u/Furiosa_H

I've been thinking a lot about divorce laws in India recently, and I honestly feel like we need to start talking more about no fault divorce.

From a feminist perspective, it makes a lot of sense to me.

Right now, our legal system usually expects someone to prove fault. That means cruelty, adultery, desertion, or some other legally recognized reason. But relationships are often much more complicated than that. Sometimes a marriage simply stops working. People grow apart. They become incompatible. They want different things out of life. There isn't always one person who is entirely right and another who is entirely wrong.

When the law requires someone to prove fault, it can make an already painful situation even more hostile. Instead of focusing on separating peacefully, people end up building legal cases against each other. It creates an incentive to bring up every mistake, every argument, and sometimes even exaggerate or make allegations that may never have been necessary if both people were simply allowed to acknowledge that the marriage had broken down.

I also think this is important because not every harmful marriage leaves obvious evidence. Emotional abuse, financial control, manipulation, intimidation, and coercion can be incredibly difficult to prove. A woman can know that staying in her marriage is harming her, while still struggling to satisfy the legal standard of proving fault. That disconnect has always bothered me.

A no fault system wouldn't solve every problem, but it could allow the legal process to focus on the questions that actually matter. Things like fair financial settlements, maintenance where needed, child custody, and helping both people move forward instead of spending years arguing over who was more to blame.

There's also the question of personal autonomy. Marriage is an important institution, but I don't think the law should force adults to remain legally married when the relationship has already ended in every meaningful sense. If two people no longer want to build a life together, I don't think proving someone's wrongdoing should be the price of leaving.

People often worry about children when divorce comes up, which is understandable. But growing up around constant conflict, long court battles, and resentment between parents isn't good for children either. Reducing unnecessary hostility can benefit families as a whole.

Another thing I've noticed is that our current system can encourage people to use legal cases as leverage during divorce proceedings. A process that doesn't revolve around assigning blame could reduce some of those incentives and make separation less adversarial.

Our society has changed a lot over the years. Women today are more financially independent, have greater aspirations outside marriage, and are increasingly making their own life choices. It feels reasonable that our divorce laws should also evolve to reflect those realities instead of assuming that every failed marriage must have one guilty party.

This also isn't an entirely new idea. Many countries already recognize no fault divorce, where the focus is less on proving blame and more on resolving the practical consequences of ending a marriage fairly.

At the same time, I don't think no fault divorce should mean removing legal protections. Maintenance, child support, fair division of assets, and safeguards for the economically weaker spouse are all still essential. Those protections matter, especially for women who have sacrificed careers or financial independence during marriage. No fault divorce is simply about recognizing that a marriage can end without requiring one person to legally establish that the other deserves the blame.

To me, that feels like a more humane approach. It acknowledges that relationships are complicated, that leaving a marriage shouldn't require performing your pain for the legal system, and that dignity and fairness should exist even when a relationship comes to an end.

I'm a little over 6 feet tall and I don't hate my height or anything. It's just really annoying sometimes, especially in India where it feels like absolutely nothing is built for women this tall. Whenever I mention it, people immediately start telling me I should be grateful because I could be a model. I know they mean it as a compliment but I honestly don't get why that's always the first thing people say. Not every tall woman wants to be a model. Why does my height need to have some value because it fits into a beauty standard? Sometimes I feel like women can't just have a physical trait, it always has to be linked to being attractive or marketable somehow. Maybe I don't want any of that. Maybe I just want to exist without people trying to convince me my insecurity is actually a blessing.

Dating has probably been the most frustrating part. Some guys get weirdly competitive the second they realize how tall I am. Even if we're just playing badminton or bowling or something completely random, it suddenly becomes about proving they're stronger or better. It honestly made me enjoy sports less because it stopped feeling casual. Then there are guys who are on the complete opposite end and have this really obvious tall girl fetish. That isn't flattering either. It just feels like they're interested in the fact that I'm tall instead of me as a person.

