u/GapObjective9107

I have a family member who has end stage cancer and is incarcerated at the moment. It’s refreshing to know I am free and compared to some other people relatively healthy. It could be worse for sure. Glad is isn’t

I have some pretty heavy stuff going on right now, so to be able to help someone else out with just a drink at break time was really nice and took my mind off things. He was surprised I offered. You could see it on his face. I could tell he was grateful.

Things are really hard right now. I’m trying to focus on the positive. One thing is that my partner is always here for me. He has my back and makes sure when life is this chaotic to hold even more space for me in case I’m extra needy. I’ve seen horror stories of partners being like figure it out or it’s not my problem. Mine is here and wants to help me out or listen to what’s got me upset.

I get so sick of having to explain to everyone multiple times my sleep schedule.

The amount of times I wake up to texts like hey are you asleep? How many times I’ve woken up to pounding on my door from the same family member that won’t get it through their head.

It’s frustrating that if they say call me when you get this and it’s 11pm I will text first to make sure I’m not going to be waking them up with a call. I try so hard to be considerate to them, and feel so upset that it seems no one else considers my schedule.

Anyone else have this issue? Is this just a third shift curse?

I have no first hand information. I found everything out via an article. Obviously they have evidence and he isn’t able to be bonded out so I have to believe this. I’m just having issues believing it. My dad is currently dying from stage 4 cancer anyway but I don’t think he will make it to his October trial. Everything in me wants to fight for him to be free so he won’t die in jail. It’s his own mess though.

He went downhill mentally in early 2023. Supposedly they looked into him once and found nothing in mid 2023 but this year something happened and it was enough to put us here today. We lost mom very unexpectedly in 2021. Covid. He has since been diagnosed with CTPSD PTSD DID and something else. I want to believe this is DID related. There were no signs growing up or anything. Sis and I were never abused. Had friends over all the time stay the night. Nothing ever happened.

So what do we do now? Resources? My sister was living with him at the time of his arrest. She’s about to have her second child and will be out of work. How is she going to afford a 1k mortgage? I’m helping her out the best that I can because she doesn’t need this stress. So I’ve been working nights and trying to handle other things during the day. This is day 2 and I don’t know what all needs to be handled or if I can do anything to help her? A go fund me comes to mind and we know this is already public knowledge but I don’t know how I feel on doing that if I’m being honest. Located in Indiana. State charges

I’m not sure if there’s a better Reddit to post in or not.

My water bill is due soon. I don’t have it. I’ve tried 211 and I don’t qualify. I am beside myself trying to figure out what to do now. Do I go through my already minimal things and try and sell stuff? Do I ask for a loan on here? Ask for money directly? Post the invoice and have someone call the utility office and make a payment? I don’t know what to do here. I’ve never been in this position

BIL likes to get into husbands medical stash when he runs out of his. I want to get him a container or something he can lock or put a code on. Nothing too big. I’ve seen some things on Amazon but the ones I found were too big.