Whoops... Help please (future father)
My (26M) girlfriend (28F) is pregnant. We've been dating for about 5mo which isn't very long but it's been going well and we have been talking seriously about future plans (kids in about 2 years). However, we have been relying on the pull-out method lately and my pre-swimmers have gotten her pregnant. I'm terrified.
We're both pro choice, I'd prefer to abort since I don't feel ready yet but she doesn't want to make that choice which I must accept. She told me I can walk away and she won't ask anything of me but that's not something I'm willing to do. I love her and I refuse to abandon her or my future child.
I'm looking for two kinds of advice I suppose; how to do the best possible job, and how to navigate the complications of this happening unexpectedly and so soon... This is the start of my journey so I will also be searching for these answers independently but any and all help is much appreciated. If it's too broad I can pare it down or refine my questions.
Resources: What apps did you use to track the pregnancy? Which sites/books did the best job laying out everything that we need to do? (I.e. nutrition, doctors visits, supplies for post-delivery, etc.) Are there other subs I should look into?
Support groups: We live in Toronto, Canada- can you recommend any local support groups for either/both of us? For me, as this was unplanned and not my choice, I'm really hoping to find a group that can help me navigate my feelings around this without encouraging resentment. I'm planning on starting therapy as a proactive measure.
Benefits & programs. We make good money but life is expensive, I'll be doing a search but are there any Ontario/Canada benefits and or programs that are essential or hard to find? She's a contractor, I'm full-time with benefits, what are our options for maternity leave?
Advice on how to tell our families? It's up to us to figure out the right time since it's so different for everyone, but any lessons learned, regrets, or wish-I-had's are appreciated. Background; She's Indian with family in the area, I'm white and less worried about how my parents will react but it will definitely be a tough conversation.
Tips, tricks, hacks, from pregnancy to parenthood- What unexpected products/techniques can you pass on? Any hidden gems of information on YouTube or elsewhere?
Again, thank you so so so much for any help/advice you provide.