u/Excellent-Cap-7241

We’ve been dating for a few months, and it’s been a rollercoaster of ups and downs. She has feelings for me, but can’t get the intimacy and consistency right. She broke up with me after a week-long vacation and told me that this is her decision for now, and that she can’t put her finger on why she’s feeling this way. She even crie, which she has done so many times during this period.

I told her that we will probably never text or see each other again, and she just stayed silent. I just ended our three-hour-long phone call by texting her that she’s fantastic, and she said the same to me—that I’m a wonderful person.

I haven’t watched her stories or anything since then, but she has been watching mine.

How do I go on from here, do I ever break no contact or just let fade out if she never reaches out to me? It’s been almost one week now.

I’m just trying to make sense of my confusion. I recently broke up with someone I suspect is a fearful avoidant after five months of dating.
We had a very intense start; she initiated plans and always wanted to see me. I was more cautious and took my time. During that period, she asked me to take more initiative, which I did by trying to plan our dates. However, I quickly realized that this changed the dynamic—she felt more distant with each passing day. It became much harder to make plans, as she frequently came up with excuses.
Eventually, we ended up at my place for dinner. Everything seemed fine; she was very charming, and the evening went really well. A couple of days later, I asked if she had any plans for the weekend, and that’s when the real distance started to show. She didn’t respond for a couple of hours, and when she did, she was short and distant. This eventually led to a conversation about our situation, during which she confessed that she was seeing someone else, too. This triggered me, and I told her that she had to choose if she still wanted to be with me. She became very emotional and started crying. This led to another date where we decided to keep things casual and see what happens. Everything seemed fine, but at the end of the night, she didn't want to go home with me.
I grew tired of the situation and broke it off a few weeks later, as she had become distant again and didn’t want to meet up. Just three days after that, we broke the silence and went on another date. This time, I met her friends for the first time. She later told me that her friends really liked me, with one even commenting that we would have beautiful children. Despite this, she didn’t want to go home together at the end of the night. I told her I was fine with it, but she later admitted that something was "blocking" her, though she couldn't explain what it was.
A couple of weeks passed with the same push-and-pull dynamic. We met up just before she left for a week-long vacation, and she showed me her Tinder to prove that I was her only match and that she was only seeing me. I thought everything was fine, especially since she called me from the airport and even double-texted me a day or two into her trip. But by the third day, it was radio silence.

When she returned home, she broke up with me. She told me she couldn’t put her finger on why she was acting this way—that she really likes me, but her brain doesn’t feel the same as it did in "the beginning." So here I am: I understand the situation on some level, but I am still terribly confused. She cries, says she likes me, yet she still can’t allow herself to get closer.
I told her that we will probably never see each other again. I sent her a message saying that she is fantastic, and she replied saying the same about me, calling me a wonderful person. I am applying no contact now. Logically, I know that this "relationship" is not good for me, but emotionally, it’s still eating me up inside.

So what do I do, and what should I think? Open for insights 😊

I’m just trying to make sense of my confusion. I recently broke up with someone I suspect is a fearful avoidant after five months of dating.
We had a very intense start; she initiated plans and always wanted to see me. I was more cautious and took my time. During that period, she asked me to take more initiative, which I did by trying to plan our dates. However, I quickly realized that this changed the dynamic—she felt more distant with each passing day. It became much harder to make plans, as she frequently came up with excuses.
Eventually, we ended up at my place for dinner. Everything seemed fine; she was very charming, and the evening went really well. A couple of days later, I asked if she had any plans for the weekend, and that’s when the real distance started to show. She didn’t respond for a couple of hours, and when she did, she was short and distant. This eventually led to a conversation about our situation, during which she confessed that she was seeing someone else, too. This triggered me, and I told her that she had to choose if she still wanted to be with me. She became very emotional and started crying. This led to another date where we decided to keep things casual and see what happens. Everything seemed fine, but at the end of the night, she didn't want to go home with me.
I grew tired of the situation and broke it off a few weeks later, as she had become distant again and didn’t want to meet up. Just three days after that, we broke the silence and went on another date. This time, I met her friends for the first time. She later told me that her friends really liked me, with one even commenting that we would have beautiful children. Despite this, she didn’t want to go home together at the end of the night. I told her I was fine with it, but she later admitted that something was "blocking" her, though she couldn't explain what it was.
A couple of weeks passed with the same push-and-pull dynamic. We met up just before she left for a week-long vacation, and she showed me her Tinder to prove that I was her only match and that she was only seeing me. I thought everything was fine, especially since she called me from the airport and even double-texted me a day or two into her trip. But by the third day, it was radio silence.

When she returned home, she broke up with me. She told me she couldn’t put her finger on why she was acting this way—that she really likes me, but her brain doesn’t feel the same as it did in "the beginning." So here I am: I understand the situation on some level, but I am still terribly confused. She cries, says she likes me, yet she still can’t allow herself to get closer.
I told her that we will probably never see each other again. I sent her a message saying that she is fantastic, and she replied saying the same about me, calling me a wonderful person. I am applying no contact now. Logically, I know that this "relationship" is not good for me, but emotionally, it’s still eating me up inside.

So what do I do, and what should I think? Open for insights 😊