I’ve been deprived of most human contact for several days now. However I also spent the last few days sicker than I’ve been in a long time and am feeling better even though I know I’m still contagious. Would it be wrong to go out?
How does one go about this
I want to (a) be in a setting where I’m more likely to feel at ease & un-self conscious and (b) avoid places and genres that attract lascivious old men. Apart from those criteria I’m flexible about what style it is. I’d rather avoid things that are kind of hokey and cater to renaissance-fair type people (I.e. square dancing, Irish dancing, that sort of thing.) Things that are at the other extreme (think overtly sexual or very fast/aggressive) intimidate me as well, for example dancing to EDM sounds exhausting without ingesting any substances beforehand. I’m looking for something in the middle.
**Going off my limited knowledge, jazz and blues both seem like they’re a good balance of sultry without being in your face, medium tempo, chic/stylish, and less likely to attract creeps. However I don’t know what the age range tends to be for those (would prefer a younger crowd so it’s not me + a bunch of senior citizens.)
Everybody else, yes even yourself, they’re just gonna have to wait…
He kept holding his hands in strange positions and vocally responding to things (He would keep going “Aww” or “Oh” at regular intervals while most other people in the theater were silent.) My monkey brain wanted to touch him BADLY and I might’ve if it weren’t for his mannerisms.
**EDIT: He had a septum piercing and was fit and well-dressed so I’m sure he was self-aware to some degree. He’d also chosen to sit through an arthouse movie and I’d like to think that suggests he had some level of good taste.**
**EDIT #2: Looking for opinions on whether this sounds like he had Tourettes or a*tism or something or if he just comes across as eccentric.
(It was the kind of physical magnetism where kissing the person or leaning on their shoulder would feel as natural as breathing, a reflex that you don’t have to think about. Maybe how I felt could be partly caused by proximity and my just being in the mood in general — at the same time, this doesn’t happen to me every day.)
This doesn’t have all that much to do with appearance. Some people just have what amounts to a force field around them and you avoid looking them in the eyes because it’s too overwhelming.
***Aaaaaaand someone just DMed me. To which I would say: eroticism thrives on mystery honey. Your dick in and of itself isn’t particularly interesting.
I will never have this. My philosophy is to spend what little I do have on experiences & my physical self (jewelry, gym, skincare, etc.) and treat where I’m living as simply a place to sleep.
The only place I’d want to circle back to would be the nearest arched structure in order to ******(redacted).
Women who are interested in those kinds of things are often fine and even pleasant, while their counterparts tend to be off-putting, creepy, and convinced that they’ve discovered the secrets of the universe. Men who practice meditation or study Buddhism and keep it to themselves are okay. It’s the ones who talk about it that are insufferable.
Lately I’ve been feeling like I want to wear some kind of religious symbol, and a hamsa seems ideal because there’s in-group recognition while most non Jews probably don’t know what it is. However I was wondering whether this second part is true. And yes, not everyone who wears a hamsa is Jewish, but if we’re being honest here most people who do that are. Do you think the average person would recognize my necklace as a religious symbol? I’d be worried about painting a target on my back or causing someone to start talking about the war in Israel when that’s the last thing I want to do. I just want to wear it the way Christians wear crosses.
I found it endearing that she acts like she doesn’t know or doesn’t care whether people might see her face as grotesque. She just wants to do her little dances.
I’ve been looking for a certain kind of public gathering place and realized that I’d used a lot of adjectives and criteria that could all be condensed into one word, which is cozy. Go ahead and interpret that how you will — I think “coziness” gets the point across well. So I’m looking for cafes, bars, or even restaurants that have a cozy atmosphere and encourage people to linger. **Some old-fashioned names for this sort of gathering place would be a pub or a coffeehouse (as opposed to a cafe). The idea is that they would be both a business and a way to facilitate people coming together.**
Apart from coziness I would also be looking for a place where strangers/regulars tend to talk to each other, which might rule out certain locations (like libraries) where people prefer to be left alone. I’d like to be able to bring my books to a public place and read there, and then after a while take a pause and do something else, whether that’s talking to people, buying an affordable drink, or simply taking in the scenery.
I previously made a post looking for a certain type of public space and realized that I’d used a lot of adjectives and criteria that could all be condensed into one word, which is cozy. Go ahead and interpret that how you will — I think “coziness” gets the point across well. So I’m looking for cafes, bars, or even restaurants that have a cozy atmosphere and encourage people to linger. **Some old-fashioned names for this sort of gathering place would be a pub or a coffeehouse (as opposed to a cafe). The idea is that they would be both a business and a way to facilitate people coming together.**
She seems so ethereal and in tune with herself. I wonder how she achieves that level of inner peace (not to mention physical health.) Maybe it’s Maybelline, maybe it’s a railroad spike through the head at a young age.
While Berkeley is no NYC, I feel like there must be places to go that are both affordable and inspiring. Ideally they would feel bohemian in some way — apart from price, what I’d be looking for is heavily vibe-dependent. So for example, the opposite of what I’m looking for would be a place like Blue Bottle Coffee (expensive, lots of white and grey and unpleasant LED lighting). And then a positive example would be something similar to The Hidden Cafe (I haven’t gone there yet. It seems like it might be a good fit.)
Some things that tick my boxes:
\-Environment that encourages strangers to talk to each other
\-Many of the regular patrons are young and involved in writing, visual art, or music
\-Warm, soft lighting
\-Maximalist or vintage decoration
\-Bookshelves
\-Coffee or tea available for less than $3
\-Allows customers to bring in outside food
I get the impression that many arts events in Berkeley are geared towards an older population that can afford to drop $30 for a screening or show and not think twice about it. I’m sure there must be some other options out there and would be grateful for any suggestions.
While Berkeley is no NYC, I feel like there must be places to go that are both affordable and inspiring. Ideally they would feel bohemian in some way — apart from price, what I’d be looking for is heavily vibe-dependent. So for example, the opposite of what I’m looking for would be a place like Blue Bottle Coffee (expensive, lots of white and grey and unpleasant LED lighting). And then a positive example would be something similar to The Hidden Cafe (I haven’t gone there yet. It seems like it might be a good fit.)
Some things that tick my boxes:
-Environment that encourages strangers to talk to each other
-Many of the regular patrons are young and involved in writing, visual art, or music
-Warm, soft lighting
-Maximalist or vintage decoration
-Bookshelves
-Coffee or tea available for less than $3
-Allows customers to bring in outside food
I get the impression that many arts events in Berkeley are geared towards an older population that can afford to drop $30 for a screening or show and not think twice about it. I’m sure there must be some other options out there and would be grateful for any suggestions.