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i felt the need to stand up for myself so i did.

the story starts when i was in school- i was best friends with this girl who's mother was a teacher at our school. Now, mind you i went to one of the strictest schools in my district where teachers= god literally; her mother was one of the bitchiest teachers there, like she was so sooo controlling -she used to call housewives unpaid maids n used to look down on almost everyone she could n everybody hated her- she was the definition of SUPERCILIOUSNESS and i was v v scared of her bc i was a hugeeee coward back then n maybe i still am.

and yes, school nepotism queen bee she became, she used to top the class get selected for everything n i was always second but thats not the problem, the problem was i was bestfriends with her n she couldnt stand it when i was an inch better than her but i couldnt confront her about it bc i was scared of her mom. once i got like 20/20 on a chem test (her mom taught us chem) n she ended up getting 19/20 n she put on such a dark face her mom CALLED ME BACK TOOK MY PAPER N RECHECKED IT AGAIN JUST TO MAKE SURE I ACTUALLY GOT A 20/20 AND YES MOTHERFUCKER-I DID GET 20.

this was when we were like 11 to 15 years old, we changed schools when we were 16 n went to this other school in another district which was again a top school( we both started going there.)

so her second toxic trait was whenever she made new friends or something good happened to her she didnt want to share either of them with me, so she got selected in the school band for a fest n then had really good camaraderie with the rest of the band mates. but then, the music teacher called me in to play guitar for the next upcoming fest n had me join the band.

and MAN, i could TELL she didnt want me there- I COULD FEEL IT IN HER FUCKING ENERGY N SEE IT IN HER FUCKING FACE, like she wouldnt even have me have a go at her instruments during breaks. then i told my classmates about this and she IMMEDIATELY FLIPPED, SHE STARTED GIVING ME HER INSTRUMENT BUT IT WASNT FUCKING GENUINE. I mean how badly can u switch case n ur fucking face.

the thing is - REPUTATION AND HONOUR N stuff REALLY MATTERED TO HER.

she had this perfect family reputation that she had to live upto at all times. n i dnt give a shit abt all that but why are you treating me this way right?? why are you such a slimy green monster to me but such a pretty popular baby to everyone else?? why ME????

So i stopped talking to her. I told her that i think she does not respect me as a friend. she gaslighted me- told me that i was throwing away a 7 year long friendship for nothing. she told me i should be more VOCAL about my issues. basically made me feel like i was the one messing this up.

then i just stopped talking to her. blocked her and ignored her completely in class. everybody asked what happened n i didnt say anything bc she had already laid the groundwork that she had NO IDEA WHAT HAPPENED. i told them that she is v superficial n a major gaslighter n she feigned innocence.

so after i stopped talking to her, everything became really awkward.

PT 2 bc this is getting too long

https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverthinking/comments/1tijf5g/aio_am_i_overthinking_my_friendships_pt2/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

so after i stopped talking to her, everything became really awkward.

pt 1 link

https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverthinking/comments/1tijm08/aio_am_i_overthinking_my_friendships_pt_1/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

when we first came in the school she'd made friends with these two girls who were really nice n i became friends with them as well, so after i stopped talking to her they really tried to get me back to being friends- but i hd made up my mind.

the problem is that she is REALLY REALLY NICE TO EVERYBODY ELSE, I dont think 1 other person went through this shit that i did. She wears such a beautiful mask in public but i think i got the glimpse of her true face.

n idc abt all this but why me?? WHAT DID I DO TO HER?? so fucking fake.

so these two really got along more with her eventually. n they love her still. let's call them K and S.

i also got closer to my other friend (lets say B) who knew about all this n who i vented to while i was dealing with her. n she became kinda my new bestie like she was n is the sweetest person ever.

n we had a whatsapp group - me, B, K, S, her and 2 other girls.

n after i stopped talking to her i didnt leave the group bc why should i leave?? she should leave in my opinion. but the thing is i never really made a public declaration about why i stopped talking to her, i only told them that she's a HUGE GASLIGHTER n they kinda asked for proof n instances but i didnt hv any. n i was afraid to tell them the whole thing bc i was still scared of her mother. (i know i m a coward)

the thing is for her- family = dont touch , both the mother n daughter n EVERYBODY KNOWS THIS and they are a bit influential type . n i thought that if i told everyone, her mom would ring me up n if she did my mom would also fight and i didnt want anyone to fight bc i hate confrontations n i was just scared idk i hate myself for this.

so i didnt tell anyone anything much.