Then there's all the everyday stuff that people don't really think about. Shopping is such a pain. Pants are never long enough, sleeves somehow end up too short and half the dresses I order online look completely different on me because of my height. Finding shoes is another struggle. Public transport isn't exactly comfortable either when your legs barely fit. I also don't think people realize how much you stand out. You can't really disappear into a crowd when you're a woman who's over 6 feet. Sometimes I just want to go somewhere without feeling like I've already been noticed before I've even said anything.

I also feel like people assume they know what kind of person I am because I'm tall. They expect me to be super confident or sporty or intimidating. I'm actually pretty quiet and I don't like attention at all, which is funny because my height guarantees attention anyway. I spent years slouching without even realizing I was doing it because I just wanted to look a little smaller. I'm trying to stop now but it's such an automatic habit.

I know there are women who would love to be my height and I'm genuinely happy for them. I'm not saying being tall is some horrible thing or that we have it worse than everyone else. I just think people don't really acknowledge the annoying parts because they've already decided it's something every woman should love. Sometimes I don't want to hear all the reasons I should appreciate it. I just want someone to admit that yeah, life can be kind of inconvenient when you're this tall.

I'm a little over 6 feet tall and I don't hate my height or anything. It's just really annoying sometimes, especially in India where it feels like absolutely nothing is built for women this tall. Whenever I mention it, people immediately start telling me I should be grateful because I could be a model. I know they mean it as a compliment but I honestly don't get why that's always the first thing people say. Not every tall woman wants to be a model. Why does my height need to have some value because it fits into a beauty standard? Sometimes I feel like women can't just have a physical trait, it always has to be linked to being attractive or marketable somehow. Maybe I don't want any of that. Maybe I just want to exist without people trying to convince me my insecurity is actually a blessing.

Dating has probably been the most frustrating part. Some guys get weirdly competitive the second they realize how tall I am. Even if we're just playing badminton or bowling or something completely random, it suddenly becomes about proving they're stronger or better. It honestly made me enjoy sports less because it stopped feeling casual. Then there are guys who are on the complete opposite end and have this really obvious tall girl fetish. That isn't flattering either. It just feels like they're interested in the fact that I'm tall instead of me as a person.

Then there's all the everyday stuff that people don't really think about. Shopping is such a pain. Pants are never long enough, sleeves somehow end up too short and half the dresses I order online look completely different on me because of my height. Finding shoes is another struggle. Public transport isn't exactly comfortable either when your legs barely fit. I also don't think people realize how much you stand out. You can't really disappear into a crowd when you're a woman who's over 6 feet. Sometimes I just want to go somewhere without feeling like I've already been noticed before I've even said anything.

I also feel like people assume they know what kind of person I am because I'm tall. They expect me to be super confident or sporty or intimidating. I'm actually pretty quiet and I don't like attention at all, which is funny because my height guarantees attention anyway. I spent years slouching without even realizing I was doing it because I just wanted to look a little smaller. I'm trying to stop now but it's such an automatic habit.

I know there are women who would love to be my height and I'm genuinely happy for them. I'm not saying being tall is some horrible thing or that we have it worse than everyone else. I just think people don't really acknowledge the annoying parts because they've already decided it's something every woman should love. Sometimes I don't want to hear all the reasons I should appreciate it. I just want someone to admit that yeah, life can be kind of inconvenient when you're this tall.

I've been thinking about this for a while, and I genuinely want to understand.

Every time there's a discussion about rape laws or women's safety, someone says fake rape cases are everywhere. Some people even claim that most rape cases are fake.

But if that's true, why do we always hear about the same few examples?

If false cases were really happening on such a huge scale, wouldn't there be new well-known cases all the time? Instead, it feels like the same stories get brought up over and over.

I started reading about it because I wanted to know if I was missing something.

One thing that surprised me is that an acquittal doesn't mean the complaint was false. It just means the prosecution couldn't prove guilt beyond a reasonable doubt. There are so many reasons that can happen. Evidence may not be enough, witnesses may turn hostile, the survivor may face pressure to withdraw, the investigation may be poor, or the case may simply not be proved in court.

