u/Gagan_Lazar

For context I am born and raised in Uk but Indian Punjabi.

I don’t have first hand experience but from what my grandparents have told me people used to be a community and religion wasn’t a factor then. Everyone had their own religion but still saw each other as people and brothers.

Also I think a lot of the divide is just due to peoples nature. If there were no muslims in India then hindus would find a way to fight between themselves, or against minority groups. I say this as a Sikh as even in our community we are subdivided.

Also the internet plays a big factor. Most people on the internet are idiots, and the average person is a viewer rather than a creator. The average person is also dumb. You’ll see a post against you and then think negatively about those people when it was only one person.

I also think people should be educated more. Just because a muslims family converted long ago they are still defending that, and just because someone’s family didn’t convert they are defending that. Religion has turned into identity, when in reality we should all research each religion then choose our own

I plan on moving to India soon so am worried about the sentiment there. Tbh though it exists everywhere. Muslims are definitely targeted around the world, I can’t say on here but the evidence does point to a certain group coordinating it. For example, when I was younger no one cared about immigrants much or whether they were muslim. Now, in Europe they’ve purposely let a lot of immigrants come in without regulating it. It leads to groups of immigrants not integrating which cause the native people to hate them. In Europe that’s what most people are always talking about, something that was beneficial to the country they’ve turned to the main point in politics

That’s just my take. Are there any steps to fix the issue and let all people live peacefully in India? Pakistan was created for muslims, but India was for everyone, so we should actually make it that way

This question is meant for muslim men born and raised in western countries.

The general climate in the west regarding marriage is at the point where it almost doesn’t make sense for men. They are expected to take on traditional masculine values even though the women they marry don’t have the reciprocal feminine ones. My married friends are always complaining that they have to pay for everything, fix anything that’s broken and other stuff expected of them, whereas their wives don’t dress modestly, or cook etc. I do know the reasons why the west has ended up this way, that isn’t the point of the post.

I’m curious how muslim men in the west feel about marriage. From what I’ve seen a lot muslim women do follow suit with these things and take advantage of a man’s role in Islam without fulfilling the female role. However when it comes to women fulfilling their role in the west, I’ve noticed it’s always muslim women, so I think they are just 50/50 with it. For context I am not muslim, but in an area with many muslims, and work a job where I interact and talk about marriage with a lot of men.

I’ve always thought women who were sahms were lucky but now I’m older (19) I realise how hard it is, often times harder than a normal job

I had to babysit a relatives kid for a few days and after the initial cuteness it genuinely became tiring. It’s like all hours of the day and when you try and do your own thing the kid does something that you need to help with or clean up.

Now if I’m ever married, and my wife is a sahm, even after a long day of work I’ll try and make dinner or let her take a nap while I take our kid to the park alone to take the load off her evening because she most likely had a harder day than me

What is lust, how does it affect us? I wanna know as much as I can about it in regards to spirituality

As for my personal experience, I’ll keep it as PG as I can. When I was a young boy I came to that age, I realised it was something that kept occupying my mind. I had a girlfriend so explored it, realised how temporary it is and have never fell to lust since. I also have post nut clarity which makes it easier. I remember at a certain point of doing it I realised whats the point if I feel bad after. Normally my senses were clouded so I’d push out that thought. I kept it more on a schedule to avoid stuff happening while I was asleep, since I don’t want to wake up to that.

Now I’m older and at University, I see how many interactions are based off it. After having a few relationships I’ve seen how they are based off it. Not having lust did help me, girls didn’t feel like they did me a favour, and I ended up connecting on a more personal level. I don’t have any before marriage or its sinful opinions, but I treat it more as an act of love and not something thats dispensable. After researching religions, and realising none are the truth, I’m now thinking about spirituality. I feel like it’s something to explore and not to believe, and my belief of it will be based on whether I find truth in it

Wondering what your opinions are on it?

This is a very broad generalisation and not all muslims are this way and it might just be my experience. Also I’m using muslims as an example since in my environment they tend to actually follow their religion which makes other religions often exceptions to my statement

I went to a school that was over half muslim. Whenever religious topics came up they used to make fun of hindus drinking cow urine and laugh at the idea. I also thought it was ridiculous but never said anything. I researched Islam as I was curious and found out that the prophet mohammad prescribed camel urine as a medicine. When I mentioned this they quickly flipped and tried to justify it, even though before it had been a ridiculous idea.

This happened quite a few times while I studied there with me making a point with no context, such as slavery, them agreeing how bad it is, then showing verses that support it and they changed their view instantly.

I can’t fathom the idea of this since everything I believe is based off personal belief, and I only have strong opinions if I’ve researched something. I’ve seen online that it might be attributed to how they are sent to schools to learn about Islam since a young age so it acts almost as a brainwashing, similar to pride of your country, or actions of your parents.