I thought we'd all go separate ways after high school n they wont be prominent in my life so idgaf. BUT BUT BUT the friend group grew STRONGER n we still talk on that gc , i dont write a lot n she doesnt either but the others do n they make plans to meet n all n i just avoid it a bit - ive been busy in my life too so i genuinely cant meet them all that much. but i see them posting her in their updates especially B - INFACT B EVEN WROTE HER A HUGE ASS INSTAGRAM POST THE YEAR WE STOPPED TALKING n that just felt bad. B tells me that im her best friend but then why does she talk to her still? am i being insecure? i havent met any other friend like B yet n i trust her a lot , its like she's my sister but she is pretty close to my ex best friend still n posts her and appreciates her a lot n just cant stop being friends w her and it makes me feel so betrayed??, am i being insecure? or should i stop putting so much effort in friendships? i really value a community n i just cant seem to get that.

do i leave the whatsapp group? do i cut them off all slowly? this is like the coolest gc ive ever had like a girl gang but just this one stupid thing that haunts me n makes me feel like what i experienced was invalid. why am i the one suffering?? my ex bff keeps going on being nice to all of them n they LOVE HER, what do i do?? AIO??

guys i dont think i can bring this up w B bc i think it is socially impossible for her to stop talking to her since she has never done anything wrong to her personally and they also hv been friends for 7+ years n ive also been friends w B for 7+ years only idk man . i know this will only result in me looking overly insecure, idk what to do. why am i stuck in this? i wish someone could get bring clarity and just tell me what to do

so after i stopped talking to her, everything became really awkward.

when we first came in the school she'd made friends with these two girls who were really nice n i became friends with them as well, so after i stopped talking to her they really tried to get me back to being friends- but i hd made up my mind.

the problem is that she is REALLY REALLY NICE TO EVERYBODY ELSE, I dont think 1 other person went through this shit that i did. She wears such a beautiful mask in public but i think i got the glimpse of her true face.

n idc abt all this but why me?? WHAT DID I DO TO HER?? so fucking fake.

so these two really got along more with her eventually. n they love her still. let's call them K and S.

i also got closer to my other friend (lets say B) who knew about all this n who i vented to while i was dealing with her. n she became kinda my new bestie like she was n is the sweetest person ever.

n we had a whatsapp group - me, B, K, S, her and 2 other girls.

n after i stopped talking to her i didnt leave the group bc why should i leave?? she should leave in my opinion. but the thing is i never really made a public declaration about why i stopped talking to her, i only told them that she's a HUGE GASLIGHTER n they kinda asked for proof n instances but i didnt hv any. n i was afraid to tell them the whole thing bc i was still scared of her mother. (i know i m a coward)

the thing is for her- family = dont touch , both the mother n daughter n EVERYBODY KNOWS THIS and they are a bit influential type . n i thought that if i told everyone, her mom would ring me up n if she did my mom would also fight and i didnt want anyone to fight bc i hate confrontations n i was just scared idk i hate myself for this.

so i didnt tell anyone anything much.

I thought we'd all go separate ways after high school n they wont be prominent in my life so idgaf. BUT BUT BUT the friend group grew STRONGER n we still talk on that gc , i dont write a lot n she doesnt either but the others do n they make plans to meet n all n i just avoid it a bit - ive been busy in my life too so i genuinely cant meet them all that much. but i see them posting her in their updates especially B - INFACT B EVEN WROTE HER A HUGE ASS INSTAGRAM POST THE YEAR WE STOPPED TALKING n that just felt bad. B tells me that im her best friend but then why does she talk to her still? am i being insecure? i havent met any other friend like B yet n i trust her a lot , its like she's my sister but she is pretty close to my ex best friend still n posts her and appreciates her a lot n just cant stop being friends w her and it makes me feel so betrayed??, am i being insecure? or should i stop putting so much effort in friendships? i really value a community n i just cant seem to get that.

do i leave the whatsapp group? do i cut them off all slowly? this is like the coolest gc ive ever had like a girl gang but just this one stupid thing that haunts me n makes me feel like what i experienced was invalid. why am i the one suffering?? my ex bff keeps going on being nice to all of them n they LOVE HER, what do i do?? AIO??

guys i dont think i can bring this up w B bc i think it is socially impossible for her to stop talking to her since she has never done anything wrong to her personally and they also hv been friends for 7+ years n ive also been friends w B for 7+ years only idk man . i know this will only result in me looking overly insecure, idk what to do. why am i stuck in this? i wish someone could get bring clarity and just tell me what to do

so the story starts when i was in school- i was best friends with this girl who's mother was a teacher at our school. Now, mind you i went to one of the strictest schools in my district where teachers= god literally; her mother was one of the bitchiest teachers there, like she was so sooo controlling -she used to call housewives unpaid maids n used to look down on almost everyone she could n everybody hated her- she was the definition of SUPERCILIOUSNESS and i was v v scared of her bc i was a hugeeee coward back then n maybe i still am.

