u/FromtheOldTownRoad

My dad is asking for me to get a cash advance on my credit card and to just give him money for a sports ticket and he says he’s going to pay me back next week when he gets the money and gets paid. My mom’s encouraging saying they are going to pay me back even threatened that she won’t help me pay my credit cards or help pay my bills next month, but I got through this month paying my credit card and bills and it was mostly my boyfriend’s money that he gets from his job and my friends $100 which helped me in the beginning of the month with everything.

They won’t leave the casino until I do what my dad tells me to do so he can get this sports ticket. I am standing my ground.

What should I do?
I feel trapped and frustrated. I currently don’t have a license of my own to get home and I’m 1 hr and a half away and a 30F. Yes I should have my license already, but working on it.

Update - Thank you for everyone’s help. My parents have finally decided for us to go home. I’m pretty sure my dad is mad and going to make any kind of threat to not take me anywhere but it’s okay. I’m tired that kind of person won’t change if you let them.

AITAH that my dad is asking for me to get a cash advance on my credit card and to just give him money for a sports ticket and he says he’s going to pay me back next week when he gets the money and gets paid. My mom’s encouraging saying they are going to pay me back even threatened that she won’t help me pay my credit cards or help pay my bills next month, but I got through this month paying my credit card and bills and it was mostly my boyfriend’s money that he gets from his job and my friends $100 which helped me in the beginning of the month with everything.

They won’t leave the casino until I do what my dad tells me to do so he can get this sports ticket. AITAH that I won’t give in?

Update - Thank you for everyone’s help. My parents have finally decided for us to go home. I’m pretty sure my dad is mad and going to make any kind of threat to not take me anywhere but it’s okay. I’m tired that kind of person won’t change if you let them.

I sent very explicit photos or videos of myself since we are long distance. I thought it would get the mood going all his response when I asked “Did you enjoy it?” He just responded with, “It was good.” It does not make me feel desired or wanted like I feel no reciprocation lately in our relationship like emotional connection.

I know he said I can’t catch him if I don’t get control of stuff or of my life and he doesn’t need a partner he can handle his own and been lonely most of his life and can handle and can manage he’s not asking for the perfect partner, which is apparently what I’ve been trying to be lately. He thinks he can hold himself together alone, but He likes the goofy dorky girl with a secret horny side. He feels like I’ve been overthinking even in simple stuff.

He doesn’t trust me to follow through with every plan we have in the future, or seen me time and time again quit and give up. He cares about me financially and helped and cares that way he’s been overwhelmed and stressed with work and everyone’s leaving his jobs that he has to take up the shifts from early in the morning until night. I guess I haven’t really thought about how stressful it is for him and long distance it’s harder for me and him to show physical affection, so that it can feel safe and everything feels calm like everything is easier. We do want to be together in person again and trying to make plans to do so like to make things offline again.

He used to be so wordy in the beginning of the relationship I guess I miss that. He was the person in the beginning to try and win me over strategic. Just a game to win me over to play with my heart and not to be serious he just pretended he was. So that softness that I thought he had back then not because he never stopped loving me or wanted to he just grew up that got serious that persona wasn’t real. He performed in the beginning because it was a strategy to make a girl fall for you fast. Now it’s all tough love and don’t feel the emotions and he admits he doesn’t spend time with me gaming and stuff because he hates the games I play. He said he wouldn’t mind watching movies with me if he could if he has good connection on his laptop where he’s at. I’m wondering if it’s because of stress or the overwhelm of real life and that we are growing up and having to save and do so much more like the stress of life.

Am I overreacting that I don’t feel reprocation or effort on his end or the emotional connection we used to have?

Mini update- I guess he admitted he wasn’t horny when I sent that. He said he didn’t watch the videos. He said he literally finished being horny and doing his thing when I had sent that right then and there. So I guess the videos I sent didn’t help him at all. I know plenty of guys who would get hard immediately to me or at seeing me like that or seeing stuff explicit of me. So I know I’m not unattractive. It’s just he’s my boyfriend so it feels different mentally.

Am I wrong that I’m looking for a house in Mississippi? I have very good credit and I’m not behind on any of my bills my parents aren’t planning to move at all or planning anything really. My mom especially doesn’t want to go live in Mississippi, but I want to for myself and I’ve lived there for a month and feel that’s it’s right for me to do so. I feel like I should go back and it feels like home. I’ve been talking to a realtor to show me homes and I’m going to talk to a lender. I haven’t told my boyfriend or anybody about it he’s getting his apartment from his family and paying to stay there for a while. I want my own house for me and don’t want anybody involved I wouldn’t mind if my boyfriend wanted to live in with me and my parents hate him, but I don’t care it’s my choice.

So, yes I haven’t told anybody I’m looking I’m just doing for myself what I feel is right. So am I wrong if I’m doing for myself and my own thing and not tell anybody? Because I know I’m an adult and I totally deserve something for myself.