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I have an extremely poor self-worth. I have self-love, but my self-worth is the worst. It's so low, that I don't even believe that I deserve to have a good self-worth. I don't talk to myself nicely because I don't believe that I deserve that, so positive affirmations have not worked for me. I take good care of myself physically and I have strict routines, so that is not an issue. The issue is that I don't believe that I deserve good things and don't accept myself as I am and I people-please constantly. How did you fix your poor self-worth?

I have an extremely poor self-worth. I have self-love, but my self-worth is the worst. It's so low, that I don't even believe that I deserve to have a good self-worth. I don't talk to myself nicely because I don't believe that I deserve that, so positive affirmations have not worked for me. I take good care of myself physically and I have strict routines, so that is not an issue. The issue is that I don't believe that I deserve good things and don't accept myself as I am. How did you fix your poor self-worth?

I'm in a weird stage in my life right now. I'm coming out of depression, I can feel my energy shifting and I've been happier and having a completely new self-image. Here's the problem: I've only EVER known myself as a self-saboteur. That has literally been my whole identity for years.

I'm a former addict and after that I used to be in a physically abusive relationship and then I traumatized myself by constantly saying mean curse words in my head everyday and degrading myself and thinking violent thoughts on purpose which was extremely upsetting. My childhood wasn't exactly happy either. It's no wonder I was depressed.

Now I'm coming out of all of that and all of the sudden I can see that I am this really great person and a high achiever with many hidden talents and an amazing ability to build my dream life. What the hell am I doing??? I've only ever known self-sabotage, how do I start building my life after all of this? Please help!

I'm in a weird stage in my life right now. I'm coming out of depression, I can feel my energy shifting and I've been happier and having a completely new self-image. Here's the problem: I've only EVER known myself as a self-saboteur. That has literally been my whole identity for years.

I'm a former addict and after that I used to be in a physically abusive relationship and then I traumatized myself by constantly saying mean curse words in my head everyday and degrading myself and thinking violent thoughts on purpose, saying things like "you should k*** yourself" to myself which was extremely upsetting. My childhood wasn't exactly happy either. It's no wonder I was depressed.

Now I'm coming out of all of that and all of the sudden I can see that I am this really great person and a high achiever with many hidden talents and an amazing ability to build my dream life. What the hell am I doing??? I've only ever known self-sabotage, how do I start building my life after all of this? Please help!

I'm in a situation where I will most likely need to move to France in two years. Can I go from A1 to B2 in two years? I know it's an ambitious goal, but is it at all possible? I'm from Finland and the pronunciation is so difficult for me!

I have a terrible fear of cancer. The physical pain that comes with it sounds unbearable and I would definitely become suicidal if I had chronic pain in my life. I can't help but wonder how have cancer survivors made it. What was keeping you alive during the chronic pain? How can you live like that? You are the real survivors in life I'm in awe. People really survive for the scariest things. Tell me your stories.

I went to buy 4 protein bars, each of them costs 3 euros. I went to the self-service checkout and just didn't pay for one of the bars. I pretended to read the bar code but it didn't beep - so the machine didn't register the bar code and there was no payment. No one noticed anything and I went home.

I'm a grown woman (I turn 29 in two months) and I haven't shoplifted since I was in my early twenties and used to be a wild party-princess who didn't really care about the rules. These days I do care about the rules and usually never do anything to break them. I'm a student and use my student loan and salary to pay the bills, I go to work a few times a week, I'm not rich by any means but I got a roof over my head and food on the table.

I don't feel particularly bad for my mischievous action but I probably wouldn't do it again. The reason for my wrongdoing remains unknown to me.

I have now seen on multiple conversations that people say that they've been taking sleeping pills like Zopiclone or Zolpidem for many years and I'm wondering how is that possible? Where do you guys live?? In my country (Finland) doctors don't prescribe sleeping pills for more than 4 weeks at a time because they are highly addictive. What kind of health care system does your country have if you are able to take sleeping pills for years? I'm genuinely curious.

So due to insomnia I have almost completely lost my ability to sleep and I stay awake the whole night 2-3 times a week. After one night of not sleeping, I get sleep the next night. On the third night I take my sleeping pills and sleep well. I cannot take them everyday due to tolerance. How dangerous is my situation, especially in the long run?

I 28 years old and I regret almost all of my choices in life. I mainly regret 2 things in life:

- not taking the chance to be happy when I had it, I have always chosen the path that leads to more destruction or unhappiness for myself

- not committing to anything, such as playing the piano, learning French or going to college

These are my two biggest regrets in life. If I had committed to something, I could be actually GOOD at something by now. I've always wanted to play the piano and learn French, but I never started doing those things so because of the lack of commitment I cannot say that I'm good at many things in life. How can I move forward in life? My past choices really haunt me. Now because of my past choices I have end up depressed in life and I feel really stuck.

Note: my regret is NOT about things that I have said/done to other people, I don't have those kinds of regrets at all