u/Flaky_Ad_1971

Trying to determine if it is worth convincing my husband to spend the money to fly instead of drive with two kids. 3 tickets plus a lap infant would be $1,100.00 or less .One will be 5 months old and one will be 2. This would be a 5 day trip through thanksgiving.

Drive time is 8.5 hours one way.. Flights would be 1.5 hours nonstop one way. Husband wants to save money and drive so we have a car, all the kid supplies and stuff. I am leaning towards flying because I have a southwest credit card that I can use for points, it saves us almost 13 hours of travel time without so many stop, no wear and tear on our vehicle and no screaming children for hours on end. He doesnt want to spend the money, but my time feel valuable to me.

So context, My mother is 52 and I am 32. We have always had a decent relationship. I am now a mother to a 2 year old boy and baby boy on the way (due in a month). When the first came along, my mother was extremely excited and attentive to the baby. She was always offering to watch him for us, (we have to bring him to their home) buy him clothes or toys and generally just spoils him. She still spoils him with amazon buys (she has a shopping addiction) Now that he is a toddler, she hasn't been so keen on keeping him overnight, we haven't had a date night in month? Has anyone ever had that happen?

The other issue is this; I am responsible for the mental load of planning and executing almost everything when it comes to family time. She lacks any ambition to plan or do things. I have to plan any family events, I have to drive over to their home to visit or do family outings. When we had the second baby shower, I had to find the park shelter, rent it out, order all the food and supplies. She then offered to add on to what we brought.. When we got their to set up, she immediately took to watching the toddler instead of setting up.

Should I try and talk to her about it or let it go and accept that this is how she is? My parents have never been super affectionate or "normal" parents...and I'm trying to decide if this is just pregnancy hormones and I'm feeling overwhelmed with the prospect of little outside help from my mother with two under two.

So context, My mother is 52 and I am 32. We have always had a decent relationship. I am now a mother to a 2 year old boy and baby boy on the way (due in a month). When the first came along, my mother was extremely excited and attentive to the baby. She was always offering to watch him for us, (we have to bring him to their home) buy him clothes or toys and generally just spoils him. She still spoils him with amazon buys (she has a shopping addiction) Now that he is a toddler, she hasn't been so keen on keeping him overnight, we haven't had a date night in month? Has anyone ever had that happen?

The other issue is this; I am responsible for the mental load of planning and executing almost everything when it comes to family time. She lacks any ambition to plan or do things. I have to plan any family events, I have to drive over to their home to visit or do family outings. When we had the second baby shower, I had to find the park shelter, rent it out, order all the food and supplies. She then offered to add on to what we brought.. When we got their to set up, she immediately took to watching the toddler instead of setting up.

Should I try and talk to her about it or let it go and accept that this is how she is? My parents have never been super affectionate or "normal" parents...and I'm trying to decide if this is just pregnancy hormones or if they are being emotionally lame.

Context, I am 8 months pregnant with our second child. Have been with husband for 10 years at this point. He always says he wants to work overtime, which means he want tos wake up at 4:30 or 5:30 in the morning. That would not be a problem normally, except that he ALMOST NEVER actually gets up when the alarm goes off. He hits snooze, so we have alarms going off every 5-10 minutes. I try to help him wake up by nudging him, talking to him, telling him to turn the alarm off and get up.. Being so pregnant and miserable, and sleep being harder and harder to come by, I have decided to sometimes change the time of the alarm to be closer to when I have to wake up. Is this wrong of me? He gets upset, but he doesn't understand that I am CHERISHING every minute of uninterrupted sleep at this point in my pregnancy. It is hard to go back to sleep when you have an alarm going off every 5 minutes. AITA?