I’m straight. I’m attracted to women, not men. I’m attracted to feminine women. I need attraction to have romantic feelings for someone. It's what separates a friend from a romantic partner for me. I’m not attracted to men, but I’m also not attracted to all women. I feel most women hate me for this and can’t understand that I need attraction to develop romantic feelings.
I'm 21, and I'm in community college. I messed up in high school and was experimenting to see what I wanted to do in life and what I wanted in life. While in school, I'm trying to do things like find outside extracurriculars, transfer, and work a part time job to save money and invest in index funds. I don't really have the funds to travel or party. I don't really spend anything on myself, and the only thing I ask from my parents is food money. I wear the same clothes I wore since high school days. I never had a gf before and feel I'm missing out on life compared to everyone else. But most of all, when I'm on social media, I see people my age traveling, spending so much, having their own apartments, moving in with their significant other, and I feel like such a loser and so behind in life. I don't have the funds to really spend a lot. If I try to live like them, I will be in a lot of debt and delay the transfer.
I just feel really behind in life. I won't graduate with a bachelor's until I'm just shy of 26, based on my calculations. After that, I need to work if I want to get married and have kids someday. I just feel really behind in life compared to everyone else.
I’m 21. I struggle to make friends or at least friends where I'm not the one carrying the relationship. Whether in a friendship or a sibling, I always find myself making all the effort. It pisses me off when I communicate this to the other person, and they don't reciprocate. I’m always very accommodating and make time for people. But I find they still are very flaky, frequently ghosts me. It makes me really upset that I'm so accommodating and respecting others time but they don’t extend that courtesy back.
In dating it’s much more personal. I want to get married and have kids someday with a woman. I know not everyone wants this but being rejected because she doesn’t find me attractive or wants this with me specifically hurts so much. I face rejection but I feel I’m not allowed to say no. For example if a girl I wasn’t attracted to or compatible with wanted me I would feel very like a bad human for saying no and struggle to say no. This also applies in friendship as well. I just find myself putting in effort in relationships and not having it reciprocated deeply hurts my self worth
I 21M. I’m physically attracted to women, not men. More specifically, feminine women, and not androgynous women. I want to date and be with a woman because I’m attracted to women. Can a woman understand and not shame me for needing attraction to have romantic feelings for someone? I can be great friends with a guy, for example, but if I'm not attracted to them, I can't develop romantic feelings. Attraction and intimacy is what set apart romantic and platonic for me.
I'm 21. Maybe I'm on the spectrum a bit, but as a kid, I struggled to make friends, and even now as an adult, I still struggle to make friends or at least friends where I'm not the one carrying the relationship. Rejection really hurts and pisses me off a lot; it deeply damages my self worth. For example, in a friendship where I'm the one making all the effort. It pisses me off when I communicate this to the other person, and they don't reciprocate. Another example is a sibling. I always try to be very accommodating and make time for my sister. She, however, is very flaky, often ghosts me, and doesn't respect my time. I respect other people's time, but that courtesy isn't extended back. It makes me really upset that I'm so accommodating and always informing people if I can't make it. Not having that courtesy extended back makes me feel like a suck up for being a nice person. I don't want to go down the route of having to guilt trip people into wanting to be around me or putting effort into a relationship, I know that just eventually leads to resentment on both sides. If I had to guilt trip a woman into dating me or valuing marriage and kids, I know that is a high risk for resentment and divorce waiting to happen down the line.
What should I do or understand here because this makes me really angry and deeply damages my self worth as a human.
I have a 4070 Super along with a 1440p 144Hz IPS monitor. I struggle to run large titles like black myth wukong at more than 60 frames when all settings are maxed + max ray tracing. I'm thinking of buying the ASUS ROG Astral GeForce RTX™ 5080 or upgrading my current monitor to an ASUS ROG Strix 27” 4K QD-OLED Gaming Monitor (XG27UCDMG). Based on my current setup, which should I choose? I can't upgrade both; I don't have the money as a college student. The GPU, as of now, is around 1800 USD; the monitor is around 1000 USD.
When is the 60 series expected to come out? If I do buy the GPU, I plan on buying it around summer - fall of 2026 to hopefully get a discount, and instead of paying 1800 I would pay around hopefully below 1500. If the 60 series comes out early to mid 2027, I feel it's going to make my 5080 redundant.
Can a woman understand that, as a straight man, I’m physically into women and not men, and more specifically, feminine women, and not androgynous women? Can they also understand that I need attraction to have romantic feelings for someone? I don't want to feel like a bad person or hated for needing attraction to have feelings for someone. I can be great friends with a guy, for example, but if I'm not attracted to them, I can't develop romantic feelings.
I really like Nvidia, but their top card, like RTX 5090, is like 2000-3000+. Why is it so expensive? Is it the parts, is it the demand, is it really hard to mass produce, or what? I don't want a million reasons, I want the main reasons. For example, I have 4070 super, but I'm thinking, should I wait for the 6000s series to come out, like around 2027? Why is it so expensive? It looks like a thing that can be mass-produced easily. I don't understand AMD nor trust it. I don't understand how their progression works. NVIDIA is much simpler for me to understand
I really want to get married and have kids someday. It’s something I have always wanted. Do most people now frame having kids as unethical, from the idea a child didn’t agree to be born to having kids is bad for the world or wanting to be a parent is selfish? I feel society is now really misanthropic. Basic human desires framed as wrong. I’m straight, I’m attracted to women that why I want to date a woman and not men. I’m not attracted to things that resemble masculinity. Are people angry when a man is not attracted to androgynous women and is into feminine women? It would be so traumatic for me if I was about to intimate with someone and saw they were a man with a penis.
