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Does anyone else feel as if The cure by Olivia Rodrigo is so relatable with how they feel when in a relationship?

Lines like “head is full of poison” and “why can’t it ever be enough” are just so relatable. It feels like when you can see someone trying so hard to reassure you but it never being enough. It’s like how your head pushes all these poison thoughts to sabotage.

And the fact that their love will never be the cure to your disorder. Just listening to it really struck me.

First of all, I have bpd. Shock. 

This is why at the beginning I tried so hard to push you away because I was worried I would snap back into the my old habits. I had always been in denial that I had it but now I know. 

I feel emotions so intensely. Which is why one sudden change can make me split, think only in black and white and think that you hated me. During the entire first week after we broke up, I had no control over myself. I’m so self aware but I can’t stop it. It’s so hard and so frustrating. I could see it destructing everything, and I couldn’t do anything about it. 

I can see you so deeply and so much clearer than you will ever know. Yes I could see you were fucking me around for a bit for her but I chose to ignore it cus I could see you. I’m not dumb, I’m empathetic. 

I know you’re trapped inside yourself. You’re probably sitting there thinking god she’s fucking crazy but deep down we both know. And maybe you don’t even realise it now but I hope one day you do. I hope one day you are able to live the life as the person you really are and have the life you actually want and deserve. 

I hope when the day comes, you realise I am here for you. Not in that way, but in a supportive, empathetic way. You remind me so much of a boy I used to know, who is trapped the same way you are. It’s why I could never hate you. The empathy I have is too strong. 

I really hope one day you see it and you can free yourself. You may be happy right now, but deep down I see the real you, even if you don’t wanna believe it. Please live the life you desperately want. 

Hey yall, I (20F) and my ex-bf (21M) only dated from November to March but had a really deep connection and were somehow in love. We had both had bad partners in the past so were infatuated with each other. Or so I thought.

After 4 months, his avoidance started to really show, and after a lot of harsh, cold and silent behaviour, I decided to end it. A week later we met up and talked about a lot of things. I asked him about a girl he was friends with (19F), from his uni. He always told me that guys are only friends with they wanna get with. He told me, however, he was not interested and that she was ugly. He continued the same story at this post breakup meeting. There were signs though, with her reposting things relating to him, following each others private accounts and even texting her in front of me.

I saw him a week later when he turned up at my house at 3am begging for me back. I told him he just wanted to have sex with me and that was fine. He denied it said he really wanted to make this work and he was sorry. We had sex (I know) and he told me he would text me to sort out a date to meet up and fully discuss it. As expected, I heard nothing. A week later he texted me telling me it was a mistake, we shouldn’t talk anymore and he was in a bad headspace.

2 weeks later, he hard launched with this girl while on holiday together. I messaged him saying he was a cheater and a liar and that there was no way he called me crazy for suspected her. Bit much, I know, but I felt the need to get it out. A week later our mutual friend tried to hang out with, secretly with my ex-bf in the car. I declined.

Fast forward 3 weeks later to tonight. Our mutual friend got me and my friend to pick up from the bar. My ex-bf hopped in the car too. I was never informed he was there or coming. He tried to play nice and act all smiley. As he hopped outta the car, he leaned and whispered in my ear “and if we’re being honest, you were right about her”. What the fuck.

So now I’m sitting here wondering what to do. Do I text her and tell her that he cheated with her and lied to me about it all? Or do I just let karma do the work?

I have a feeling she would just block me, and he’s also now telling people that we never dated. However, I feel guilty just sitting here and seeing her clueless. Also, I somehow still love him and feel empathy for him as he always told me the extreme pressure he was under in his community to find a girl also part of it, which she is. I know I shouldn’t feel bad for someone who still chose to do this.

So, what should I do?

Me and my ex broke up, then 6 weeks later he hard launched his new gf, 3 weeks into their relationship. Is it real? I’m just so confused how you even get to that stage so quickly. Like obviously he would like her more than me to do that, but she’s also a girl that is part of his religion and culture so something that his family and friends would approve. That was part of the reason we broke up, the fact that he didn’t think it could work because of the cultural difference.

So basically my question is, is it real or would it just be also partly a rebound to get over me?

I’m mostly moved on (not fully obviously) as it’s been 2 months and seeing myself be replaced that quickly with zero communication and ghosting on his end was just not acceptable.