None of that automatically means the woman lied.

The other thing I noticed is how often people misuse NCRB data. I've seen the "70% of rape cases are fake" claim so many times, but from what I could find, that number comes from mixing together acquittals, withdrawn cases, pending cases, and the much smaller number of cases that police actually classified as false after investigation.

Those are completely different things.

I'm not saying false allegations don't exist. They do, and they can destroy an innocent person's life. Those cases deserve to be taken seriously.

What I'm questioning is why people seem so quick to call every acquittal a fake case. To me, that also ignores how difficult it is to prove sexual assault in court and how many genuine cases fall apart because of weak investigations, lack of evidence, delays, intimidation, or the way our criminal justice system works.

It feels like every failed prosecution gets turned into "See? She lied," when that's not what the verdict actually says.

So I'm honestly asking: if fake rape cases are really as widespread as social media claims, why do we keep hearing about the same handful of examples instead of seeing new, well-documented cases all the time?

Is there something I'm missing, or has "fake case" just become a label people use for any case that doesn't end in a conviction?

I've been thinking about this for a while, and I genuinely want to understand.

Every time there's a discussion about rape laws or women's safety, someone says fake rape cases are everywhere. Some people even claim that most rape cases are fake.

But if that's true, why do we always hear about the same few examples?

If false cases were really happening on such a huge scale, wouldn't there be new well-known cases all the time? Instead, it feels like the same stories get brought up over and over.

I started reading about it because I wanted to know if I was missing something.

One thing that surprised me is that an acquittal doesn't mean the complaint was false. It just means the prosecution couldn't prove guilt beyond a reasonable doubt. There are so many reasons that can happen. Evidence may not be enough, witnesses may turn hostile, the survivor may face pressure to withdraw, the investigation may be poor, or the case may simply not be proved in court.

None of that automatically means the woman lied.

The other thing I noticed is how often people misuse NCRB data. I've seen the "70% of rape cases are fake" claim so many times, but from what I could find, that number comes from mixing together acquittals, withdrawn cases, pending cases, and the much smaller number of cases that police actually classified as false after investigation.

Those are completely different things.

I'm not saying false allegations don't exist. They do, and they can destroy an innocent person's life. Those cases deserve to be taken seriously.

What I'm questioning is why people seem so quick to call every acquittal a fake case. To me, that also ignores how difficult it is to prove sexual assault in court and how many genuine cases fall apart because of weak investigations, lack of evidence, delays, intimidation, or the way our criminal justice system works.

It feels like every failed prosecution gets turned into "See? She lied," when that's not what the verdict actually says.

So I'm honestly asking: if fake rape cases are really as widespread as social media claims, why do we keep hearing about the same handful of examples instead of seeing new, well-documented cases all the time?

Is there something I'm missing, or has "fake case" just become a label people use for any case that doesn't end in a conviction?

I keep seeing posts and hearing from guys around me about how height is apparently a huge dealbreaker and how they have no chance if they are under 5'8 or 5'9. They genuinely sound so defeated and bitter about it.

But whenever I talk to my female friends or other women, literally nobody cares that much? At most, some girls just say they want a guy who is slightly taller than them. And since the average height for Indian women is around 5'0 to 5'2 anyway, most guys are already taller than us by default.

Is this just an internet thing or are they just projecting their own insecurities onto women? I've seen so many shorter guys with amazing partners because they actually have a great personality and dress well. So why do so many men keep insisting that height is a complete limiting factor?

Are your friend circles also like this or am I missing something?

I know the 4B movement sounds extreme to a lot of people. No dating, no sex, no marriage, and no kids with men. It started in South Korea and it is spreading fast for a very good reason. Men just drain our energy. Society tells us we need a guy to be happy but that is a massive lie.

