u/Exciting_Being_1090

So, I'm moving to my hometown next week, and I got my own flat! And I'm really excited! However im moving one week earlier than I told my family.

for some context here! My parents and I are not very close; they're quite petty and unnecessarily judgmental to a point, 'big days' are made 10x more stressful for me!

I can go into a lot more detail, but basically, I just want to move with less stress. Also, they're quite adamant about picking up their keys, which I have a gut feeling is not to be helpful, and they're just going to get a key cut without my knowledge!

I feel super bad as I booked tickets already for next sat! They think I've booked it for the week after that; im thinking of staging it as a surprise, but I think one of my parents has booked the day of work.

I feel like an A-hole because I could tell them, but I don't want to!

So, I'm moving to my hometown next week, and I got my own flat! And I'm really excited! However im moving one week earlier than I told my family.

for some context here! My parents and I are not very close; they're quite petty and unnecessarily judgmental to a point, 'big days' are made 10x more stressful for me!

I can go into a lot more detail, but basically, I just want to move with less stress. Also, they're quite adamant about picking up their keys, which I have a gut feeling is not to be helpful, and they're just going to get a key cut without my knowledge!

I feel super bad as I booked tickets already for next sat! They think I've booked it for the week after that; im thinking of staging it as a surprise, but I think one of my parents has booked the day of work.

I feel like an A-hole because I could tell them, but I don't want to!

(I found out not too long ago, so please be kind im very upset)

On Monday, my bf confessed to kissing a girl at a bar (briefly) before pulling away he was heavily under the influence, so i said I'd forgive him, i was upset, but she kissed him, and he pulled away so I wasn't that mad.

Until now, he's remembered more about what happened (context he was drinking 1pm to 4 pm so that's a lot) he said he went back to her flat..They kissed and did things briefly (didnt sleep together) he realised what he did, then left without saying a word. He doesn't know her name and can't even remember what she looks like

We've been together 8 months and we've never had issues until now exept from his drinking issues, i always worried about this happening, and now it has. He's promised to stop and get help

i said id forgive him...but im heartbroken, and i just don't know if i can deal with it, i dont know how we can work on things, i see him this weekend, so i only have 1 day - i have no idea what to say to him

i just don't know what to do right now and would really appreciate anyone elses opinions on this situation and would be very appreciative of any advice

again this is not made so people can slate him, i just need advise so please be kind

On Monday i found out my boyfriend kissed a girl at a bar whilst very, very drunk...i told him ill forgive him since it was very brief as (she kissed him and he pulled away) however hes told me today (Thursday) he had gone to her flat for more drinks, and they ended up doing some more..things (they didn't sleep together). He told me he left without saying anything after realising what he'd done. He doesn't remember what she looks like, her name ect and she's literally a stranger

He struggles with a lot of other issues (not like that makes it better), but i want to try to work on our relationship and forgive him..I don't know how to?

i know it's against the guidelines to vent so I won't but please be kind i found out not very long ago..so take that as you will

thank you for reading and I appreciate your advise

EDIT: i understand people might have an issue with the age gap, fully understandable your entitled to your own opinion! However, please refrain from being nasty, as no one who has just been cheated on whats to hear that. Thanks