and yes, school nepotism queen bee she became, she used to top the class get selected for everything n i was always second but thats not the problem, the problem was i was bestfriends with her n she couldnt stand it when i was an inch better than her but i couldnt confront her about it bc i was scared of her mom. once i got like 20/20 on a chem test (her mom taught us chem) n she ended up getting 19/20 n she put on such a dark face her mom CALLED ME BACK TOOK MY PAPER N RECHECKED IT AGAIN JUST TO MAKE SURE I ACTUALLY GOT A 20/20 AND YES MOTHERFUCKER-I DID GET 20.

this was when we were like 11 to 15 years old, we changed schools when we were 16 n went to this other school in another district which was again a top school( we both started going there.)

so her second toxic trait was whenever she made new friends or something good happened to her she didnt want to share either of them with me, so she got selected in the school band for a fest n then had really good camaraderie with the rest of the band mates. but then, the music teacher called me in to play guitar for the next upcoming fest n had me join the band.

and MAN, i could TELL she didnt want me there- I COULD FEEL IT IN HER FUCKING ENERGY N SEE IT IN HER FUCKING FACE, like she wouldnt even have me have a go at her instruments during breaks. then i told my classmates about this and she IMMEDIATELY FLIPPED, SHE STARTED GIVING ME HER INSTRUMENT BUT IT WASNT FUCKING GENUINE. I mean how badly can u switch case n ur fucking face.

the thing is - REPUTATION AND HONOUR N stuff REALLY MATTERED TO HER.

she had this perfect family reputation that she had to live upto at all times. n i dnt give a shit abt all that but why are you treating me this way right?? why are you such a slimy green monster to me but such a pretty popular baby to everyone else?? why ME????

So i stopped talking to her. I told her that i think she does not respect me as a friend. she gaslighted me- told me that i was throwing away a 7 year long friendship for nothing. she told me i should be more VOCAL about my issues. basically made me feel like i was the one messing this up.

then i just stopped talking to her. blocked her and ignored her completely in class. everybody asked what happened n i didnt say anything bc she had already laid the groundwork that she had NO IDEA WHAT HAPPENED. i told them that she is v superficial n a major gaslighter n she feigned innocence.

will write pt 2 bc this is gettting too long

so the story starts when i was in school- i was best friends with this girl who's mother was a teacher at our school. Now, mind you i went to one of the strictest schools in my district where teachers= god literally; her mother was one of the bitchiest teachers there, like she was so sooo controlling -she used to call housewives unpaid maids n used to look down on almost everyone she could n everybody hated her- she was the definition of SUPERCILIOUSNESS and i was v v scared of her bc i was a hugeeee coward back then n maybe i still am.

and yes, school nepotism queen bee she became, she used to top the class get selected for everything n i was always second but thats not the problem, the problem was i was bestfriends with her n she couldnt stand it when i was an inch better than her but i couldnt confront her about it bc i was scared of her mom. once i got like 20/20 on a chem test (her mom taught us chem) n she ended up getting 19/20 n she put on such a dark face her mom CALLED ME BACK TOOK MY PAPER N RECHECKED IT AGAIN JUST TO MAKE SURE I ACTUALLY GOT A 20/20 AND YES MOTHERFUCKER-I DID GET 20.

this was when we were like 11 to 15 years old, we changed schools when we were 16 n went to this other school in another district which was again a top school( we both started going there.)

so her second toxic trait was whenever she made new friends or something good happened to her she didnt want to share either of them with me, so she got selected in the school band for a fest n then had really good camaraderie with the rest of the band mates. but then, the music teacher called me in to play guitar for the next upcoming fest n had me join the band.

and MAN, i could TELL she didnt want me there- I COULD FEEL IT IN HER FUCKING ENERGY N SEE IT IN HER FUCKING FACE, like she wouldnt even have me have a go at her instruments during breaks. then i told my classmates about this and she IMMEDIATELY FLIPPED, SHE STARTED GIVING ME HER INSTRUMENT BUT IT WASNT FUCKING GENUINE. I mean how badly can u switch case n ur fucking face.

the thing is - REPUTATION AND HONOUR N stuff REALLY MATTERED TO HER.

she had this perfect family reputation that she had to live upto at all times. n i dnt give a shit abt all that but why are you treating me this way right?? why are you such a slimy green monster to me but such a pretty popular baby to everyone else?? why ME????

