u/ExcitingIsland4052

My boyfriend (32) has 2 dui. I would not say that he considers them as a serious issue. Always mentioning jail time as if he was on a vacation. What is worse is that he drinks a lot. Almost daily, quite intensely. He does not get aggressive or anything but this kind of attitude concerns me a lot, makes me re-consider the relationship itself. Am I being over dramatic or that’s something really serious. What should be taken in consideration in future.

In addition to that, my father used to be an alcoholic. My mom abandoned him and my whole childhood I blamed her; He died alone in his sleep. Even though I did not know about my boyfriend’s drinking habits in the beginning, it has triggered everything I have ever felt. Now I want to save him.

Hey guys. I got ghosted twice and this one is killing me.

My first relationship ended really badly, before going to another country for my masters, me and my bf were talking to try a long distance relationship. As soon as I moved away, he got distant and shortly ghosted me. After 1 month of my last message he announced that he was getting married. It was one of the hardest thing to get over. He later tried to reconnect (despite the wife), telling me how stupid he was. I rejected him and eventually I moved on from him, because I realized that he was not a guy I thought he was.

It’s been a year, I have just started dating.matched a guy on a tinder. We were seeing each other for 2 months, we had conversations about what we were looking and it seemed like we were on the same page. We even celebrated his birthday together. Generally speaking he was very sweet and kind. Then he went on a family trip, slowly became distant and have not reached out ever since. Yesterday I saw him with other girl. We literally run into each other face to face and he acted like he did not even recognized me.

I texted how rude, disrespectful it was. He has not answered obviously. Now I feel horrible. I try to understand why this happened, what am I doing wrong. I don’t know how to get over this. He could just have told me that he was not interested anymore.

I don’t think that I will trust anyone ever again.

I was dating a guy almost 2 years ago, things got messy when I was preparing to leave the country for my masters. Eventually we were ok with long distance but he slowly ghosted me and after 1 month of our last contact, he got engaged. Later he reached out, telling me how dumb he was, I rejected him but It destroyed me. took me a while to start dating. 4 months ago I matched with a guy, who seemed very decent, kind and honest. We have talked and he made obvious that he wanted to have a serious relationship. He went on a trip to his childhood town, he hot distanced and he GHOSTED ME as well. I saw him today with a girl, we run into each other in the street and he has not even said hello to me. I was and am in a shock. Can’t really process all that. I think there is something seriously wrong with me.

I texted him that whatever he did, was very disrespectful and disgusting. He has not answered but I am starting no contact. Even though I don’t plan anything with that guy anymore (even if he comes back) I now have serious trust issues. I don’t know how I will trust anyone ever again. Because I did this time and look what happened :)