u/Fit-Echidna8830

I’m in a town in the uk and I swear it is impossible to get with anyone even straight people struggle.

Now how the hell is a gay pre T trans guy meant to get anyone? If the straights struggle I am skewed.

Also people where I’m from (a town in Scotland) we don’t talk unless you know them when I’m out at the shops because there is nothing else to do unless you want to get a bus to Glasgow or Edinburgh or something we can only go to supermarkets and we ain’t meeting people in the dairy isle in Asda are we? let alone our future lover

I’m trans FTM however my family still call me by my deadname exe and my family and I are close so my mum babysits my nieces and nephew a lot.

My nephew is now 6 and I have recently got my haircut short and my nephew keeps asking “why’ve you got your hair cut like a boys” and I’m not sure how to react or what to say since it’s not my place I’ve been responding with “I don’t know” or “because” for now because I have no idea how to navigate this conversation with a six year old however I feel he will learn and i will feel bad for lying to him but also he’s not my kid or sibling so it’s my sisters job to educate him and I don’t want to overstep and I don’t want to confuse him

After 4 years I’m finally getting my first boys haircut thanks to the help of my sister I’m nervous about how my family will react but I’m mostly excited

I’m a trans man and I have identified as gay for 4 years.
I love people of all sexualities exe but the thought of me being by makes me uncomfortable. These past few days I’ve been questioning if I am bisexual but I don’t want to be. But I’ve never found girls attractive until now so I’m not sure if I’m finding them attractive because I feel more masculine of if I do actually like girls too

I have wrote a letter to my mum.

I came out 4 years ago today as trans to my mum she basically dismissed it and has been misgendering me and deadnaming and calling me a tomboy and when I first came out she told me not to get a ‘boys’ haircut so I wrote a letter which is like 2 pages long about how I’ve been feeling that I want help for my mental health and why getting a short haircut is important to me exe.

But I’m scared to give it to my mum and I don’t know how she’s always busy babysitting or on the phone or my dad comes home

Hey I’ve not been that active on here, I’ve been trying to focus on my family.

I’m 17 (18 in October) I’m trans FTM and I’ve been out to my family since June 2023

I came out by drawing a trans flag and leaving it out for my mum to find which she then spoke to me however I shutdown when she called it a phase and ran to the bathroom because I was 14 going on 15 and this was very scary and difficult for me especially even attempting to do it in person.

Since then I’ve been giving her time and writing letters instead but it’s changed nothing and it’s getting difficult badly difficult I hate having ti write my deadname on cards.

My hair is also giving me a lot of dysphoria and the thing is my mum keeps talking to me about a haircut but I’m scared to ask for the haircut I want because the day after I came out she said “you’re not getting a boys haircut”

And I can’t just go get my haircut myself my mum controls everything about me and talks for me even when I don’t need her to I feel trapped and controlled and I hate it

Thanks for reading sorry if there’s any grammar mistakes