So i stopped talking to her. I told her that i think she does not respect me as a friend. she gaslighted me- told me that i was throwing away a 7 year long friendship for nothing. she told me i should be more VOCAL about my issues. basically made me feel like i was the one messing this up.

then i just stopped talking to her. blocked her and ignored her completely in class. everybody asked what happened n i didnt say anything bc she had already laid the groundwork that she had NO IDEA WHAT HAPPENED. i told them that she is v superficial n a major gaslighter n she feigned innocence.

so after i stopped talking to her, everything became really awkward.

when we first came in the school she'd made friends with these two girls who were really nice n i became friends with them as well, so after i stopped talking to her they really tried to get me back to being friends- but i hd made up my mind.

the problem is that she is REALLY REALLY NICE TO EVERYBODY ELSE, I dont think 1 other person went through this shit that i did. She wears such a beautiful mask in public but i think i got the glimpse of her true face.

n idc abt all this but why me?? WHAT DID I DO TO HER?? so fucking fake.

so these two really got along more with her eventually. n they love her still. let's call them K and S.

i also got closer to my other friend (lets say B) who knew about all this n who i vented to while i was dealing with her. n she became kinda my new bestie like she was n is the sweetest person ever.

n we had a whatsapp group - me, B, K, S, her and 2 other girls.

n after i stopped talking to her i didnt leave the group bc why should i leave?? she should leave in my opinion. but the thing is i never really made a public declaration about why i stopped talking to her, i only told them that she's a HUGE GASLIGHTER n they kinda asked for proof n instances but i didnt hv any. n i was afraid to tell them the whole thing bc i was still scared of her mother. (i know i m a coward)

the thing is for her- family = dont touch , both the mother n daughter n EVERYBODY KNOWS THIS and they are a bit influential type . n i thought that if i told everyone, her mom would ring me up n if she did my mom would also fight and i didnt want anyone to fight bc i hate confrontations n i was just scared idk i hate myself for this.

so i didnt tell anyone anything much.

I thought we'd all go separate ways after high school n they wont be prominent in my life so idgaf. BUT BUT BUT the friend group grew STRONGER n we still talk on that gc , i dont write a lot n she doesnt either but the others do n they make plans to meet n all n i just avoid it a bit - ive been busy in my life too so i genuinely cant meet them all that much. but i see them posting her in their updates especially B - INFACT B EVEN WROTE HER A HUGE ASS INSTAGRAM POST THE YEAR WE STOPPED TALKING n that just felt bad. B tells me that im her best friend but then why does she talk to her still? am i being insecure? i havent met any other friend like B yet n i trust her a lot , its like she's my sister but she is pretty close to my ex best friend still n posts her and appreciates her a lot n just cant stop being friends w her and it makes me feel so betrayed??, am i being insecure? or should i stop putting so much effort in friendships? i really value a community n i just cant seem to get that.

do i leave the whatsapp group? do i cut them off all slowly? this is like the coolest gc ive ever had like a girl gang but just this one stupid thing that haunts me n makes me feel like what i experienced was invalid. why am i the one suffering?? my ex bff keeps going on being nice to all of them n they LOVE HER, what do i do?? AIO??

guys i dont think i can bring this up w B bc i think it is socially impossible for her to stop talking to her since she has never done anything wrong to her personally and they also hv been friends for 7+ years n ive also been friends w B for 7+ years only idk man . i know this will only result in me looking overly insecure, idk what to do. why am i stuck in this? i wish someone could get bring clarity and just tell me what to do

so the story starts when i was in school- i was best friends with this girl who's mother was a teacher at our school. Now, mind you i went to one of the strictest schools in my district where teachers= god literally; her mother was one of the bitchiest teachers there, like she was so sooo controlling -she used to call housewives unpaid maids n used to look down on almost everyone she could n everybody hated her- she was the definition of SUPERCILIOUSNESS and i was v v scared of her bc i was a hugeeee coward back then n maybe i still am.

and yes, school nepotism queen bee she became, she used to top the class get selected for everything n i was always second but thats not the problem, the problem was i was bestfriends with her n she couldnt stand it when i was an inch better than her but i couldnt confront her about it bc i was scared of her mom. once i got like 20/20 on a chem test (her mom taught us chem) n she ended up getting 19/20 n she put on such a dark face her mom CALLED ME BACK TOOK MY PAPER N RECHECKED IT AGAIN JUST TO MAKE SURE I ACTUALLY GOT A 20/20 AND YES MOTHERFUCKER-I DID GET 20.

this was when we were like 11 to 15 years old, we changed schools when we were 16 n went to this other school in another district which was again a top school( we both started going there.)

