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I’m 24 and currently working. I’m a very private person, and I don’t like sharing my personal goals, plans, or ambitions with anyone—not even my family. My father has always insisted that I should share my goals with him, but instead of supporting me, he often lectures me and says things like, “You won’t achieve anything in life.” So naturally, I stopped wanting to share things with him.

Recently, my mother asked about my salary. I told her, and I genuinely didn’t mind her knowing. She told my father, and honestly, I didn’t care about that either.

The problem started when I found out that my father discusses my salary, routine, and other personal details with my two married sisters. Again, I wouldn’t even care if it stayed between them…but my sisters apparently tell their husbands almost everything about my life.

That’s what really pisses me off.

I don’t understand why my personal life needs to become a discussion topic for people who aren’t even directly involved in it.
My sisters husband are in their mid 30s, and somehow they constantly compare their lives with mine. I’m in my 20s. I bought a Mehran a while ago, and they made comments like, “Is car mein kya hai, is car mein aura minus hoga.”

The funny part is that when they were my age, they didn’t even have their own bikes. I’m not saying this to insult them..I genuinely don’t care what they have or don’t have. Alhamdulillah, I’m financially doing better than they were at my age, and I’m grateful for that.

What bothers me is the constant comparison.
They also talk about how my father has given me everything and how their wife (my sister) have a share in his property and all that. And honestly, I don’t care. From my side, my father can give everything to my sisters. I have absolutely no issue with that.

My problem is their husbands and the energy they bring into these conversations.
My father really likes my sisters’ husbands, which I understand. They’re attached to our family, and obviously a father would probably like seeing his daughters remain close to their parents after marriage.

But personally, I don’t want my life to be discussed with anyone outside my immediate family.
I’m not hiding anything illegal or embarrassing. I simply believe that my salary, routine, goals, plans, finances, and personal life are mine to share when I choose.
Am I being unreasonable for feeling this way, or is this a completely normal boundary to want?

What’s a gift you’d genuinely love to receive from your fiancé/bf/husband but would probably never ask for directly? It can be something simple, meaningful, expensive, or completely unexpected.
Girls, what gift would make you think, “Damn, he really knows me”?

What’s the best advice someone gave you that you actually followed and that completely transformed your hair..made it thicker, healthier, or improved hair growth?

Looking for advice from guys who’ve actually seen results. What worked for you?

What do you all usually do on weekends? Anything special, or is it mostly just sleeping and recovering from the week?

I usually play football and spend the rest of the weekend catching up on sleep. Basically, football + neend puri.

I bought a used iPhone 13 about two weeks ago. When I purchased it, the battery health was 90%, but now it’s showing 89%.
I don’t even use the phone that much, so I’m a bit confused. Does this mean the battery was boosted or recalibrated when I bought it, or is a 1% drop in two weeks normal for a used iPhone?
This is my first iPhone, so I’m still learning how everything works. I’d appreciate hearing from people who’ve experienced something similar.

I recently bought my first iPhone (an iPhone 13) from a friend. It has 90% battery health, and I’m really enjoying the experience so far.

There’s an update available (iOS 26.6), but I’m hesitant to install it because I’ve heard people say updates can cause faster battery drain, lag, or make the phone slower overall.

Is that actually true, or is it mostly exaggerated? For those using an iPhone 13, how has your experience been after updating? Would you recommend updating, or should I stay on my current version?
I’d appreciate any advice since I’m new to the Apple ecosystem.

I’m a recent Mechanical Engineering graduate, and I’d like to know which technical skills I should focus on to build a strong foundation for my career. What skills have helped you the most in the industry, and what would you recommend I master early on?

I’m 24M and I want to start taking better care of myself. What are some grooming or self-improvement tips every guy should know?
I’m looking for practical advice on skincare, hair, beard, dressing better, fitness, smelling good, confidence, or any small habits that made a big difference.
What’s one tip you wish you knew in your early 20s?

Just wanted to share this so maybe someone can avoid ending up in a situation like this.

A girl messaged me on Instagram. Long story short, she had been in a relationship with one of my friends for about 6–7 years. Uni mein graduation b sath mein ki…It was the typical teenage “nibba nibbi” love story. Eventually, his family refused to accept the marriage proposal, and instead of handling it properly, the guy blocked her everywhere. Btw he is not one of my close friends.

The girl was completely heartbroken. She even said that if he ever got engaged to his cousin in the future, she would send all of their chats to his future wife. 😭 She also admitted that they had been physically involved and that she still had their private photos and videos. 😭
Seriously, what a mess.

Jokes aside, this is exactly why you shouldn’t get into a relationship with someone you know you probably can’t marry. And if you’re Muslim, don’t get physically involved before marriage either. Breakups are painful enough without adding lifelong regrets, private photos, or blackmail into the mix.
Protect your future spouse, protect yourself, and think long-term instead of just living in the moment.

Anyway, that’s just my opinion. Live your life however you want.

Ok i just want to share something like want to know girl thinking bcz iam engaged and really want to know girl philosophy plz help me can’t share it here, dm me (girl) and paka promise koi creep baat nhi bs opinion lena hai kisi larki ka can’t share it with my male friends isliye ider unknown ka opinion chaiye.

When a marriage proposal (rishta) comes your way, what physical traits do you notice first? I know personality, character, values, and compatibility matter a lot, but realistically, you can’t judge those after just one or two meetings. Physical appearance is usually the first thing people notice.

So, if you could answer anonymously and be completely honest:
How important are looks?
Is height a big factor? If so, what height is “enough” for you?
How much does a man’s financial status or career matter?
What physical features make someone attractive or unattractive to you?

No need to sugarcoat your answers I’d genuinely like to know what women think when it comes to first impressions in the rishta process.