u/Few_Ability_1577

Please help, I want to help my partner but they shut down everything i say

I dont want to submit them to something like samaritans because I feel like they'll hate me for it.

I want to help my partner. They (NB20) and I (M19) have been together over a year. I knew they were depressed when going into things, but since around November they've been in a bit of a spiral. We're both artists and are currently enrolled in university trying to get degrees. They've been struggling with attending classes and getting work done, however, claiming they "Can't draw anymore", not in the sense that their art is bas, but in the sense that getting ideas onto paper feels impossible. My partner bases a lot of their purpose on their artwork, believing it to be the only thing theyre good at.

Today they attempted to attend one of our life drawing classes, but ended up having a panic attack due to a number of circumstances, and I picked them up early. On the way home I tried to comfort them, but they said they didnt want to hear it.

We got to their house and sat on the bed and they began to vent about how their life has felt hollow, and that nothing gets better. When I try to give examples, or attempt to comfort them about this they shut me down and tell me I'm too idealistic and that I should just "admit that its over for them.", I foolishly responded with "I wont say that its over for you because if I say that you'll kill yourself.". At that point they told me I should just admit that were not made for eachother and I should go home, but I refused because, again, I think they will kill themself if I do. There was more conversation after that and I continued to try and convince them that things will get better and that they can change but they wont listen to me.

Im trying very hard not to cry while they have annoyedly fell asleep, but I dont know what to do. I love this person so much I dont want to lose them and I hate seeing them so sad, but im not equipped to deal with this sort of thing, ive never dealt with this sort of thing before. I know its probably not healthy for me, but I dont want to have to be attending their funeral in a month's time because I couldn't convince them not to do it.

Please help, I want to help my partner but they shut down everything i say

I dont want to submit them to something like samaritans because I feel like they'll hate me for it.

I want to help my partner. They (NB20) and I (M19) have been together over a year. I knew they were depressed when going into things, but since around November they've been in a bit of a spiral. We're both artists and are currently enrolled in university trying to get degrees. They've been struggling with attending classes and getting work done, however, claiming they "Can't draw anymore", not in the sense that their art is bas, but in the sense that getting ideas onto paper feels impossible. My partner bases a lot of their purpose on their artwork, believing it to be the only thing theyre good at.

Today they attempted to attend one of our life drawing classes, but ended up having a panic attack due to a number of circumstances, and I picked them up early. On the way home I tried to comfort them, but they said they didnt want to hear it.

We got to their house and sat on the bed and they began to vent about how their life has felt hollow, and that nothing gets better. When I try to give examples, or attempt to comfort them about this they shut me down and tell me I'm too idealistic and that I should just "admit that its over for them.", I foolishly responded with "I wont say that its over for you because if I say that you'll kill yourself.". At that point they told me I should just admit that were not made for eachother and I should go home, but I refused because, again, I think they will kill themself if I do. There was more conversation after that and I continued to try and convince them that things will get better and that they can change but they wont listen to me.

Im trying very hard not to cry while they have annoyedly fell asleep, but I dont know what to do. I love this person so much I dont want to lose them and I hate seeing them so sad, but im not equipped to deal with this sort of thing, ive never dealt with this sort of thing before. I know its probably not healthy for me, but I dont want to have to be attending their funeral in a month's time because I couldn't convince them not to do it.

Please help, I want to help my partner but they shut down everything i say

I dont want to submit them to something like samaritans because I feel like they'll hate me for it.

I want to help my partner. They (NB20) and I (M19) have been together over a year. I knew they were depressed when going into things, but since around November they've been in a bit of a spiral. We're both artists and are currently enrolled in university trying to get degrees. They've been struggling with attending classes and getting work done, however, claiming they "Can't draw anymore", not in the sense that their art is bas, but in the sense that getting ideas onto paper feels impossible. My partner bases a lot of their purpose on their artwork, believing it to be the only thing theyre good at.

Today they attempted to attend one of our life drawing classes, but ended up having a panic attack due to a number of circumstances, and I picked them up early. On the way home I tried to comfort them, but they said they didnt want to hear it.

We got to their house and sat on the bed and they began to vent about how their life has felt hollow, and that nothing gets better. When I try to give examples, or attempt to comfort them about this they shut me down and tell me I'm too idealistic and that I should just "admit that its over for them.", I foolishly responded with "I wont say that its over for you because if I say that you'll kill yourself.". At that point they told me I should just admit that were not made for eachother and I should go home, but I refused because, again, I think they will kill themself if I do. There was more conversation after that and I continued to try and convince them that things will get better and that they can change but they wont listen to me.

Im trying very hard not to cry while they have annoyedly fell asleep, but I dont know what to do. I love this person so much I dont want to lose them and I hate seeing them so sad, but im not equipped to deal with this sort of thing, ive never dealt with this sort of thing before. I know its probably not healthy for me, but I dont want to have to be attending their funeral in a month's time because I couldn't convince them not to do it.

I dont want to submit them to something like samaritans because I feel like they'll hate me for it.

I want to help my partner. They (NB20) and I (M19) have been together over a year. I knew they were depressed when going into things, but since around November they've been in a bit of a spiral. We're both artists and are currently enrolled in university trying to get degrees. They've been struggling with attending classes and getting work done, however, claiming they "Can't draw anymore", not in the sense that their art is bas, but in the sense that getting ideas onto paper feels impossible. My partner bases a lot of their purpose on their artwork, believing it to be the only thing theyre good at.

Today they attempted to attend one of our life drawing classes, but ended up having a panic attack due to a number of circumstances, and I picked them up early. On the way home I tried to comfort them, but they said they didnt want to hear it.

We got to their house and sat on the bed and they began to vent about how their life has felt hollow, and that nothing gets better. When I try to give examples, or attempt to comfort them about this they shut me down and tell me I'm too idealistic and that I should just "admit that its over for them.", I foolishly responded with "I wont say that its over for you because if I say that you'll kill yourself.". At that point they told me I should just admit that were not made for eachother and I should go home, but I refused because, again, I think they will kill themself if I do. There was more conversation after that and I continued to try and convince them that things will get better and that they can change but they wont listen to me.

Im trying very hard not to cry while they have annoyedly fell asleep, but I dont know what to do. I love this person so much I dont want to lose them and I hate seeing them so sad, but im not equipped to deal with this sort of thing, ive never dealt with this sort of thing before. I know its probably not healthy for me, but I dont want to have to be attending their funeral in a month's time because I couldn't convince them not to do it.