u/Fit_Cheesecake_4000

Hey guys,

I'm about 15 or more years in the industry at this point. I've been a bit of a generalist up tot his point, for various reasons (health, having to move etc.). I recently took on some more eCommerce-based work to keep my skills sharp but now...I come back to the market and it is effing heavy out here. And everyone and their dog seems to now use A.I. to code.

It's not like I didn't see this coming, but 2 years ago there were still plenty of roles involving coding in various domains. Before the last role, I was debugging and writing GiS/Mapbox based web applications for government (contracted through the company I was working for). Not small projects, some fullstack, setting up deployment etc,

I have a pretty broad skillset: mobile, web dev, web applications, backend, dev ops. I'm just not currently up with some of those skills. So I'm trying to go back and relearn AWS and Terraform from the ground up, and play around with Kubernetes. I already have a decent grasp of networking, python, scripting etc.

What's the likelihood of me finding work in the cloud computing arena at the moment, especially with the inclusion of A.I. integration? Any tips for someone trying to get back in? Melbourne-based tech jobs seem like slim pickings. Is it even worth going down this path and hoping to break into cloud, even with 3 former years in Dev Ops?

Hey guys,

I'm someone who has a father with Alzheimer's in Memory Care at the moment. He's in his 80s and there was a slow progression over the past 4-5 years to the point where he now has forgotten my half-brother and his wife, who he only found about 8 or 9 years ago. He's just had two falls in rapid succession and has lost about 25-30% or more of his body weight over the past 1.5 years. They're giving him high calorie based foods but he seems to want to eat less now.

He can still talk. He shuffles around very slowly. But he is fully incontinent, can't brush his own teeth or feed himself well, barely recognises my mum (and has forgotten who she is a number of times) and doesn't seem to really know where he is or really who he is a lot of the time (thought he was escaping a prison when my half-brother went to visit). He also cries a lot of the time now and his memory seems to be reverting back to early life, when he can remember anything at all.

This is obviously a bit of a nightmare for my mum to witness, even though they're divorced. I don't know what to do but I wanted to ask where does this put him on a timeline and in staging. I can't tell from the online stages, as he seems to be in both stage 7 and stage 6 at the same time.

He wasn't the nicest father and he, even before placed in care, tried to take advantage of my mum's generosity. Even divorced she was still looking after him and living with him (or had when he became worse). We've all tried to do what we can for him in care but I wondered if this is going to end any time soon.

He has had a fairly rapid decline in 2 years: from being able to mostly dress himself and feed himself, and even walk around fine, to not being able to do any of those things and shuffling around...so it seems quick.

I also feel bad framing everything in this light...I want to love my dad and I feel compassion for him but the whole thing sucks.

Hey guys,

I know it hurts to think about someone moving on from you, especially when the circumstances feel very fresh and you feel unfairly treated.

It's always going to hurt when we give of ourselves to someone and they reject our love or care or support. It's a blow: to our self-esteem, our sense of worth, our ability to feel like we can trust.

But that feeling will, like many things in life, pass. It just takes time and help and focusing elsewhere, on other people and the more rewarding parts of our lives that will lead us to joy.

I know this feels different than other breakups and that might be true. You might feel like you've lost your best friend, or a 'soulmate', or someone you envisioned spending your life with.

That would hurt anymore.

But you're stronger than you think and when you look back down the road, you're the one who's going to be seeing with clearer eyes and rewriting *their*story.

You'll be okay. X

Hey guys,

I have had to have a gastric bypass recently but not for weight loss. It was for me a life saving procedure due to a duodenal blockage.

This has all come to ahead very quickly, as possible other options dwindled after many months of research on my end.

So I am 28 days out from my surgery and am, because this is my way, looking into associated risks and not loving them.

I understand that the Roux N Y is a very effective weight loss tool and I am not disparaging anyone having said surgery. But between surgery and not, I would have preferred not :)

I have read accounts on here of people getting repairs for internal herniation (the gentleman from Hawaii posts semi-regularly, and my heart goes out to him for his experience). I am just curious as to how many people have experience IH, to what degree, and is this something they were told about before surgery. Not to worry anyone here, just for my own curiosity.