I really want to get married and have kids someday. It’s something I have always wanted. I feel nowadays no one wants this anymore. I feel most people now frame having kids is unethical, from the idea a child didn’t agree to be born to having kids is inherently bad for the world or wanting to be a parent is inherently selfish. I feel society is now really misanthropic. Basic human desires framed as wrong and such.
I know not everyone wants marriage and kids but it’s something I want. I’m not forcing someone into this, but I feel people hate me so much because I want it and try to make me feel bad. I’m attracted to women that why I want to date a woman and not men. I’m not attracted to things that resemble masculinity. Are people so angry that I’m not attracted to androgynous women and I want a feminine woman.
I just feel most of society now hates wanting to get married and have kids and frame it as wrong
I feel society is deeply against attraction towards femininity, especially if it’s tied to women and not men. Women are allowed to say they want a guy who is feminine and very passive, but a guy saying he wants a feminine girl who is nice and soft spoken, people practically want to lynch and stone him. Society is trying to force men towards being attracted to women who have dominant personalities and androgenous looks. The world basically wants men to be gay because they don’t have an issue with a man being into passive or soft spoken men, but they deeply have an issue with men being attracted to feminine women. This leads me to think that part of the acceptance of homosexual men is because they want men not to be attracted to women anymore, especially conventionally feminine women. All this makes me have a strong belief that society is headed towards heterophobia.
I really want to get married and have a family someday. It’s something I’ve always wanted. I know not everyone wants this but nowadays I feel it’s extremely unpopular. I’m attracted to feminine women, not androgynous ones. Are there still women who want to get married and have kids, who don’t look like clowns, and who don’t use substances? Are there still people who see their ultimate life goal as having a family and kids? While I'm in school and trying to find a job I like and also get bills paid, my long term goal is to be able to have a family and not towards traveling alone or prioritize career above all else. Are there still women out there like this, or am I a minority in this case?
As a kid I grew up learning drugs are bad, ruin families, relationships and oneself. Now I feel everyone is pro drug use under the notion of “bodily autonomy“. As a kid I always saw where the husband or the wife or the parents physically ripping the substance out of their child or spouse even if they’re an adult. I think it’s wrong for one to say I don’t have a right to control a spouse or a family member here using this. I hate how modern law treats people as strangers even when married where physically stopping them could be an issue. I feel society is increasingly very anti family and pro individual. Refreational drug use is inherently bad and something one should be able to stop another if their in a relationship or family. I don’t want a family or a spouse who uses drugs and supports it.
In the sense, a man attracted to women in makeup, dresses, jewelry, and long hair and colored nails. And not an androgynous look.
I’m attracted to women; that’s why I want to date and be with a woman. I’m not attracted to men or androgynous look. Are most women offended that I’m straight and I’m attracted to feminine women?
In the sense, a man attracted to women in makeup, dresses, jewelry, and long hair and colored nails. And not an androgynous look. Does society hate the idea of sexual dimorphism? For example, if a man wasn't attracted to and didn't want to date women who have a pixie cut, many tattoos, doesn't wear dresses or make up, do people hate him for that and coerce him to change?
I 21M. I’m physically attracted to women, that’s why I want to date and be with a woman and not men. I’m not attracted to men or androgynous look. I feel women expect me to explain why I want to date women because I’m attracted to women and femininity?
Is this my anxiety around women speaking or what?
I really want to get married and have kids someday. I go to college and want to find a job to achieve this goal. I feel most don't want this anymore. Are there people who still want monogamous relationships and kids? I feel nowadays casual relationships, prioritizing career, and casual life without concern are the norm. Having a family and a romantic relationship is something I really want. I feel the world now hates the opposite sex and ones the desire to get married and have kids.
I’m in my early 20s, and I really want to get married and have kids someday. I go to college and want to find a job to achieve this goal. I feel most don’t want this anymore. Do most women not want to date, get married, and have kids anymore? Are there people who still want monogamous relationships and kids? I feel nowadays, based on where I'm from in the US, casual relationships, prioritizing career, and casual life without concern are the norm. I never really had a family growing up, and having a stable family to come home to is something I really want. Having a family and a romantic relationship is the only thing that gives life meaning to me.
I’m straight. I’m attracted to women; that’s why I want to date and be with a woman, not men. I need physical attraction and intimacy to have romantic feelings; without it, it would feel platonic. For example, I can be good friends with a man, but I'm not attracted to men, so telling me to love a man is unfair to me. Can a woman understand this?
I’m straight. I’m attracted to women, that’s why I want to date and be with a woman and not men. I need physical attraction and intimacy to have romantic feelings; without it would feel platonic. For example, I can be good friends with a man, but I'm not attracted to men, so telling me to love a man is unfair to me. Is this understandable or not to people?