​Even if you can't commit to all four rules right now, just adopting parts of 4B will transform your reality. Try decentering men for just a month. Watch what happens. You actually get time for your own hobbies. You save money. You sleep so much better. You stop stressing over guys who don't even wash their own dishes.

​We have to stop shrinking ourselves to fit into their lives. You don't have to swear off men forever if you aren't ready. Just take a real break. Focus on your female friends. Put your own needs first for once. The peace you get from letting go of male validation is insane. Stop playing their games. Try it and take your life back.

Tennis, football, cricket or f1, sports are great but men ruin the entire experience. It is exhausting to just exist in these spaces as a woman.

Try to talk about a match and you get a pop quiz immediately. They demand stats and rules to prove you are a fake fan. A man can be a casual viewer but a woman is accused of just staring at athletes.

The sexism is everywhere. Male friends talk over you during games. Group chats are full of toxic locker room trash. Even family members ruin the joy by getting super aggressive over losses screaming at TVs making the whole house tense and miserable. The media coverage feels like a boys club.

I wish more women in my friend group actually enjoyed sports. I just want someone safe to watch matches with without the constant hostility.

I want to enjoy the game without defending my right to watch it. We need to stop letting them gatekeep everything. Stop catering to their fragile egos. Sports do not belong to them.

I have a travel page on Instagram. I travel a lot, take photos, and share them. It gets a decent amount of attention. Naturally, I wear bikinis on beach trips because that is just what you wear. Somehow, my existence and my wardrobe are a problem for other people.

A few weeks ago, my cousin approached me with a ridiculous demand. She told me to stop posting bikini photos. Her reasoning was that her husband was looking at them. I asked her how her husband's lack of self-control is my problem to fix. She then brought her mother-in-law into it, saying the older woman is also furious with me for posting such things.

I am still laughing at the absolute absurdity of this. A grown man actively seeks out and stares at my photos, and the logical conclusion his wife and mother reach is to blame me. The sheer stupidity of this society is baffling. Holding a woman accountable for a man's wandering eyes is peak comedy. I will keep wearing my bikinis and posting my pictures. They are free to look away or block me.

edit: the creeps asking me for my insta ID, what is wrong with you people?

So lately I've been realizing how insanely attractive it is when a man just completely discards the whole hyper-masculine script. Not talking about performance or trend-following. Just genuine emotional literacy. The ability to listen without trying to fix things or dominate the space. A lot of guys are so terrified of looking soft that they end up entirely rigid and hollow.

There is actual sociological data showing that women in relationships with emotionally expressive partners report much higher long-term satisfaction. The whole aggressive provider trope is historically outdated anyway. Humans survived on cooperation, not toxic posturing.

It is honestly funny watching internet redpill types lose their minds over women losing interest in them. They blame everything except their own lack of basic empathy and self-awareness. They think women want a stoic statue when we actually just want a secure human being who can communicate like an adult and doesn't think basic hygiene or showing vulnerability compromises his manhood.

Maybe the standard is just shifting away from the bare minimum. Curious if others are noticing this change in what feels genuinely attractive now or if the contrast is just becoming more obvious.

So lately I've been realizing how insanely attractive it is when a man just completely discards the whole hyper-masculine script. Not talking about performance or trend-following. Just genuine emotional literacy. The ability to listen without trying to fix things or dominate the space. A lot of guys are so terrified of looking soft that they end up entirely rigid and hollow.

There is actual sociological data showing that women in relationships with emotionally expressive partners report much higher long-term satisfaction. The whole aggressive provider trope is historically outdated anyway. Humans survived on cooperation, not toxic posturing.

It is honestly funny watching internet redpill types lose their minds over women losing interest in them. They blame everything except their own lack of basic empathy and self-awareness. They think women want a stoic statue when we actually just want a secure human being who can communicate like an adult and doesn't think basic hygiene or showing vulnerability compromises his manhood.

Maybe the standard is just shifting away from the bare minimum. Curious if others are noticing this change in what feels genuinely attractive now or if the contrast is just becoming more obvious.

Before anyone comes at me, yes, skinny shaming is a real thing and yes, it sucks.

