u/GFluidThrow123

These are pictures from my first queer prom. My wife took me and we had a wonderful time! She's so sweet to me.

I'm a lesbian. I didn't figure that out until I was 34.

But I've always been attracted to, and dated, women. I was even married to one before I knew!

And no, this isn't me saying "I thought I was bisexual." I actually thought I was straight.

I just didn't know I was a woman.

I was wallowing in some of my feelings one day, as any "guy" does, wishing I could experience just a week...or month...or year? as a girl. (That's normal, right? Everyone does that?) And I stumbled into some trans spaces. I started reading about trans experiences. And I thought back to my trans friends. And something hit me.

"Uh-oh. This is awfully similar to how I feel."

I sat down with my wife and we talked it over. We agreed I would transition. (A lot more happened here, but I don't wanna bore you all) Ultimately, that marriage didn't survive. She was straight and I was a girl.

It's been 4 years since I came out as a woman and, ultimately, as a lesbian. (I'm 38 in these pictures) I met someone new, who I've since married, and she has been the best thing I ever could have asked for.

There's something so beautiful and so pure about finding a woman who wants the same things in life, and the same kind of relationship you do. It makes every day feel so easy and simple and free. There's this soft, gentleness to life that can come with it. I never feel like I'm performing for anyone to make them happy because she loves me for exactly who I am.

I'm actually really happy I'm gay. I think it's a really beautiful experience and adds something really special and unique to my life. I wish it didn't take so long for me to figure it out, but we're here now!

Happy Pride Month, everyone!

These are pictures from my first queer prom. My wife took me and we had a wonderful time! She's so sweet to me. 🥰🥰

I'm a lesbian. I didn't figure that out until I was 34.

But I've always been attracted to, and dated, women. I was even married to one before I knew!

And no, this isn't me saying "I thought I was bisexual." I actually thought I was straight.

I just didn't know I was a woman.

I was wallowing in some of my feelings one day, as any "guy" does, wishing I could experience just a week...or month...or year? as a girl. (That's normal, right? Everyone does that? 👀👀) And I stumbled into some trans spaces. I started reading about trans experiences. And I thought back to my trans friends. And something hit me.

"Uh-oh. This is awfully similar to how I feel."

I sat down with my wife and we talked it over. We agreed I would transition. (A lot more happened here, but I don't wanna bore you all) Ultimately, that marriage didn't survive. She was straight and I was a girl.

It's been 4 years since I came out as a woman and, ultimately, as a lesbian. (I'm 38 in these pictures) I met someone new, who I've since married, and she has been the best thing I ever could have asked for.

There's something so beautiful and so pure about finding a woman who wants the same things in life, and the same kind of relationship you do. It makes every day feel so easy and simple and free. There's this soft, gentleness to life that can come with it. I never feel like I'm performing for anyone to make them happy because she loves me for exactly who I am.

I'm actually really happy I'm gay. I think it's a really beautiful experience and adds something really special and unique to my life. I wish it didn't take so long for me to figure it out, but we're here now!

Happy Pride Month, everyone!

My wife took me to a queer prom this weekend and she got us corsages and all. I went to all my high school dances "as a boy," since I didn't realize my trans-ness til adulthood. So being able to wear a prom dress and go with someone I love was really nice.

There was a drag performer who MC'ed, a drag king, and a burlesque performer. Plus dancing, cocktails, a food truck... Really a good time and well-planned party imo.

I went to chat with the drag queen after the performances and gave her a large tip. She was singing live and put on a great show (and I forgot to get 1's so I felt bad). She thanked me profusely and bought me a drink, so we started chatting and my wife joined a minute later.

At one point, the queen is joking about being due for Botox. And I go "oh, I stopped injectables a few years ago. You've gotta do the real cheat code and get a face lift with FFS."

She stops, clearly surprised/confused, looks me up and down, and then goes, "well, we gotta save that for the dolls." And I realized she hadn't clocked me *at all* until that very moment, when I basically outed myself to her. (And during the conversation, she did say "I had literally zero clue until you said that.")

And I guess that was just a really wild moment for me. My wife and I actually discussed it later. I've been passing for a while, but there's a heightened sense of potentially being clocked in queer spaces, just bc it adds the context of "there are likely trans people here." But I'm realizing I don't even get clocked in that context anymore.

I'm 38. I started my transition 4 years ago.

I hope you all can take this as an inspirational post. Especially those of you starting out as adults. Don't let anyone tell you it's not worth it at this age. It really, really is.