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I read the study about the risk of brain tumours when taking desogestrel long term which is the birth control I take and I’ve been on it for 8 years (I started it at 13 due to debilitating heavy periods and pains and it caused me to miss school for a week every time I was menstruating) and the news obviously scared me even though the risk is low I don’t think I can take it anymore when I know what I know now. I came off it once years ago to try the combined pill (rigevidon) and I was only on that one for a month and I became so depressed due to the hormones I had to stop it and switch back to the mini pill.
I am thinking of coming off completely but I don’t want to go back to how painful my periods were before because I have a job and can’t risk having it impact my work. I think it’s unfair to have to choose between birth control or suffering from heavy periods but anyways. If anyone has had the same experience as me and can give advice to either coming off or switching to another birth control method that works for them, I would greatly appreciate it! 🙂

I read the study about the risk of brain tumours when taking desogestrel long term which is the birth control I take and I’ve been on it for 8 years (I started it at 13 due to debilitating heavy periods and pains and it caused me to miss school for a week every time I was menstruating) and the news obviously scared me even though the risk is low I don’t think I can take it anymore when I know what I know now. I came off it once years ago to try the combined pill (rigevidon) and I was only on that one for a month and I became so depressed due to the hormones I had to stop it and switch back to the mini pill.
I am thinking of coming off completely but I don’t want to go back to how painful my periods were before because I have a job and can’t risk having it impact my work. I think it’s unfair to have to choose between birth control or suffering from heavy periods but anyways. If anyone has had the same experience as me and can give advice to either coming off or switching to another birth control method that works for them, I would greatly appreciate it! 🙂

For context, we have been together for 5 years and for most of the relationship I have been the one to plan dates and take the lead in every situation. I caught him messaging another girl 2 years ago and again a year ago and I have tried to move on from it. I have been asking constantly for him to plan dates and make an effort to keep the spark alive and he would always agree and nothing would happen or he would shut the conversation down completely. Fast forward to recently, we had a deep conversation about how I can’t get over the cheating because there was no real effort from him to help me feel loved and listened to and I think the fear sunk in that I was going to leave. He has acknowledged the fact he should of tried from the start to make effort and has all these promises that he’s a different person now and is going to do everything he can to make me happy but I feel like a bad person because I keep thinking I should be happy about this but I’m not because it could of happened a long time ago if he could do it now. Part of me thinks he’s just changing out of fear of losing me but I feel horrible if I don’t give him another chance to prove it.

I (20F) broke up with my boyfriend (21M) after 5 years together. The relationship has been rocky from the start because we got together very young and were quite immature so lots of silly disagreements and trust issues but decided to work on them. Fast forward to 2 years ago, I was on his phone and saw he had a recently deleted text message thread and I recovered it and instantly knew he was cheating and he saw what I was looking at and snatched the phone away. There were other times that I saw onlyfans girls on his search history and links on his safari and I stayed because I saw potential and thought we would be able to make it work. I did repeatedly ask for him to plan dates and he would just agree and say he would and nothing would happen and that went on until recently he booked the cinema because it was a movie I told him I wanted to see and bought me a gift but kept talking about how much the gift cost . I have never been able to stop thinking about the cheating and how he hid it from me and the constant lack of effort to take the lead so I ended it. Now I’m second guessing myself because the cheating happened ages ago and we’ve made memories after it but it weighs me down. I think my lack of self worth is a bit of a problem. Do you think I could have tried harder to make it work? I do laugh a lot when I’m with him and he is kind to me I’m so conflicted.

TL:DR I (20F) have been asking my boyfriend (21M) to plan dates for over 2 years, is it too late for him to change?
We have been together for 5 years and my love language is quality time. I’ve been asking him if he could plan dates or something for us to do for a while and I always get the same response “yeah I’ll change” so I wait and I realise that I’m still the one who has to bring up the idea or book stuff. I’ve explained to him that it would make me happy and feel special but still nothing. He just says that he prefers staying home and chilling and he puts in effort by coming to see me on the weekends at my house. I feel like I’ve been putting in all the effort and that he has gotten comfortable. We recently had an argument over this and I got the same response of “I’ll change” but I don’t know whether to believe him. Anytime I bring this subject up or his lack of communication and effort he just shuts down and says “okay” or “idk” and he will say that he’s just a horrible boyfriend and he doesn’t know why I’m with him.

