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Hi all, been a sahm for over 8 months now. 7 months pregnant with a 2.5 year old. Ever since I found out I was pregnant again, I’ve lost the motivation to apply again. I don’t really get enough help. My mom keeps delaying her retirement. So there was no point to work and I lost trust in Nannie’s because of their no shows and I am definitely not putting my kids in daycare. Every time I try to go on LinkedIn to apply or put out content, I constantly see workings moms venting about how frustrated they are or how it’s rare their job actually values them. There’s no hope out there for moms. I want to go back to work so I can pay off my car and crippling credit card debt (got fired before I can pay it off so quickly). But now I’m barely scraping by and selling off things I have at home to pay them off so I can still be with my babies. I’ve never financially struggled like this before. All I’m saying is I’m anxious and idk how else to make money to be debt free. I have a lot of computer skills but not sure where to start. I’ve been learning digital art to sell online Etsy products but I’ve been too exhausted to even invest in myself atleast 2 hours a day because of pregnant exhaustion. It’s so hard.

Hi all, I’m 30 weeks pregnant with a 2.5-year-old toddler and had a solo parenting day today. It was stormy outside, so we kept things super low effort at home — TV, indoor play, snacks, and just relaxing together. During his 2-hour nap, the rain outside honestly made everything feel extra cozy.

But then videos from my cousin brother’s phd graduation party started pouring into the family group chat (yes on Mother’s Day of all days) and I suddenly felt really sad and guilty for missing it. I wanted to go badly, but realistically everything was working against it. My husband works Sundays and couldn’t take off because his company is dealing with possible layoffs, plus he already needs parental leave for my delivery. The drive was very far, and there was no way I was going to risk driving highways in heavy rain with a high-risk pregnancy and a toddler.

My parents were already carpooling with relatives, so there wasn’t room for us anyway. My dad recently had arm surgery, so even if he drove us, his mobility is limited. On top of that, my mom told me an aunt who visited us recently and her kids were coughing badly — and those same aunt with sick kids were going to the party too.

At that point, I knew staying home was the right choice for me and my son’s health and safety. Realistically, I also know I wouldn’t have been able to truly enjoy myself there because I’d be stressed supervising my toddler the entire time without much help. Still, seeing everyone together made me emotional and left out today.

I don’t regret it, I just wish I could be there today. Family reunions only happen almost twice a year and I could barely see every one at the last reunion because I was fighting for my life with the pregnancy symptoms.

I know this is just a season, but it’s such a shitty feeling that I can’t keep up with my family’s social calendar now that I have a smaller children when I have to consider their health and bedtimes.

They’re expecting me to have a baby shower, but tbh I really don’t feel like having another baby shower bc I just want to have friends and loved ones together for a nesting party.

Hi guys! I’m due soon with my 2nd baby and I’ve been trying to shorten my skin flooding toner routine down to one toner that does it all so I can quicken my skincare routine. I love milky toners. Was just wondering what milky toner you guys would use if you had to pick one toner that does it all? Hydrating,soothing, and barrier repairing?

Needed to vent because I’m still irritated 😭

I found TEN baby pajamas at a children’s thrift store for $10 total and was so excited because that’s honestly such a steal when kids outgrow clothes every five seconds. I happily brought them home to show my mom thinking she’d think they were cute too.

Instead, she immediately got paranoid and started talking about “bad spirits” and “black magic” being attached to thrifted clothes. The whole thing turned into a heated argument because I felt judged for being a frugal SAHM and trying to save money responsibly.

Like… if someone has such a huge problem with secondhand baby clothes, are they volunteering to buy brand new ones themselves? 😭

I genuinely don’t see anything wrong with buying clean, gently used kids clothes, especially in this economy. Babies wear pajamas for like 2 months before outgrowing them anyway.

I called her out on her elitist and spiritual paranoia mentality and she didn’t like it but she really hit a nerve. So if she had a problem with putting these clothes on her grandchild she can buy her own brand new clothes on her.