u/Fickle-Hour4458

I joined the fandom when I was 14ish. I'm now 19 so obviously my takes have grown a lot, but heres a list of opinions I used to have that I think about daily lol. I'm curious if anyone else had old, annoying takes as well.

-Dazai was bad for abusing Akutagawa even though he was also abused because abuse doesnt justify abuse, but also Akutawage was just doing what he learned from Dazai and he at the very least acknowledged Kyouka

-Dazai would cry if Chuuya died

-Poe would probably die an insolvable death like the irl authors and it would drive Ranpo crazy trying to solve it

-Chuuya has bad hair

-Mori was pure evil, not morally grey, and physically abused Dazai

->!Rimbaud was completely morally right in their fight and everything was Verlaine's fault!< (Implied SB spoilers kind of)

-Asagiri was a bad writer

-Chuuya and Dazai were both poorly written characters

-Dazai wasn't actually suicidal

-Most of my bad opinions were about Dazai

-Dazai was an offensive character with his jokes

-Pretty much any take I had on the Tanizaki's was bad

-Pretty much any take I had on Mori was bad

-Dead Apple wasn't meant to be canon as an actual event (I didnt understand the plot and thought that meant it never happened)

Theres probably more but I cant think of any atp, I'll edit if I do. Probably not all of your takes will be as bad if you joined the fandoms as adult but unfortunately, I did not lol

I have never really had any friends before. I had one in high school, who I was very close to, and he introduced me to his friend group who I never formed relationships with. We drifted apart, and since then I've made no friends. I have an extremely hard time forming relationships and am a NEET, so have little opportunity to meet people. When I do go out, I attempt to make friends and it never falls through because I do not navigate social situations well. I have some online friends, but they are not people I really talk to regularly outside of one interest, and since most of them are not autistic they tend to lose interest in my special interest eventually and we drift apart.

Back in March I got in contact with someone online who is extremely similar to me. Same special interest, same issues forming relationships, is a NEET, is autistic, aroace, etc. We talk very well about more than just my special interest and they're on the save wavelength as me in terms of how much they like my special interest. Conversations feel light and easy, and I find myself thinking about her throughout the day and talking to other people about her. I asked if she'd like to meet up one day and she said yes, so I believe we've hit it off quite well. I am just not sure if its healthy to like someone so much when we've only started talking a few months ago. I'm not sure how friendships work entirely because I don't even remember what it was like when I'd met my high school friend. I'd like to send her a birthday gift but I don't know if thats weird. How do you navigate new relationships? I've been told I come off too strong which is why most of my friendships irl fall through. Social interactions are hard and I dont know the rules :/ Am I supposed to be forming bonds slower? Is it bad that its an online friendship, I'm not sure if that makes it better or worse that I like her so much (platonically)

I had two boys, one 10 years old, the other 6. The 10 year old had a sudden blockage that led to me having to euthanize. I used to feed them wet food that became too expensive for me, a struggling college student, so I switched to dry food before this all happened. They have a running cat fountain. I might be able to afford switching him back to wet food with one less cat but I need to prevent this from happening again

I'm starting college in September, and I'm slightly worried about my ability to make friends and connect because of how I am with my special interest. I do not have any real life friends, I don't know how to make them. All I want to do is talk about Bungou Stray Dogs. Online, this is no problem. I can join designated spaces and seek those people out, or if I'm not in a BSD specific space, I can usually find someone if I ask enough people if they like it.

I'm basically the same way in real life. I don't want some talk, I dont want to chat, I want to tell people about my series. I'm pretty quiet and awkward but constantly try to find ways to bring it up. I do not know how to engage in conversations that aren't Bungou Stray Dogs, especially if I don't know the person. I feel like I'm even off putting to other autistic people. Sometimes I'll think about Bungou Stray Dogs for a second too long and start stimming and giggling and it makes people weirded out.

With other autistic people, I feel like theres at least an equivalent exchange. I'll listen about your thing, I'll watch your thing, if you so the same for me. But I can't connect to people who don't like it, or don't like it enough to want to talk about it. Like I have other interests, wild cats, bugs, an assortment of other shows, politics, taxidermy, music, but it all feels like small talk. I don't want to be talking about it. I want to talk about Bungou Stray Dogs.

I went to comic con and tried to approach fellow BSD cosplayers but I feel like I was off putting and nothing really went anywhere. I really want friends, I just don't know how to behave normally. And this worries me for how college will play out. I want connections, a romantic partner, friends, acquaintances. It really feels like a major social hindrance on me. I am terrible at masking. I've tried before, I have no self control over my behaviours to repress that side of me until I get to know people more. That's what advice I'm always given. I don't know. Just a bit anxious about college, I want advice on how to make friends and maybe not come off so strong and so excitable. And maybe to know if people relate because I feel like the autistic people I see are able to ease into that more when it just kind of explodes out of me.

Also I wanna talk about Bungou Stray Dogs

Mentioning it by name was deliberate

I am so normal about it