all family events etc.

I hate my parents so much - its heavy but I am working on it in therapy and my biggest fear is having my children feel about me they way I feel about my cruel mother.

'm a mom of a soon-to-be Grade 1 child. Up until now, all of her playdates with classmates from nursery and kindergarten have required the other parent and me to be present while the kids play. The kids do their thing, and the moms sit, chat, and have coffee.

Sometimes they go well, but honestly, after a while, some of these relationships start to feel weird. I.e sometimes the parents say hi when we pass eahcother other times they ignore, they come on strong with their parenting opinions or are even overbearing inside of my house.

I'm divorced, and I have felt like one mom in particular was more interested in the divorce details than actually getting to know me. She kept bringing up other divorced people in her family, and it started to feel like I was being viewed through that lens.

I also live in an affluent area where many of the parents are older than me. I'm 32, and a lot of the moms are closer to 40+. Sometimes I feel like conversations turn into a parenting competition: organic food, endless activities, who does the most, etc. It feels very performative.

I think I'm realizing I don't actually want "mom friends." I want my child to have friends, but I don't necessarily want to spend my free time at playdates making small talk with parents I don't connect with.

Please tell me I am not alone.

Got engaged, bought my dream house, and now I'm rethinking everything.

My life since 2022 has been a whirlwind. I had an unplanned pregnancy, went through a difficult divorce, became a single mom, and felt like I lost everything. I moved back in with my parents for a while, which was awful, then into an apartment I could barely afford after legal bills, childcare, and trying to rebuild my life.

Back then, I was just trying to survive. I was exhausted, overwhelmed, constantly worried about money, and taking life one day at a time.

Then I met my now-fiancé. He was unlike anyone I'd dated before patient, emotionally healthy, and consistent. Things moved slowly, and over time he became a huge part of my life and my kids' lives.

EDIT*** I met my current fiance at the end of 2023.

His family has also been incredible. His parents stepped in as amazing grandparents to my kids and welcomed us with so much love and support. As someone who doesn't have a close relationship with my own family, that has meant the world to me.

Fast forward to now: we're engaged, we just bought a house together, and I even landed a new job that is probably the best job I've ever had; great benefits, lots of PTO, close to home, and the highest salary I've earned so far.

On paper, I have the life I spent years dreaming about.

But ever since buying the house, I've felt strangely anxious and disappointed. I hate the kitchen. The basement creeps me out, it just doesn't feel like home. . It's expensive. We've been arguing more than usual. Instead of feeling excited, I feel stressed and overwhelmed.

Part of me wonders if I made a huge mistake.

The weird thing is that for years I was fighting to get through each day. Every goal was about surviving and rebuilding. Now that I've finally reached the life I wanted, I almost feel lost.

Has anyone else experienced this after a major life milestone? Did the feeling pass once you settled in, or was it a sign that something was wrong?

Today I spoke with a realtor I was considering working with, and the interaction left me feeling defeated. This would be my 4th home purchase and I’ve also sold a home before, so I’m familiar with how the process works. My fiancé works full time and I’m the one primarily handling the search, so I explained that I’d likely do the initial viewings and then bring him once we found a property worth taking to the next step.

She kept pushing back saying we should always go together because we would both need to sign documents eventually, but I explained that I understand how the process works and know he would of course be involved once we were actually moving toward an offer. We’re still at the stage of narrowing things down and seeing what’s even worth pursuing.

I also mentioned that responsiveness matters to me because I’ve previously missed out on homes due to a realtor being too busy, and she immediately started talking about how valuable her time is, which caught me off guard because of course I respect that, but I’m also trying to have my time valued too as a buyer.

She also kept asking why I left my previous realtor and where/who I was pre-approved with, and while I understand those questions eventually, I wasn’t really comfortable sharing all of that before even deciding whether we’d be a good fit to work together.

I just want to be able to be comfortable saying 'oh those details I'll share once we figure out if we are good fit to work together.' I just can't seem to have the courage when I get caught off guard.

EDIT* I'm definitely not going to be working with this realtor, the question I'm asking is more how to handle the actual situation. I didn't feel comfortable telling her the details of why I didn't want to continue working with my past realtor or where and with whom I am pre approved for. Those are details to share once we actually have a working relationship.

I had some years of extreme instability and now life finally feel stable. I feel stable. I trust myself again.

What things make your life feel stable? For me, it's have a steady routine. I.e being in classes, running errands on certain days, having leisure time, not worrying if you'll have enough money to pay rent.

I went no contact with my parents and sibling and that has helped a loooooot.

I went through a brutal divorce from 29-31 and now being 32 I finally feel somewhat secure. I still have a long way to go but after so much instability and losing so much I feel alright.

I just wanted to ask the ladies who are in their early 30's how they are doing too.