I've heard all the usual comments. "You need to eat more." "You're so skinny." "You look like a skeleton." People commenting on your body all the time gets old really fast, especially when nobody asked for their opinion in the first place.

For context, I'm a very tall and very skinny woman. I've basically looked this way my whole life. Long limbs, no curves, the whole package. So this isn't me speaking as someone who's never dealt with comments about my body.

What I disagree with is when people say skinny shaming and fat shaming are exactly the same thing.

They're both hurtful, but they don't feel the same to me.

In my experience, skinny shaming has mostly been annoying comments, assumptions, and people feeling weirdly entitled to discuss my body. Sometimes it's embarrassing. Sometimes it genuinely gets under my skin. But for the most part, that's where it ends.

When I hear fat women talk about their experiences, a lot of it seems to go beyond rude comments. They're talking about doctors dismissing their concerns, people assuming they're lazy, strangers treating them badly in public, or having completely unrelated problems blamed on their weight.

Healthcare is probably the clearest example. If I go to a doctor with knee pain, they're generally focused on my knee. My weight might come up, but it's usually not treated as the obvious explanation for everything. A lot of fat women have described the opposite experience, where they're told to lose weight before anyone properly looks into what's actually wrong.

That's the difference I'm trying to get at.

At the same time, I don't think this should turn into skinny women vs fat women.

The thing that connects both experiences is that women are constantly told their bodies are open for public discussion. No matter what you look like, someone thinks you need to change something. You're too thin. Too fat. Too muscular. Too curvy. Not curvy enough. The target just keeps moving.

To me, that's where patriarchy comes in. It keeps women focused on our bodies and comparing ourselves to each other instead of questioning why we're being judged so heavily on our appearance in the first place. There is always some new standard we're supposed to meet and somehow we're never quite there.

None of this is to say that skinny women can't develop body image issues or unhealthy relationships with food because of the way they're treated. Of course they can. Hurtful comments can affect anyone.

I'm just saying that the broader social context doesn't feel the same.

I've spent my whole life getting comments about being skinny, but I've never felt like public spaces, healthcare, or everyday interactions were consistently working against me because of my size.

So when people say skinny shaming is exactly the same as fat shaming, that doesn't really match my experience.

Both are harmful. Both can leave lasting insecurities. But I don't think they're interchangeable experiences, and I don't think acknowledging that takes away from either one.

Before anyone comes at me, yes, skinny shaming is a real thing and yes, it sucks.

I've heard all the usual comments. "You need to eat more." "You're so skinny." "You look like a skeleton." People commenting on your body all the time gets old really fast, especially when nobody asked for their opinion in the first place.

For context, I'm a very tall and very skinny woman. I've basically looked this way my whole life. Long limbs, no curves, the whole package. So this isn't me speaking as someone who's never dealt with comments about my body.

What I disagree with is when people say skinny shaming and fat shaming are exactly the same thing.

They're both hurtful, but they don't feel the same to me.

In my experience, skinny shaming has mostly been annoying comments, assumptions, and people feeling weirdly entitled to discuss my body. Sometimes it's embarrassing. Sometimes it genuinely gets under my skin. But for the most part, that's where it ends.

When I hear fat women talk about their experiences, a lot of it seems to go beyond rude comments. They're talking about doctors dismissing their concerns, people assuming they're lazy, strangers treating them badly in public, or having completely unrelated problems blamed on their weight.

Healthcare is probably the clearest example. If I go to a doctor with knee pain, they're generally focused on my knee. My weight might come up, but it's usually not treated as the obvious explanation for everything. A lot of fat women have described the opposite experience, where they're told to lose weight before anyone properly looks into what's actually wrong.

That's the difference I'm trying to get at.

At the same time, I don't think this should turn into skinny women vs fat women.

The thing that connects both experiences is that women are constantly told their bodies are open for public discussion. No matter what you look like, someone thinks you need to change something. You're too thin. Too fat. Too muscular. Too curvy. Not curvy enough. The target just keeps moving.

