Edited: He ghosted me, and months later his other girlfriend accidentally exposed his double life
Edited!!
I’m still processing everything that happened yesterday honestly. My hands were shaking while writing this.
He pursued me first. Asked me to be his girlfriend. Looked me dead in the eye and asked if I was seeing anyone else while he was already talking to another girl.
We started talking around the end of summer and were official a couple months later. I genuinely thought it was real.
Then a few months in, everything changed. He lost his job, got distant, stopped texting as much, stopped showing up for me emotionally. I asked him directly if he wanted to break up and he said no.
Then one day I realized I had been blocked everywhere.
No conversation. No explanation. Just gone.
I never blocked him back because part of me kept waiting for an apology that never came.
Yesterday another girl messaged me.
At first I almost ignored it, but I’m really glad I didn’t.
She told me my name kept coming up and his stories about me weren’t making sense. Apparently she saw my username in his search history because he had been stalking my socials.
I thought maybe they got together after we ended.
Nope.
He had been dating both of us at the same time basically our entire relationship.
While he was telling me he was broke and stressed about money, he was paying for trips and dates with her constantly. Christmas lights in December. Galveston for Valentine’s Day. Miami after that. Never letting her spend money.
Meanwhile I was seeing him once a week after classes because I live an hour away from school and he lived closer to my hometown, so Thursdays made the most sense since I had less classes. Looking back now, I realized that was probably intentional too.
He basically scheduled me into one day a week so he could keep the rest of his time open.
And before people twist this, no, he didn’t force me to split costs with him. I believe in 50/50 and genuinely thought I was helping someone who was struggling after losing his job.
He did take me out too. But hearing how differently he treated both relationships definitely hurt.
It gets worse though.
He told her I was just some random girl from work.
He told me she was his female best friend.
He literally used pictures of us as cover stories for each other. We were basically each other’s alibis without even knowing it.
He faked being sick to stop me from coming over. One time I literally drove all the way near his neighborhood because I was worried about him and he called telling me not to come because he was “too sick” to see me.
I turned around and drove home.
Apparently he had multiple phones too. He used one to call me every single night while she existed.
The thing that honestly chills me the most is how much he used to talk about hating cheaters. He constantly judged his dad for cheating and talked about how badly it affected his family.
Meanwhile he was doing the exact same thing.
I’m honestly not angry at her. We talked for hours and compared stories. We were both being lied to by someone who got really good at manipulation.
I think what hurts the most is that I already grieved this relationship once. I already cried over it. Blamed myself for it. Started moving on.
Then I found out none of it was even real in the first place.
When we first started talking, I remember telling him the most important thing to me was trust.
Funny how that turned out.
I genuinely don’t even know how to process finding out someone was living an entirely different life behind my back.