Right now I have a little over $5 k in liquid cash and just under $40 k invested. I own a small home and it has a mortgage on it. My vehicle is paid off, no credit card debt, student debt or medical debt. My bills are paid and im not stressing how to pay my rent like I was 2 years ago in the thick of my divorce.

I know some people at this age have multiple 6 figures of savings and investments and also some people have very little. I was curious how others my age were doing.

EDIT* I want to add, I have no idea what 'normal' 'median' or 'average' is and that is why ia m asking. My ex husband made me homeless while I was pregnant and I had very little help from my family.

Becoming a mother made me realize how much I was neglected growing up.

My parents prioritized education, but were very uninvolved parents. My childhood was filled with instability, abuse, and domestic violence in the home. I realized I have never missed my parents. As a child, I dreaded going home. I never looked to my parents for comfort or help. I remember going to camp for a week and loving it, but dreading going home (this trip was only possible because my best friend’s mom paid for my brother and I to attend).

For most of my life, I thought how my brother and I were treated was normal that boys were always prioritized over girls. They supported him in every way. They co signed his student loans, paid his full house down payment, and went on the mortgage with him. They invested in his hobbies (music, art, gaming). They taught him how to drive and let him use the family car. None of that was ever offered to me. I had to get my boyfriend to teach me to drive and pay for driving lessons from an instructor and buy my own car and get a loan. I dropped out of school because I couldn’t afford it and went back on my own.

When I got divorced, they made it clear helping me with a mortgage would be a burden. I only lived with about 7 weeks and It was awful. It went into debt to get away from them. Later on, I scraped all my pennies together bought a fixer upper home without them. It still wasn’t enough in my mom’s eyes. She was always asking when I'll be buying a bigger house etc.

When I was pregnant, they abandoned me. After that horrible experienceI did everything to keep the peace. Even at nine months pregnant with my second baby, I was running errands, giving rides, and doing admin work for my mom’s business. She would call me while on vacation pretending to check in, but really needing something, and I would drop everything. The only thing I could ever expect from my mother is if im havign an and day she will make it so so much worse.

I have always shown up for them. When it was my university and high school graduation my mom didn't want to go and asked if she could stay home. I was always more of a parent to my mother than she was to me. She put all of her emotional burdens on to me, I was expected to just figure things out but expected to always help her with her business, rides, booking flights - everything.

I am now no contact. It started when I refused a last minute request, and they stopped speaking to me. It became clear that when I stopped being useful, the relationship ended. My dad called today, and it upset me. But I know I made the right decision. They only ever brought chaos into my life. The void of not having parents is painful but I don't want them. It's been much more peaceful ever since.

I’ll spend my life healing and giving my children what I never had.

Becoming a mother made me realize how much I was neglected growing up.

My parents prioritized education, but my childhood was filled with instability, abuse, and domestic violence. I never missed them. As a child, I dreaded going home. I remember going to camp for a week and loving it, only because my best friend’s mom paid for my brother and me.

For most of my life, I thought how my brother and I were treated was normal. It wasn’t. They supported him in every way. They co signed his student loans, paid his full house down payment, and went on the mortgage with him. They invested in his hobbies (music, art, gaming). None of that was ever offered to me. I dropped out of school because I couldn’t afford it and went back on my own.

When I got divorced, they made it clear helping me would be a burden. I only lived with about 7 weeks and went into debt to get away from them. later on, I scraped all my pennies together bought a fixer upper home without them. It still wasn’t enough in my mom’s eyes. She was always asking when I'll be buying a bigger house etc.

When I was pregnant, they abandoned me. After that, I did everything to keep the peace. Even at nine months pregnant, I was running errands, giving rides, and doing admin work for my mom’s business. She would call me while on vacation pretending to check in, but really needing something, and I would drop everything.

I have always shown up for them.

I am now no contact. It started when I refused a last minute request, and they stopped speaking to me. It became clear that when I stopped being useful, the relationship ended. My dad called today, and it upset me. But I know I made the right decision. They only ever brought chaos into my life. The void of not having parents is painful but I don't want them. It's been much more peaceful ever since.

I’ll spend my life healing and giving my children what I never had.

Recently she has posted she went on a cruise and now she is going on vacation again.

So in the last couple of year; they got a new house, Tesla, she got a breville for Christmas, a piano for Christmas, a expensive camera for her birthday.

Lots and lots of trips. She use to be so so frugal.

So she is sort of living a pretty luxury lifestyle? She also is a SAHM and as someone who works in content creation I know she isn't making much from her content because she hasn't had a brand deal in years, I doubt the affiliate links earn her much and her views are pretty low. Her

I am just confused how all of this is possible? My ex husband use to earn like multiple 6 figures and we were definitely not living that large.