u/Fearless-Spite-6413

basically, the title.

my roommate (19f) has been dating her current boyfriend since the summer before our freshman year of college, which makes their relationship 1 year this summer.

her boyfriend is a year younger than us, and half way across the country (they went to high school together). he applied to the same school as us, got in, and immediately accepted his offer.

he got into WAY better schools for his major. my roommate go to a top school for our major, and our school is known for being really good at comp sci/engineering. not health sciences. he is a psych major, and turned down top schools for psych undergrad to attend the same school as his gf, my roommate.

the thing is… she has been emotionally cheating on him basically the entire time, with a guy that she liked for years right before she started dating her current boyfriend. she cried abt this guy every night, even quoting the song “pushing it down and praying” — saying that her current boyfriend is stable but the other guy is deep. ouch. my roommate even stated that she’d be fine marrying her current bf, but would be really upset if that other guy married someone who wasn’t her.

this other guy isn’t oblivious to this either, he constantly flirts/sends mixed signals to her and leads her on. and she continued to play into it, even though her bf was right there. she admitted to me and my bf that she still likes this guy, even though her bf deadass committed to this school just for her :/

should i have told her bf about this? all my friends said they definitely would’ve, but i’m not sure if it was my place to :(

hey guys i got a twin xl topper for last year. i got a furnished apt for next yr with a full bed and was wondering what i could do with my topper🫩 it was so expensive and i dont want to throw it away💔 could i still use it on my full or would it fit that weirdly😭

is there any alternatives? thanks all

hey all. i got alternate housing and submitted a special release request from a dorm in hawkins in 26-27. how likely do y’all think it’ll get approved? def can’t afford that housing option right now as i switched out to live with a family member due to sudden financial circumstances. thanks all!

i (19f) have been in a relationship with my boyfriend (19m) for the past 5 months. we’ve had our normal disagreements, but we had one truly significant rough patch early march. i don’t want to say too much about it, but it was in regards to events in his past and it honestly made me question his character, intentions, and challenged my trust in him.
the thing is, i thought we moved past it, we’ve had countless of conversations working it through and i don’t even think abt what happened back in march anymore. but i realized that ive become just become more and more insecure the longer we’ve been dating.
i feel like before entering our relationship and early on into it, i had a very secure mindset and attachment style. i was fine being on my own, trusted my bf wholeheartedly, and felt more stable, secure with myself and him, and happy overall.
i dont want to blame it on that one event back in march. maybe i just felt insecure already and that rough patch js made it come to light, but again its hard for me to accept that bc i know how i felt and my mindset before entering the relationship.
im not sure where to go from here. i know it gets exhausting for my partner to constantly ask to be reassured and to have many emotional conversations. i just feel really bad knowing i went from being a secure partner for him to just an insecure and anxious one.

how can i become more secure again and less anxious? i felt like i didn’t need reassurance before everything happened- and now i feel like i need it a lot.

i (19f) have been in a relationship with my boyfriend (19m) for the past 5 months. we’ve had our normal disagreements, but we had one truly significant rough patch early march. i don’t want to say too much about it, but it was in regards to events in his past and it honestly made me question his character, intentions, and challenged my trust in him.
the thing is, i thought we moved past it, we’ve had countless of conversations working it through and i don’t even think abt what happened back in march anymore. but i realized that ive become just become more and more insecure the longer we’ve been dating.
i feel like before entering our relationship and early on into it, i had a very secure mindset and attachment style. i was fine being on my own, trusted my bf wholeheartedly, and felt more stable, secure with myself and him, and happy overall.
i dont want to blame it on that one event back in march. maybe i just felt insecure already and that rough patch js made it come to light, but again its hard for me to accept that bc i know how i felt and my mindset before entering the relationship.
im not sure where to go from here. i know it gets exhausting for my partner to constantly ask to be reassured and to have many emotional conversations. i just feel really bad knowing i went from being a secure partner for him to just an insecure and anxious one.

how can i become more secure again and less anxious? i felt like i didn’t need reassurance before everything happened- and now i feel like i need it a lot.