u/FewLeg7901

I am a 2027 girls lacrosse player (17 yrs old) and I've been on Varsity since freshman year.

I'm on my public hs team and we are not good, for the record. It's a skilled team but a variety of things aren't working and we've won 1 game. I am not claiming to be the best on the team by any means bc I haven't committed every season of the year to the sport and we all definetly could improve at something. However, I am a skilled player, played club for a couple of years and have been playing for many yrs.

I did go away for 5 days for the Junior ski championships the week after tryouts but before the regular szn. I gave tons of heads up and returned before our first scrimmage and got to play in the second half even. In the area I live in, being a multisport athlete, especially at that level is generally supported. My coach said she didn't care and was glad I had that opportunity. I knew I'd have to put in work when I got back and that's what I did. It has been 6 weeks and I have gone to every practice, even sick. I have objectively gotten better. IDK if that's cocky. I promise I'm not very confident in my athleticism and very self actualized but that is just something I know. I also am far from the worst player on my team.

I love my teammates and always have. I never have and never will tear them down to make the point that I am a good player, but the lineups arent making much sense in terms of player priority. I started off the season playing much more (first half of most games and started too). I was getting time but not as much as I expected of myself so I communicated with my coach after each and every game to ask what I needed to be doing differently and what notes she had for improving. The themes of these conversations were always that she "forgot about me" or was sorting things out still, or that I needed a little more confidence but otherwise looked strong (she said she thought this would improve as my playing time did). She said I was improving lots, to just keep grinding, keep my head up, and she would get me minutes next game because she "wanted to let me prove myself. It has been 5 games of that promise after every game and then I see no improvement. The last time I got to play was last wednesday for 8 minutes and I got an assist. She said it was the best playing she's seen out of me & that she wanted to get me back in but ran out of time.

I show up at practice, try new plays, and have built lots of confidence but I just don't get to show it to anyone. I am outgoing and friendly to all my teammates, I am gracious to my coaches, and I think I'm very coachable because I genuinely love when they take the time to try and make me better, however this is infrequent. The goalies say I'm a good shooter, my teammates trust me, but today after being promised that my minutes would increase I didn't even touch the field. That made me cry just because this has been a cycle and I feel so so defeated. I've been promised this for 5 games and continued to put in tons of effort. I'm small and lanky but I have endurance and finesse. The hardest part is it's being validated about the frustration by my teammates and captains. The captains are talking to the coach on my behalf.

I know any smart person would say to ask the coach for feedback and be a good communicator and give everything I have at practice. "Control what you can control" I have. People say attitude is the most important factor. I have given this season every ounce of energy I have and treated my teammates and coaches like family. I feel like I'm stuck in a game and following all the rules but not being given the prize. Any advice you have would be greatly appreciated.

High schoolers, at least high achieving students, have so many expectations that get overlooked. A lot of adults could not handle their list of tasks if it was thrown upon them tomorrow. Think about school alone. It's already a work schedule full of more specific tasks. If a student pushes themself to do honors or AP classes, they will have multiple hours of extra work per night. This is all already known, but there is a far greater emphasis on having hobbies and activities for teens than there is for adults. Throw in scheduled sports practice and games daily, sometimes returning pretty late at night. They are responsible for managing their training, fitness, nutrition, and effort too. If you want to go to a good college, you can't be one dimensional either. A teenager with good grades has to make commitments with the National Honors Society, and if you don't do clubs and community service, your application won't stand out. Even a teen who doesn't want to go to college or doesn't play sports will be strongly encouraged to volunteer, join clubs, get hobbies. Nobody tells an adult with a 9-5 that they aren't a good staff member if they don't go home and make artwork or found a charity after they go for a run. Nobody tells an adult with a 9-5 that they need to commit 20 hours of service in order to get recognition for their hard work. Teenagers also don't get to control their interactions with others as an adult would. Social interactions and schedules are far more intense and organized, since they have to balance so so many friendships on a day-to-day basis. Adults tend to have more defined groups from different areas of life. Influences are constantly surrounding teenagers every waking second about how to act, to drink or smoke (or not to), to hang out or to do homework. Adults simply don't come in as much contact with this many opportunities to drink or party with serious consequences on a day-to-day basis.

It isn't uncommon for a teenager to have to wake themselves up, get ready, be attentive in class, perform academically, perform athletically, get home and perform tasks for parents, do hours of homework, social networking, and work shifts of a job to make money. Every move they make affects future endeavors and decisions they must make, all on an incompletely developed brain and without the freedom to get enough sleep.

High schoolers, at least high achieving students, have so many expectations that get overlooked. A lot of adults could not handle their list of tasks if it was thrown upon them tomorrow. Think about school alone. It's already a work schedule full of more specific tasks. If a student pushes themself to do honors or AP classes, they will have multiple hours of extra work per night. This is all already known, but there is a far greater emphasis on having hobbies and activities for teens than there is for adults. Throw in scheduled sports practice and games daily, sometimes returning pretty late at night. They are responsible for managing their training, fitness, nutrition, and effort too. If you want to go to a good college, you can't be one dimensional either. A teenager with good grades has to make commitments with the National Honors Society, and if you don't do clubs and community service, your application won't stand out. Even a teen who doesn't want to go to college or doesn't play sports will be strongly encouraged to volunteer, join clubs, get hobbies. Nobody tells an adult with a 9-5 that they aren't a good staff member if they don't go home and make artwork or found a charity after they go for a run. Nobody tells an adult with a 9-5 that they need to commit 20 hours of service in order to get recognition for their hard work. Teenagers also don't get to control their interactions with others as an adult would. Social interactions and schedules are far more intense and organized, since they have to balance so so many friendships on a day-to-day basis. Adults tend to have more defined groups from different areas of life. Influences are constantly surrounding teenagers every waking second about how to act, to drink or smoke (or not to), to hang out or to do homework. Adults simply don't come in as much contact with this many opportunities to drink or party with serious consequences on a day-to-day basis.

