u/Fine-Flight-8599

I'm kind of on a cut.. trying to build/keep muscles while being on a deficit. Before I have just lost weight by eating something like 1500 calories, and I was very hungry.

Now that I'm eating over 100 grams of protein a day, I very rarely feel hungry. Even though I exercise much more than before. Just a little advice for people struggling with hunger!

Please don't comment on how that is too little for me. I know what I'm doing and I'm a short woman <3.

For example most of The carbs like bread or pasta have protein too. Do people count those too towards their protein goals?

So I'm in a pretty good position right now with my ROCD. Few days ago my boyfriend told me that something about my actions bother him, which is completely valid. It was related to me being often angry pretty much for no reason (I'm so exhausted, that I feel like everything is too much).

But immediately when he told me that, I started to question again whether we are actually incompatible, and started to mentally distance myself again. I don't want to do that, because even if it is true, I don't want to use all the time I have to analyze it again.

What do I do? I'm not sure if I'm able to focuse on his wellbeing right now due to me being at my limits so badly... Do I just tell him that, or do I try to change my behavior? I know that OCD doesn't excuse me to act poorly, but I'm just so tired of this.

I managed to carry my full laundy basket downstairs without problems! Usually I go out of breath and my arms start to shake to The point I need to take a break... Also my dog feel lighter when I need to move him :D.

This feel absolutely amazing! Specially, because I feel more capable in my life.

I'm currently in this situation :D. I can't figure out what would be The best. I go to gym, so protein would be good, but since The brain fog already hit, I think some quick carbs would be beneficial? But also I don't want too many calories...

I'm going to eat atleast something soon, but it would be good to know for the future too.

Feel free to prove me wrong. Even paralyzed people benefit from some form of movement. There is no disability, permanent illness or mental health problems that wouldn't benefit from regular movement. Ofcourse in a way that it's possible (someone without legs can't go for a walk as easily).

Money or time isn't a good reason either. Atleast walking is free and available for pretty much everyone and exercising should be a priority, so you have time for it.

There are resons that makes it harder, for example those mental health problems that I mentioned. But it's still a choice that affects your wellbeing and makes it harder to recover.

I have a very good opportunity, since I have three months break from my studies. I have had a lot of problems with having energy to get anything done, so exercising has been almost non-existend.

Now that I have that break, I really want to get more strength and aerobic fitness, since they would help me so much at school (very physical job). I have had a hard time keeping up with The phase, and I need to do something to it.

So if have a better diet, go to gym three to four times a week and do cardio two to three times... Can there be a noticeable difference when I go back to school?

I have just tried to survive in life for about a year now due to ROCD. I have done exposure this whole time pretty much daily, with some relapses. It works, but it takes time. There can also be months long periods when there is absolutely no progress. But in The end brain will get The message, that things aren't _dangerous_.

Now I can live almost completely normally. I don't think about my relationship, and I don't "care" how/when/if it's going to end. I also don't care if it doesn't. I have learned to just be and live... And see what happens. Healing isn't about figuring out any of those things like whether you should be in a relationship. It's about learning that If you do a wrong choise or relationship ends etc. you will still survive.

I knew that I am "healed" when I realized, that I haven't thought about these for weeks. Ruminating or trying to figure anything out didn't help at any point.

Also little side note. It helped me when I did something NOT related to relationships that was hard for me. Like very hard, something you are afraid of or something that needs a lot of work.