How to tell when someone is flirting.
Okay, so me and my crush were talking at church, and idk if he was flirting or if I was just enjoying the convo tm. I'll just start from the time when it was just the two of us. (sorry that its long)
After we got out of the group we got soda from the side room, I asked to give him my Insta, but I forgot my handle so I was like, "Maybe next time." Then he asked me why I deactivated (because I told him I deactivated, so I'd have to follow him back when I redownload it) and I was like, "It's just distracting." He was like, "Nah fr, because sometimes I want to just delete everything," and I was like, "Oh, I barely have anything." Then it went silent (also to add, his search on Insta was clear).
Later on, umm, he was looking for the trash. I noticed from across the room, went to him, and asked him if he was looking for the trash. He was like, "Yeah, I thought it was over there," and I was like, "nah, it's outside." Then I walked him to the trash outside that wasn't too far, you just had to open the side door and it was right there.
So I leave him and walk back inside. I sit by my bag that's on the chair I was sitting in during service. He comes back in and stands back where he was standing b4. (The row right behind where he was sitting at during service, but he couldn't get back to his seat because his parents were talking to someone and he didn't want to interrupt, so he just stands there on his phone behind them on the row I'm sitting at .) He starts like walking back and forth, like in a circle. Then he looks at me and like smirks, then sits down 2 seats away from me, then goes, "We're never gonna leave,". Then I look at him, shake my head, fold my lips in, and look the other way ( I was nervous).
A few seconds later I'm like, " how old are you?" He's like, "19, I'll be 20 in June. You're 20, right?" I'm like, "Yeah, I'll be 21 in May. Me " I thought your birthday was in January for some reason." He goes, "Is that an insult?" I'm like, "No, no, I just thought your birthday was in January, that's all. Just like your name is [xxxxxxx]. (I gave him a new name when I met him and he just let me call him that. He smiled about it for a while until I called him that in front of his parents and they were like, "Wait, what?" and I was like, "I'm sorry," freaking out. Then he realized I didn't know his name fr fr). I just thought [xxxxxxx] and January, that's all." And he's like, "It sounds like an insult because I think June is the best month." And I'm like, "Well, you're wrong because actually May is the best month." And he goes, "Actually, I was supposed to be born in May, but I stayed so I can be born in June." And I was like, "Oh fr, you just held on, huh?" And he was like, "Yeah." Then he was like, "What's wrong with June people?" And I was like, "Idk, there's just something about them. Like my dad's a June person, they're just a little different than everybody else. But you're wrong anyway because May is the best month." And he goes "Okay" or something in the line of agreeing, and I go silent because I WON.
Then he goes, "Well, we'll just have to agree to disagree." And I'm like, "Noooo, you said you agreed, I need to get this in writing!" And he's like, "Oh, I don't have paper." And I'm like, "Don't worry, I do," and I pretend to go in my bag. He goes, "I forgot how to write." And I go, "So you don't write anything down in class?" He's like, "Yeah, I just remember everything, I'm just smart." And I'm like, "Ohh, so it's all in your head, mhmm okay." He's like, "Yep, it's all up here, I'm passing all my classes." I go, "Ptfff, I'm not." He kinda looks at me with concern.
I change the subject, then he brings up me not remembering what school year I'm in. He goes, "At least I remember what year I'm in." (From an earlier convo, because I forgot and had to count, then my sister had to be like, "No, you're in your 2nd year," and I was like, "Oh, she's right" laughing at myself). And I go, "Well, you don't have other classes that you have to do," (because he's in trade school). And he goes, "Yes I do, I have physics," (that's a part of his trade, smh).
But I look to the side and think of a comeback, can't think of one, and throw my head back and make a sound like, "Ughhhh." After, I realize that nothing is that funny and I look CRAZY RIGHT NOW. I come back up, but I laughed because it was funny, and I look at him and we held eye contact. I'm smiling, but he's just looking at me, then I look away.
Then I hear my name and I look away, and he goes silent. Then I sit back down, and tbh idk what happened after that. All this is not in 100% the order, but then my friend comes and I'm like, "Oh, are you leaving?" and she's like, "Idk." So I stand up and try to give her a hug, and she does this thing where she like shakes and pretends like she's scared of me, and I'm like, "Stop being weirdddd." She keeps doing it, then she hugs me. As she backs out of the hug, or when she was reaching in, idr- I think it was when I was saying stop being weird- she looks over at him. I act like she didn't look, but umm, idk if he looked over or if she was just looking at him? My back was turned toward him so I couldn't see him.
But then that was the end of our convo. Then my sister came over and I told her that he thinks that the best month is June, and she's like, "Oh, is your birthday in June?" and he's like, "Yeah." And she's like, "What day?" and he's like, "The [x]," and yeah. Then his mom came and was like, "Ohh, I like your ring," and I'm like, "Thank you, it's a promise purity ring," and she goes, "Ohh, it's so pretty," and I say, "Thank you."
Then after that, we're all like at the door, and he passes a few people to give me a hug. It's a one-arm, heart-to-heart hug, only a tap. But the thing was I didn't even see him walk over he just came out of nowhere and was in front of me. Then he's walking out the door, and my sister is sitting next to the door, and he takes a step back as he's walking out the door to reach down and hug her, and that's also a tap. And I think that's it. So like flirt or just friendly banter???