I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years now and up until 2 years ago there was no real cheating but 2 years ago, I was on his phone and looked at his recently deleted text messages and saw a conversation with a random number, I restored the conversation and could only see a tiny bit of it but it was clearly a romantic conversation. He snatched the phone off me and said “you can’t read that”. I’ve stayed with him since then and tried to rebuild trust but I’ve thought about it constantly since then. There has been other times when I’ve saw only fans links in his safari and he has said “idk how they got there, I didn’t search it”. I know I am only young but he has became my best friend and we have a lot of good moments together but it’s constantly in my mind and I know I deserve better. I feel like I get to a good place where I’m happy and then I just go straight back to feeling unhappy and wondering why he did it. Advice would be very helpful as I’m so confused right now

I had a colonoscopy on Saturday due to worrying symptoms such as bleeding and family history of IBD. The colonoscopy had to be stopped due to my colon being so loopy it was causing extreme pain during the procedure that they couldn’t go any further.
Fast forward to today, I had my follow up appointment with a surgeon who said my colonoscopy was all normal they didn’t find anything and to wait for biopsy results. I corrected him that they only got as far as my colon and couldn’t go any further to which he read through the notes and apologised that he “didn’t read that part”. He then said the plan was to wait 2 months to see if symptoms get worse and then repeat the colonoscopy with full sedation.
I’m very confused because I was under the impression that they would try again with the colonoscopy since it wasn’t completed the first time, not wait to see if symptoms get worse.
I feel like I wasted my time doing the first one because I didn’t get the full investigation and now I have to wait months.
Is this normal practice?

I had my first colonoscopy on Saturday, they had to stop at my sigmoid colon due to significant looping and angulation and the fact I was in extreme pain when they were trying to go around the loops. The nurse told my parents that I will have a follow up with a specialist soon.

Well yesterday I received an appointment on my portal for a follow up appointment on Thursday. I was shocked at how quick that appointment was made because of NHS waiting times.

Has anyone else on this had to have a follow up after their colonoscopy due to it having to be stopped? What should I expect from the follow up? Did you end up having to have another colonoscopy?

This post isn’t to scare anyone about how a colonoscopy is I’m just Writing this to share my story and truthful experience on how things went,
I had to drink plenvu as my prep yesterday. I had my first dose at 5pm and finished it quite quickly and my second dose at 8pm which meant I didn’t get much sleep that night. I also lost close to half a stone over night (a win is a win)
Have to add that I cannot fault the nurses and team that were looking after me, they tried their best to keep me calm and comfortable and the endoscopist was very honest with me about the pain level which she said that because I’m a young woman it may be painful due to feminine organs which is why women may feel it worse than young men.
My appointment was at 8:45am but I was fourth on the list that morning so I had to wait until 11:30. I was wheeled into the colonoscopy room and was given sedation through my cannula. They started small to see how I would react to the procedure. Once they started I felt fine slight moments of discomfort but then they got to the sigmoid colon which began to cause excruciating pain.
They gave me the maximum amount of sedation and pain relief and started again but the pain got worse they had me lie on my stomach and I was screaming in pain which made the endoscopist stop the procedure.
I was quite disappointed they stopped and told them they can keep going because I already went through the horrible prep and wanted to never do it again. They managed to take 6 biopsies for diagnostic testing.
When reading my notes after they confirmed that I have severe looping in my sigmoid colon and angulation which caused the severe pain. Feeling quite defeated that they weren’t able to go all the way but if I have to get it again I hope they can offer full sedation. I have heard multiple people say they found the procedure a breeze and some people say it was excruciating. I believe it’s all down to the state of your bowel and your anatomy. I did not feel the biopsies being taken which was good.
I felt like I was in there for 2 minutes but it had been closer to half an hour which was the effects of the sedation.
I fully believe it would have been very manageable for me if I hadn’t had a looped colon.
When I went back to the recovery room I had a cup of coffee and selection of biscuits which tasted like heaven after not eating for 24 hours straight.
If you have any questions, I’ll be glad to help :)