u/ExplorerEuphoric9852

I’m a 30M straight guy really struggling in the dating world. Between dating app fatigue, meeting women who don’t want to settle down and just the general awkwardness/breakdown of meeting people in real life, I have been feeling so frustrated lately.

My Instagram and YouTube feeds have become full of “dating” advice videos or videos such as
- Why do men not approach anymore
- Women’s standards are too high
- Why are men not going to dating events
- Why women don’t think logically (and how to manipulate them)

I know it’s all bullshit, but part of me kind of likes it because I think it validates my frustration and resolves me of blame.

I want to be a chivalrous gentleman out there in the wild.

How can I completely detach from this bs online and be more confident out in public?

For everyone, as a 30M I tried not using the apps for at least 18 months of the last 2 years, I got maybe 3 dates in that period (made 2 friends, 1 who ghosted me..)

During my time on the apps over a 6 month period (2/3 months here and there), I had significantly way more dates.

I tried meeting women at the gym, singles events, pickleball, farmers markets - anything I am interested in! But I always (well, generally) felt women are either just not there, headphones on and not wanting to be distracted or in a big group of friends and unapproachable.

Honestly, a lot of rejection and putting myself out there was exhausting (not about fear of rejection) - so for now I am sticking with the apps, even if they suck.

Ladies, I’d love to charm you in person but you just seem all closed off.. please help a guy looking for love

Question for other men: Do you think the effort of meeting someone in real life is worth it?

Question for women: What places are you looking to meet guys at? How should we approach if you’re with a group of friends? Do you think men are approaching more than say 3 years ago?

Is there any rowing clubs or rowing groups/socials here in San Diego?
I am M 30 and enjoy rowing in the gym, would love to do it with other guys

The general theme of this page is so negative I feel, I’m 30 M and single - of course I find it difficult too, but wallowing in misery doesn’t help anyone.

Men - please say something positive or constructive or just what you’d like them to know for any women struggling in the current dating environment.

P.S. If you’re going to leave a negative comment - put the phone down and go outside brother 😘

I’ll start: If you’re a single woman reading this, trust me when I tell you there is a man out there who hasn’t met you yet and when you finally do, he’ll be wondering where you were all his life. Keep your head up and don’t lose faith