Thanks, guys. X

Hey guys,

I had my surgery about 3 weeks back (wasn't for weight loss, I have a small intestinal blockage that sadly needed to be re-routed past).

I just wanted to say: A year back I bought a red light therapy panel (half a metre high, one third of a metre across) and realised I could use it during the healing process, both the red light and NIR settings.

Gotta say, I'm pretty impressed with the results. I tend to heal quite slowly in general (potential collagen issues), but 4 of the 6 ports are mostly well healed over with only slight scarring, with the bottom-right port still partly...goooey (sorry).

I also have a 3cm middle central port due to them having to remove a small internal section, and even that seems to have healed quite well according to my surgeon (upper part is well-knitted together, the inner belly button is still scabby but seems quite strong).

PBM also has great efficacy over a longer time period too, so even if you're 6+ months out it could help collagen remodelling and, theoretically, reduce risk of incisional herniation in the future.

I haven't seen this covered much on the sub but thought it could help someone. My panel cost about $400-500 AUD from China but you could likely find a smaller one more cheaply and then just rotate it around to each port site (2-3 mins of red light and then 4-5 mins of NIR every 2 days, depending on how powerful the panel is [less time if more powerful]).

Hope this helps!

Hey guys,

I may have to have this surgery for a medical reason less than due to weight loss. I am reading about the rates of marginal ulcer formation and I'm a little perturbed....they're not low.

They seem almost common (6-16%) in some studies. I understand this is because the anastamosis (new connections) are made from jejunum (lower small intestine) and that has fewer defences against higher acidic content, as opposed to the duodenum that secrets higher amounts of bicarbonate as the food makes it's way through.

This is very troubling for me, along with other posts I have read on here about other people's experiences.

I guess I wanted to hear from any long-term bypass surgery people's experiences with marginal ulceration over time. Are there any people on these forums who haven't experienced an ulcer at one point or another? How many people have needed revisional surgeries. etc.

For me, this is a one-way trip. Once it's done, I can't revise back to my old stomach configuration.

Hey guys,

Is this a common experience? I went through the process of onboarding for Aether: I spent longer than the supposed 48 minutes going through it all (think it was longer than an hour due to the different types of exercises). At one point, I copied some text I'd written into one of the textboxes so I could refer back to it for my other answers. At one point, I may have accidentally pasted some empty text, for which it came up with an error. Fair enough, right?

Then, when I finished, the Projects and Skills panels disappeared and I was left with the Payout/Payments box. Fair enough, I thought, it said it would take some time to review my answers.

Nothing for a day, so I hop on and talk to the help chatbot. My account has been banned for suspicious activity. I apparently had activity consisted with using A.I. or an auto-typer (whatever that is) and this has been manually reviewed and my account has been permanently suspended.

I mean, I get it: They want to pay people for actually doing the work. But I legitimately went through every step of the onboarding process, took my time, took longer than I feel I should have to be thorough and then...this bullcrap.

Is there anything I can do about this? I'm a programmer with 20 years in the field. I use A.I. as a learning tool but not to code, and at this point I wouldn't even know how to use it to analyse video/audio and images. TBH, I don't think it would do a very good job at it, anyway (unless you're willing to use a tonne of tokens).

Any help here?

This is a lesser known track from Powderfinger but I just love the sentiment. And Bernard's voice as it builds and builds...fire.

iI's always beeb a good luck song for me in troubled times. Hope you enjoy it too :)

Edit: Oh, and skip along to 'Vladmir' later on in the video. Also a lesser known banger.

...please just say 'no' and report them.

No, their vibe-coded app won't help you get past your ex.

These jackals need to leave suffering people alone :)

Note: I was contacted yesterday, with the user reporting that 'trying to understand the psychology behind these individuals just leaves you more confused...but my app doesn't!' Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.

P.S. Oh, hey, their app is in Beta, so it's currently free! And it's about using your emotions. I couldn't do that without an app! This doesn't sound suss or like things will change at all! Weeeeeee.

