u/Fluid-Spirit-8873

yeah that’s it

First od all I don’t know if i can speak about the religious context here. please don’t remove the poet and tell me i’ll edit if it’s not allowed.
I do not myself know wether I’m here to just vent and rant or to ask for genuine advices.
I’m a 22 yo woman married, after i reverted to islam.
i had a hard childhood, (mostly) absent father who the left me after i became a muslim, mom always worked 2 jobs, mostly raised by grandparents and grandpa was an alcoholic. i lacked attention, affection, closeness etc. My mom also seems to be kinda narcissistic. When i was a teenager we moved together only her and I. It was terrible.
Now I’m in a place where i question everything i did after it was time to finally take important decisions.
I genuinely believe in God but following rules of the religion became very difficult. I most likely suffer from anxiety and religious OCD. Tried therapy twice but never felt like it’s the place i should be at. It just immediately felt like it’s not going to work for me.

Now I’m wondering if i don’t regret choosing such life or it’s just the burden of everything happening very fast in short time and me, not being able to deal with that. I’m a very lonely person, always have been. I have no friends and always had to spend time alone. Additionally i live in another country and my husband is a sailor so i feel even more abandoned than before when i at least went to school. I’m happy with my husband, i love this men with my entire heart. When i imagine my future with him i see no issues. What i can’t imagine is me feeling how i feel right now for the rest of my life. i can’t imagine myself being so alone and so depressed.
Everything has become very heavy for me, very hard to keep up with. I feel limited, restricted, miserable and lonely.
I don’t know what to do. I don’t know if it’s a problem that is on the surface, like the religion, perhaps leaving following the rules would make me feel happier. Or it’s something much deeper that will never go away until i face it with a therapist who would actually want to help even tho I’m not a fan of that at all. It’s not that i hate my current life. It’s okay to live where i live, my husband and his family are sweet. i believe in God and believe that listening to him is the proper choice BUT, at the same time, i have this question in my mind…
there’s a verse in quran that says something which we don’t like might be good for us.
but how can something be good for me when it makes me feel so bad mentally.
what is the biggest struggle for me right now is that I’m in a terrible mental state to keep following the rules of the religion. i also think about all the things that i’ll never have a chance to experience for example school friends group or first school love. my school life was also bad, i wasn’t really liked.
I’m daydreaming and fantasizing about romantic scenarios with fake movie or book characters. it’s my copy mechanism and a way to make myself feel what i crave so much.
it’s not about certain person, just feelings that i want to feel so much. butterflies, happiness.

I don’t know what to do anymore. I’m totally broken.

I’ve found out that i might suffer from religious ocd and anxiety. constant questions wether something is haram, overthinking about what i did etc. it influences my mentality and makes me wanna stop practicing islam. I’m a revert and it began slowly, then i wanted to be better and better, maybe even perfect. and this is what i feel now. constant stress and guilt every day.
i want to notice that i don’t mean by any of that that i don’t believe. i do believe and i genuinely think islam is the true religion. i just want to stop feeling like this.
can anyone help?

I have an iphone 17 and since a month or so i experience issues with my camera focus while it’s zooming. I can’t set the focus on anything, it goes on and off all the time. I’ve been doing updates and i forced reset, it seems better but I’m not sure if it’s gonna last.
also, my phone seems to make sounds while i open the camera application? it’s like clicking and buzzing, is it normal? I’m asking because internet said that if there’s a sound it might be a hardware issue with automatic focus but the focus works normally in general, the issues are only appearing while zooming.