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145 lb side sleeper male. Got a Queen size Somos Signature Adjustable Base along with my new Helix Midnight Luxe. For many years I had a regular box spring with my old full size mattress before this big upgrade. So this was a big change between the size, the foundation and the mattress. Ever since this new setup I haven't had many nice restful sleeps at all. I always tend to wake too early after 5 hours of sleep or so. Crazy thing was that the mattress itself always felt super comfortable to me when laying down, though there was a bit of a "stiffness" I'd say, when sleeping long term and I'd feel it when waking up in the middle of the night or too early, etc. It should also be noted that I really dont use the base as far as changing it around. I sleep flat.

Finally a lightbulb went off and I realized it could have been the super flat foundation, something I obviously never slept on beforehand considering I had a box spring. I put the mattress on the floor and suddenly it just felt, well, comfier? The thing is though, I ended up sleeping better there for multiple nights in a row! I did some reading and it turns out I'm not crazy. Between the six legs, the metal parts under the base and the hinges as well, that certain pressure points can be created under load, and I may just be sensitive to that.

Anyone else (or any other side sleepers) ever realize that the adjustable base wasn't a good fit for them? Now I'm stuck wondering if I should pay $350 for Helix's foundation, which is basically the slats that are set 3.5 inches apart. The slats and foundation itself seems very legit and not the cheaper looking ones that you may find on Amazon.

2017 Honda Civic 96k miles. Everything else after the new struts has felt smooth, for the most part, but when the car takes a significant dip, whether a deep pothole, or coming out of or pulling into my driveway (where there is a slight bump), its an awful unpleasant thud sound. Kind of a deep tone to it. This does not happen while going over basic cracks and imperfections in the road. It has to be something with depth.

So, I had my driver side strut only replaced under warrantee. Mavis, who did the work, decided that it must be something faulty in the strut. After the replacement, same exact sound. No change. So now, it's not the strut?? But the issue began following the original work.

What could this be now? Remember it only began after the strut job, so I'm hesitant to even think about anything else such as a sway bar or whatever else. Between the new struts, new front brakes, rotors, new front tires, oil change, wheel alignment and right side engine mount that was bad, I'm out close to two grand in maintenance for a car that I planned to now ride out for a good few more years since its obviously paid off. Now it's not fun to drive anymore as it feels unstable whenever I go over rough bumps. Any advice would be appreciated.

41M Nyc. Always had a bit of a closeted side only in that it was isolated to just liking dicks, as odd as that may sound. Occasionally watched gay porn but probably only 2% of the time. Truly never really felt any real attraction to men or their bodies in general. My attraction to women however, it should be noted, was always towards more dominant leaning ones. Suddenly though, after a recent tough rejection by a woman, I began giving men a little more of a "try" and in the span of just a few weeks, have had a huge, huge growth of interest. Now it's no longer just dicks, but admiration for their bodies, legs, faces, bulges, and especially asses, etc. I'm also searching for and swiping right on men on a daily basis on dating apps (though in private mode which I have to pay for) which I'd never do before a few weeks ago bc I feel more serious now about meeting a guy for a date, though in a private spot as I still consider myself very closeted. Everyday now I'm basically daydreaming about having sex with a guy for the first time.

In addition to all of this, I've also been watching gay porn about 90% of the time. It's an overall feeling of excitement in me, but at the same time, significant confusion. Anyone out there that can explain what may be going on and not in simple terms? I've struggled with dating women a lot of my life. I'm not the most masculine guy which has always been a challenge. But really it's been like a light switch as far as my sudden attraction to men. I'm still into women, but in a weird way, maybe just bc of the current moment I'm in, I feel they are taking a huge backseat to men.

41M. Big step for me. Still closeted, only been with a few guys but never any penetration. I am mostly straight but am turned on by a nice dick. I'm at a point where I would definitely top a nice guy if the opportunity was there. So one guy introduces himself to me at the bar (Julius), we got to talking. Actually got to some really nice conversation for close to a half hour with some light touching. He eventually implies that he'd like to take me back to his place but I tell him I'm only up for oral. He then tells me he wants to top me and I tell him I'm not really a bottom. This was obviously a turn off for him and we soon parted ways.

I'm curious, since I'm new to this "scene", is there usually a protocol when engaging in conversation with another guy about tops/bottoms? All I told him is that I don't have much experience and that this was all relatively new to me. He did look somewhat masc but I wasn't about to say hey maybe we shouldn't talk lol. I had this idea in my head that he'd at least be into getting oral from me if it came to it. So overall, not a great first experience at a bar

I'm arriving in AC next week and originally was dead set on circuit 2, but now given the new situation with the tickets, instead of hanging around AC for an extra day or two, I am open to taking circuits 1B and 3B if they are available at the time I arrive instead.