so her second toxic trait was whenever she made new friends or something good happened to her she didnt want to share either of them with me, so she got selected in the school band for a fest n then had really good camaraderie with the rest of the band mates. but then, the music teacher called me in to play guitar for the next upcoming fest n had me join the band.

and MAN, i could TELL she didnt want me there- I COULD FEEL IT IN HER FUCKING ENERGY N SEE IT IN HER FUCKING FACE, like she wouldnt even have me have a go at her instruments during breaks. then i told my classmates about this and she IMMEDIATELY FLIPPED, SHE STARTED GIVING ME HER INSTRUMENT BUT IT WASNT FUCKING GENUINE. I mean how badly can u switch case n ur fucking face.

the thing is - REPUTATION AND HONOUR N stuff REALLY MATTERED TO HER.

she had this perfect family reputation that she had to live upto at all times. n i dnt give a shit abt all that but why are you treating me this way right?? why are you such a slimy green monster to me but such a pretty popular baby to everyone else?? why ME????

So i stopped talking to her. I told her that i think she does not respect me as a friend. she gaslighted me- told me that i was throwing away a 7 year long friendship for nothing. she told me i should be more VOCAL about my issues. basically made me feel like i was the one messing this up.

then i just stopped talking to her. blocked her and ignored her completely in class. everybody asked what happened n i didnt say anything bc she had already laid the groundwork that she had NO IDEA WHAT HAPPENED. i told them that she is v superficial n a major gaslighter n she feigned innocence.

this is part 1

part 2 in the next post bc this is getting too long

so after i stopped talking to her, everything became really awkward.

when we first came in the school she'd made friends with these two girls who were really nice n i became friends with them as well, so after i stopped talking to her they really tried to get me back to being friends- but i hd made up my mind.

the problem is that she is REALLY REALLY NICE TO EVERYBODY ELSE, I dont think 1 other person went through this shit that i did. She wears such a beautiful mask in public but i think i got the glimpse of her true face.

n idc abt all this but why me?? WHAT DID I DO TO HER?? so fucking fake.

so these two really got along more with her eventually. n they love her still. let's call them K and S.

i also got closer to my other friend (lets say B) who knew about all this n who i vented to while i was dealing with her. n she became kinda my new bestie like she was n is the sweetest person ever.

n we had a whatsapp group - me, B, K, S, her and 2 other girls.

n after i stopped talking to her i didnt leave the group bc why should i leave?? she should leave in my opinion. but the thing is i never really made a public declaration about why i stopped talking to her, i only told them that she's a HUGE GASLIGHTER n they kinda asked for proof n instances but i didnt hv any. n i was afraid to tell them the whole thing bc i was still scared of her mother. (i know i m a coward)

the thing is for her- family = dont touch , both the mother n daughter n EVERYBODY KNOWS THIS and they are a bit influential type . n i thought that if i told everyone, her mom would ring me up n if she did my mom would also fight and i didnt want anyone to fight bc i hate confrontations n i was just scared idk i hate myself for this.

so i didnt tell anyone anything much.

I thought we'd all go separate ways after high school n they wont be prominent in my life so idgaf. BUT BUT BUT the friend group grew STRONGER n we still talk on that gc , i dont write a lot n she doesnt either but the others do n they make plans to meet n all n i just avoid it a bit - ive been busy in my life too so i genuinely cant meet them all that much. but i see them posting her in their updates especially B - INFACT B EVEN WROTE HER A HUGE ASS INSTAGRAM POST THE YEAR WE STOPPED TALKING n that just felt bad. B tells me that im her best friend but then why does she talk to her still? am i being insecure? i havent met any other friend like B yet n i trust her a lot , its like she's my sister but she is pretty close to my ex best friend still n posts her and appreciates her a lot n just cant stop being friends w her and it makes me feel so betrayed??, am i being insecure? or should i stop putting so much effort in friendships? i really value a community n i just cant seem to get that.

do i leave the whatsapp group? do i cut them off all slowly? this is like the coolest gc ive ever had like a girl gang but just this one stupid thing that haunts me n makes me feel like what i experienced was invalid. why am i the one suffering?? my ex bff keeps going on being nice to all of them n they LOVE HER, what do i do?? AIO??

edit:
guys i dont think i can bring this up w B bc i think it is socially impossible for her to stop talking to her since she has never done anything wrong to her personally and they also hv been friends for 7+ years n ive also been friends w B for 7+ years only idk man . i know this will only result in me looking overly insecure, idk what to do. why am i stuck in this? i wish someone could get bring clarity and just tell me what to do