It isn't uncommon for a teenager to have to wake themselves up, get ready, be attentive in class, perform academically, perform athletically, get home and perform tasks for parents, do hours of homework, social networking, and work shifts of a job to make money. Every move they make affects future endeavors and decisions they must make, all on an incompletely developed brain and without the freedom to get enough sleep.

Like people who go into finance or business and work 9-5 but have a long commute and then have to work from home and little paid time off? Maybe they get a 30 minute workout in but does wearing a rolex and designer shoes make them happy while they work all day. Is that considered worth it? Even if the money is to support their family, is their family really that happy that they're never around?

Before I (17F) get any illegitimacy claims, I go to an accelerated health sciences academy which gives college premed course credits and certifies you to be an EMT. If you score high enough on a test we take as a junior, then you can begin the course with the seniors. If not, you have to wait until you are a senior. I scored well and got my certification in february. This is completely legal and I work shifts 6-8x per month. 4-6 day shifts and 2 night shifts. My family completely supports this.

My hyper fixation recently has been Yasso Fro Yo pints. They are so so good and pretty good macros. The closest lighter ice cream that doesn't taste bad or upset my digestion. It comes in a few flavors which are all good but I like the chocolate brownie most. I like to top 1/2 a pint with 1/4 cup or so reduced fat cool whip. It kind of has soft-serve vibes and the brownie chunks are amazing. Also it adds up to 240 calories for a serving that would be around 600 if it was a regular icecream sunday.

I'm thinking you could also make a milkshake with about 1/2 a pint for a lighter option too.

Wasn't my original intention, but also 10g of protein is 10g of protein. 12/10 recommend you try.

My twin brother and I (17F) go to a very good and reputable private school in sort of a mountain town that is not a boarding school. We are both gifted students and got scholarships to play Lacrosse and my parents wanted us to have this opportunity but they couldn't extend their commute by moving further from their work. My mom is a doctor and my dad works in finance but has to meet with clients often at his office. They connected with some other families in a similar position or who had other children they didn't want to uproot so they all went in on a house not far from the school campus. I think the plan is to rent to other people as we all filter through and graduate. And they do come visit us as normal parents would their boarding school students or we go home for the weekend. We work in the summer but get a budget for things we need from our parents. All of our parents communicate regularly and have gotten to know each other well but no adults live with us.

The people that live in our house are 1 freshman (Jayla), 2 sophomores (Embry & Preston), 4 juniors (Me, my twin brother Cash, Maryn, & Cody), and 5 seniors (Jude, Julia, Ben, Paige, & Avery). Ask away!

So I (17F) am one of 6 siblings, but my parents had us in 2 "rounds" with 12 years between the first 3 and the second 3. Therefor, my brother Jackson and his wife had a baby girl in October named Pippa. They were in town for a wedding of one of his friends from high school which Pippa wasn't invited to, so he texted the family gc and asked if one of the 3 younger ones of us wanted to watch her. Both of my other siblings had plans so I offered. I am experienced at babysitting and I don't ask him to pay me but since I was responsible for her from 3 pm to the following day at 6 pm, he bought me a new carbon lacrosse stick so I was more than happy to.

My twin brother had a boys lacrosse game and my friends wanted to go last minute so I took Pippa right after her afternoon nap in a hip sling carrier and brought diapers, a stuffy, some applesauce pouches, her water, and anything else I would need in my backpack. I took her to stand in the student section with some other teenagers who were all behaving respectfully. She is a very outgoing baby and was having a fantastic time waving to my friend group. Since I got there, a couple of teachers on the sideline were asking why I had a baby, why she was at the game, and why I had her standing in the student section. They kept saying it was too loud but I really don't think it was. My friend and I decided to go to the bathroom and get a diet coke, and I didn't want to bring Pippa into the bathroom because of germs. A boy in my class who I'm friends with offered to hold her so I stayed to make sure she was ok for a couple of minutes and then left them to watch the game. I came back 5 or 10 minutes later and one of the teacher's came over and asked if she could have Pippa because I was being irresponsible. I assured her that everything was fine and she was being well take care of I just had to run to the bathroom. My brother knew we would be going to the game. She said I couldn't be bringing babies to teen event and passing her around, especially if she hadn't talked to the baby's parents.

I told her it was outside of school hours, Pippa was not distressed, and she couldn't judge since I was deemed responsible by my brother and his wife, however she called the principal because she didn't think I even knew my friend who was holding Pippa. I got scolded and told that if I bring a baby back to a "student event" I would be suspended. I also got told my Health grade was being lowered because clearly I didn't know how to care for children. Did I go wrong here? AITAH?

I KNOW bears are dangerous, but they are also very smart, form relationships well, and the majority of attacks occur due to mother bears protecting their young. They have proven extremely trainable and can problem solve super well too. They have the capacity for social learning (as cubs) and are super strong, meaning they could have potential being used for manual labor. They would be super effective diggers or haulers of logs, wood, etc. AND their sense of smell is fantastic, so they could be used for scent tracing. They could also be used for attack and security purposes given their brute strength. Just saying.

Like do 90 year old ladies find other 90 year old men attractive and vice verse?