To me, that's where patriarchy comes in. It keeps women focused on our bodies and comparing ourselves to each other instead of questioning why we're being judged so heavily on our appearance in the first place. There is always some new standard we're supposed to meet and somehow we're never quite there.

None of this is to say that skinny women can't develop body image issues or unhealthy relationships with food because of the way they're treated. Of course they can. Hurtful comments can affect anyone.

I'm just saying that the broader social context doesn't feel the same.

I've spent my whole life getting comments about being skinny, but I've never felt like public spaces, healthcare, or everyday interactions were consistently working against me because of my size.

So when people say skinny shaming is exactly the same as fat shaming, that doesn't really match my experience.

Both are harmful. Both can leave lasting insecurities. But I don't think they're interchangeable experiences, and I don't think acknowledging that takes away from either one.

I am so tired of this. We had a solid friend group, but then a guy joined because everyone else seemed to vibe with him. I always had reservations, but I kept them to myself to not rock the boat.

Well, my gut was right. He got mildly drunk the other night and decided it was a great time to send obscene texts to all the girls in the group, including me. It completely ruined the safe space we had built.

This always happens, and it is exhausting. You think a guy is just a normal, chill friend, but they eventually reveal they cannot view women without a sexual lens. One drink is all it takes for the mask to slip.

The worst part is how it fractures the dynamic. Now the girls are uncomfortable, the energy is ruined, and we are left dealing with the mess he created. It is like you can never fully lower your guard.

Why are men like this. Honestly, it feels like having them in your inner circle is always a liability, because you are just waiting for the other shoe to drop.

I am so tired of this. We had a solid friend group, but then a guy joined because everyone else seemed to vibe with him. I always had reservations, but I kept them to myself to not rock the boat.

Well, my gut was right. He got mildly drunk the other night and decided it was a great time to send obscene texts to all the girls in the group, including me. It completely ruined the safe space we had built.

This always happens, and it is exhausting. You think a guy is just a normal, chill friend, but they eventually reveal they cannot view women without a sexual lens. One drink is all it takes for the mask to slip.

The worst part is how it fractures the dynamic. Now the girls are uncomfortable, the energy is ruined, and we are left dealing with the mess he created. It is like you can never fully lower your guard.

Why are men like this. Honestly, it feels like having them in your inner circle is always a liability, because you are just waiting for the other shoe to drop.

Men live in a differnt world daily. We wake up and our brains starts running a risk assessment that never turns off. Guys grab there keys and walk out. They do not think about the time or how isolated the street is. We plan out routes based on streetlights and crowds. It is exhausting to carry this weight to exist in public.

Violence happens everywhere, but every day fear shapes our routines. When booking a cab, I screenshot the driver detail and send them to freinds. I make sure I am not wearing anything that could be blamed if things go wrong. I check if the child lock is engage before moving. Men complain about us being paranoid, but do not realize our paranoia is built on real facts. Every women I know has a story about being followed or harassed.

Men gets defensive when we talk about this because they want to be the good ones. They say not all men, but miss the point. We do not have a rader to tell good from bad. We treat every unknown man as a threat because the cost of being wrong is out life. It is a privilege to walk down a street listening to music without looking over you shoulder. They think we are dramatic, but they are blind to the reality of male violence forcing us to live like pray.

We spend time and money tryng to stay safe. We pay for cabs instead of taking bus at night. We buy peper spray and share live locations. It is a tax we pay for being born female. Men will never grasp how much freedom they have untill they walk in our shoes and do the math we do daily. The sad part is we normalize this so much we do not realize how messed up it is until we talk about it.

I know 4B is a controversial topic, but honestly I think India, and the world in general, needs more women who are willing to participate in it, even if only temporarily.

For a very long time, women have been expected to keep giving, giving, and giving. We are told to be understanding partners, supportive wives, caregivers, mothers, and emotional therapists. At the same time, many women still deal with harassment, violence, unequal household work, and constant pressure to sacrifice their own goals. Yet society often acts shocked when some women decide they want to step away from these expectations.