Not to be rude, but to the posts asking if avoidants come back, if they do this or that, why they watch your socials, why would they breadcrumb etc...

It doesn't matter. You can't predict other people. No one can tell you if they're going to want to be in a relationship with you again, or contact you, or even why they're spying on you from afar.

Many of the people on the severe end of insecure attachment are reacting from faulty or illogical, fear-based thinking (anxious and avoidants). They don't really know why they do what they do: they may invent reasons that make sense to them in their heads, but it's a well-known phenomenon that for people who are experiencing high levels of internal cognitive dissonance (which equates to anxiety and discomfort), they'll confabulate and bend reality a bit to make sure they don't have to experience that for long.

Which generally involves shortcut thinking, blaming others (or self, but in a self-pitying way), and pushing the other person out of their thoughts or demonising them. Not always, but a lot of the time.

It sucks. Assimilating new schemas is hard (i.e. confronting yourself) and it takes energy. Creating new stories that demonise others is easier.

So I'm sorry. You're likely going through a hard time. And I'm not saying not to ask your questions on here, but be prepared for the answers to not really mean much to your specific situation.

As comfort food and as support, I can understand that it makes us feel better in the short term. But it'll be easier in the long term if you accept other people are things we have limited influence over.

You're all beautiful people, and I hope you're doing okay.

Hey guys,

Am curious as to what I could have done in this position...

I'm a web dev who recently left a company that owns 4 different websites. I built out 2 of them. All on Shopify.

They had bought 2 businesses and wanted a web dev who could help with SEO. I profiled both sites.

1. The first looked like a scam site. With my other duties I built it out over time and updated it and made it look nicer, but there never was a full web rebuild, sadly. They ranked for some decent keywords but they were a general store rather a niche store and crammed the site with many different products. Most traffic came via ads but the main ones were higher priced electrical goods that had potential safety concerns in my country. Limited backlinks, mostly toxic.

2. The second one was an older site. Once upon a time it had higher DA and a tonne of backlinks but on examination...many of them were linked to scam sites or link farms etc. Old owners must have bought a tonne back when Google wasn't as savvy. Over the time I was with them, it dumped about 30-40 top 3 keywords and went from multi thousand dollar a day sales to maybe 2, 3 if we were lucky. many toxic backlinks.

Not a lot of useful content on the sites. No FAQs, description content was thin, poorly written descriptions on both sites, moreso on the front one.

First year we brought in some decent sales. This year, with the current climate and some mistakes on their part and no backlink help via resellers or manufacturers links etc. our sales have tanked. They did not want me building out content last year outside of improvements - didn't seem the need -and when I discussed backlinks they didn't want to put money into it.

So I have tried by myself with smaller directories and outreach to other bloggers, but not a lot of love there.

I tried to build out content like crazy for 2 months and we did see an uptick across those 2 sites, and the other 2 we now have, but it wasn't enough for them.

They are now going to outsource to an SEO company, which is why I no longer have a job.

My question is...what more could I have done here? Would an SEO company actually help them at this point? Has Google penalised that site with the back links farms attached? I followed what I believed to be good practises and I know how to edit copy and meta.

Or is this a sign of the times, that everything can just be performed via AI?

Hey guys,

I'm a psychology student undertaking an online degree in my home country of Australia. I wanted to get into Clinical Psychology, but due to a fail on the first subject I took after returning to study (which was a shock, let me tell you) and my subsequent appeal not being accepted by the university (illness and my father's encroaching dementia) I am lumped with the GPA that I have, which is less than that enabling me to get into a direct Clinical Psychology Honours stream in 4th year.

Very depressing, as without the fail I would definitely qualify. But I have the marks I have now and there's not much I can do about it.

Apparently, there are universities in Australia that do accept applications from students not in the honours stream for clinical psychology programs, but it's quite competitive and I am studying while working full-time. So I worry about my capacity to achieve the desired marks in the coming year.

I'm just wondering if anyone else has had any experience with this in Aus? I'm wondering if a Graduate Diploma of Psychology is viewed very unfavourably?

Thanks!