My question is, let's say I get 1B and 3B both for 10am. Is that possible to enter for both at one time? Or does it have to be a later time for one? If they do have to be separate, how much time does it take to leave one circuit and re-enter another?

Was excited to possibly lease a new 2026 Rav4 here in NY for the advertised $399 a month with first months payment down, though surprisingly they didn't have a single Rav4 to test drive on the lot as apparently there is some sort of production issue happening behind the scenes and any Rav4 that comes in is reserved to be sold. Strange. Anyway I asked about the ball park for lease numbers which are listed on their website. Long story short between first months payment, tax, title, DMV fees, and a mind-blowing $750 "bank fee" (wtf?), it ends up being about $3500 down

I am curious what this "bank fee" is and also wondering how tax is calculated for a 36 month lease. Thanks in advance

Looking for help in this great community. I’ve been an occasional service sub for a woman for a few months. In those few months I’ve served her about 6 times. Cleaning, laundry, help with her car, moving boxes, returning items, etc. I wasn’t ever perfect but she really appreciated the service and was thankful.

Recently I messed up a few things and she got mad and we both sort of decided that we would mutually end the arrangement. It seemed to end peacefully. Suddenly though, the next day she messaged me accusing me of damaging something in her home while cleaning the last time I was there a few days earlier. I told her I did not even touch this item. She began berating me and verbally attacking me. I told her I twice how I am now uncomfortable and to please stop. She refused saying she “dont give a fuck that you’re asking me to stop”. She told me the item that was “damaged” was sentimental and this is extremely upsetting to her. She also accused me of throwing part of the item out. I told her I absolutely did not and would never do that.

I feel like I may be being set up for extortion now, as she has a whole history of texts from me with many intimate things about me. She also knows my name and address. She does not know where I work. She’s always had a bit of a minor attitude , but I am in shock over these turn of events. I am desperately seeking advice now as it is clear I am dealing with someone who may be uncontrollable and damaged. Never trusting anyone again with my information. As of right now the conversation has stopped for the moment. Anxiety currently through the roof.

I am doing a repost of this thread as I foolishly deleted it after thousands of views and many comments of support after I was contacted by a rep from Helix who nicely explained that if I contact their customer support, they would be able to assist me and figure out a solution. Pleasantly surprised, I removed the thread before contacting Helix as I felt a bit bad about the post already. Now though, I am leaving this up for everyone to see and will not be removing it again as Helix's support said they could not help me as I didn't buy the mattress directly from their site. I pleaded with them but was still turned down.

The thing is, long story short, mattress shopping has been hell for me and I did TWO exchanges with a mattress retailer (nightmarish couple of months) before landing on what I felt was finally the perfect mattress. Not too soft, not too firm. The somewhat luxurious Helix Midnight Luxe for a whopping $1800 out the door(discounted price there, by the way) and my absolutely final exchange. Shelling out all that cash and looking at the Midnight Luxe as what I felt was a solid high end mattress is what made me feel confident.

After just two weeks or so however, I began noticing a dip by my hips. This is the same type of thing I noticed in a previous mattress as well, after just a few weeks. Welcome to the modern day mattress world, I suppose. Not too long after this realization of the dip though, it got worse. We are talking a borderline complete lack of support in that area now. I moved to the other side of the mattress and it was like paradise again. Full support the way it should be. It is also at a point now where I can push down about halfway into the entire 13.5 inch mattress at the hip area, which shows a dramatic breakdown of support in such a short timeframe. Mind you I am a thin guy at only 140 lbs. Basically, the mattress is overrated and must not be great quality after all. A surreal thing for a mattress that retails for over TWO GRAND. I would advise anyone looking at this mattress to think long and hard before you shell out big money.

They don't make mattresses like they used to and today it seems like many companies just rely on strong marketing. I was never fully against a "bed in a box" but now I will stick to something else. I cannot go back to the retailer I purchased this from as I was told this was my very last mattress exchange which I totally understood.

I've had this mattress for 2.5 weeks and it's been amazing so far, but the last couple of nights I've noticed that my hip is sagging a bit. When I move over to the other side where I've yet to sleep on, the mattress feels firm again and my body/hip is fully supported. Is this just normal "break in" or is this $1800 mattress already starting to sag after just 2.5 weeks?