What I find interesting about 4B is not that it is about hating men. It is about women realizing that participation in relationships, marriage, and motherhood should be a choice, not an obligation. When enough women refuse to accept unfair treatment, society is forced to pay attention to problems it would rather ignore.

Even for women who never fully join 4B, I think the movement sends an important message. Women's time, labor, bodies, and emotional energy are valuable. They are not resources that everyone else is automatically entitled to. A world where more women feel empowered to say no is probably a world where women have more freedom to say yes on their own terms.

I know 4B is a controversial topic, but honestly I think India, and the world in general, needs more women who are willing to participate in it, even if only temporarily.

For a very long time, women have been expected to keep giving, giving, and giving. We are told to be understanding partners, supportive wives, caregivers, mothers, and emotional therapists. At the same time, many women still deal with harassment, violence, unequal household work, and constant pressure to sacrifice their own goals. Yet society often acts shocked when some women decide they want to step away from these expectations.

What I find interesting about 4B is not that it is about hating men. It is about women realizing that participation in relationships, marriage, and motherhood should be a choice, not an obligation. When enough women refuse to accept unfair treatment, society is forced to pay attention to problems it would rather ignore.

Even for women who never fully join 4B, I think the movement sends an important message. Women's time, labor, bodies, and emotional energy are valuable. They are not resources that everyone else is automatically entitled to. A world where more women feel empowered to say no is probably a world where women have more freedom to say yes on their own terms.

Im 34 now and just looking around at my friend group. Pretty much all of them are in their late 20s or early 30s, and they are all settling down. But literally every single one of my female friends who are married or in long term committed relationships look completely miserable. They complain to me constantly about their partners, but then they wont ever actually admit how deeply unhappy they really are. It honestly feels like a massive lie everyone is just going along with so they can fit in.

​I opted out of the dating pool a while ago, and watching my friends just makes my resolve to stay single so much stronger. I have zero interest in dating anymore. Looking at them, getting married just means working a exhausting full time job and then coming home to do all the chores while dealing with casual misogyny from their husbands. The guys barely do anything, and they expect a literal medal for washing a single plate or feeding the dog. The women are just permanently tired and resentful, but then they still post those fake smiling couple pictures on insta every single day. It really makes me think traditional marriage is just a trap to keep women exhausted and under control.

​My friends always try to tell me Im missing out on love, but they look so totally drained and sad. I genuinely do not know a single happy committed woman in real life. Watching them struggle just validates my choice to absolutely never date at all. Is this just my specific circle settling for bad men, or is this the actual reality everywhere right now. I really need to know if anyone else sees this happening around them, or if Im just completely losing my mind.

Im 34 now and just looking around at my friend group. Pretty much all of them are in their late 20s or early 30s, and they are all settling down. But literally every single one of my female friends who are married or in long term committed relationships look completely miserable. They complain to me constantly about their partners, but then they wont ever actually admit how deeply unhappy they really are. It honestly feels like a massive lie everyone is just going along with so they can fit in.

​I opted out of the dating pool a while ago, and watching my friends just makes my resolve to stay single so much stronger. I have zero interest in dating anymore. Looking at them, getting married just means working a exhausting full time job and then coming home to do all the chores while dealing with casual misogyny from their husbands. The guys barely do anything, and they expect a literal medal for washing a single plate or feeding the dog. The women are just permanently tired and resentful, but then they still post those fake smiling couple pictures on insta every single day. It really makes me think traditional marriage is just a trap to keep women exhausted and under control.

​My friends always try to tell me Im missing out on love, but they look so totally drained and sad. I genuinely do not know a single happy committed woman in real life. Watching them struggle just validates my choice to absolutely never date at all. Is this just my specific circle settling for bad men, or is this the actual reality everywhere right now. I really need to know if anyone else sees this happening around them, or if Im just completely losing my mind.