u/Fearless_Guess_7381

Last year, I spent 6 months off work due to bereavement leave after losing a child. I work part time (3 days), and so my WIO requirement is 1 day a week (2 days for the FT guys). My issue arises due to the following:

1. the FT guys barely do 2 days a week, sometimes 1 if at all.

2. And the absolutely thing that irks me is that for the 6 months I was off work I didn’t get sick ONCE. I went into the office two weeks ago. Some tosser sitting next to me was coughing and Lo and behold the next day myself and another colleague end up sick. I have been miserable for 2 weeks of sickness now with high fevers. Iv had to take unpaid leave due to no sick leave left.

Is it reasonably to discuss this my manager? He is really great, but will it actually achieve anything since there seems to be this ridiculous push to return to office?

NOTE- I get sick very easily and catch everything. There is someone who has not been in the office in my team for over a year due to an apparent autoimmune condition (yet said colleague has been to trips to Bali and Melbourne in the last year) but can’t come to the office. So I feel pissed that I am expected to keep going in, risking my health, while another colleague gets away with it!

So my husband and I both work in corporate. I am part time ( 3 days a week) and he is FT. Combined monthly income after tax etc is $14k. We have a young school aged child. Expenses have been divided as follows:

- When I get paid (roughly $2100 in hand a fortnight) I transfer him $800 as extra money for the mortgage. The remainder of “my” pay ($1300) covers groceries for the fortnight and any personal expenses I may have. The only regular expense I have for me is $30 monthly phone bill.

- He covers all bills (extra mortgage payments, health insurance, fuel, bills, car insurance and council rates). Basically mortgage and all bills. He also covers school fees for our child (note- our child is in an independent school so no crazy fees, maybe around $6-$7k a year inclusive).

Does the above arrangement seem reasonable? Any ways to improve? How much (if any) should I be saving from the $1300 leftover after the extra mortgage contribution? (noting how damn expensive groceries are).

TIA!

Hi. I am 38. We had success on our first round of IVF in 2019 and welcomed our gorgeous child the following year .

In 2024, we decided to do another FET. We tested positive on HPT and blood tests. When we reached our 7 week scan, we received the dreaded news that there was no heartbeat 💔I subsequently underwent a D and C.

A couple of months later, last year, we underwent another FET. We received a positive. I underwent a cerclage at 14 weeks which was without complication. Everything continued to go well. We had our 20 week scan. Our son looked perfect. Our obstetrician literally told us everything looked perfect.

4 days later, I was wfh and began bleeding uncontrollably. I was rushed to hospital in what was a medical emergency. The doctors were concerned I wouldn’t make it. My waters broke, and our gorgeous angel was born sleeping at 20.4 weeks 💔💔💔💔💔

We are coming up to 1 year since our baby passed. Since then, I have had 3 failed FET transfers.

Yesterday I made the decision I will spend this year and next doing back to back IVF rounds (including egg collection again). I will call it quits before I turn 40 (early 2028). My husband and I are heartbroken but I know I need to do this to know I gave it my all.

I’m terrified of this happening again. Not having a heartbeat at a scan and have a stillbirth is quite possibly two of the worst things that can happen in pregnancy but I will forever feel regret if I don’t keep going.

Wish me luck. Keep me in your thoughts, prayers and good vibes.

Thank you for reading 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏❤️ God bless you all.

Hi there. Question! 9 years ago, we had my engagement and wedding bands made- we went with a D colour natural diamond, 1 carat centre stone with halo and pave bands. We were not familiar with lab diamonds back then otherwise I 100% would have gone with that (mainly due to cost!). I have recently noticed an emergence of a lot larger stones now (lab diamonds mostly I think?) BUT I am LOVING the sparkle on all the gorgeous moissanite rings I am seeing in this sub. Can I ask, is a moissanite REALLY indistinguishable from a diamond? What should one be looking for when purchasing moissanite?

Thank you in advance, and please be nice I am genuinely curious and considering moissanite as all the stones here look so stunning 😍

Hi there! I am an avid reader. I fly through a few books a week on my Kindle. Unfortunately, it feels as if I am running out of quality books to read. I recently have quite a few DNF and it wastes time and gives me zero joy to abandon a book halfway through.

I am currently halfway through “The drowning woman” by Robyn Harding. I love it! I am looking for similar twisty recommendations. Nothing police procedural please. I have read all of Freida and Kirsten Modglin and probably many of the generally recommended books. Would love some recommendations before I finish the current read so I can dive head first into the next one. I basically need unputdownable psychological thrillers.

Thank you!