u/General-Lie8709

So I obviously have a budget that gets followed very strictly, it’s very organized and has exact amounts my savings, checking, and investment accounts should be at for every week (I get payed weekly so this makes it easiest for me.)

I allocate 150$ or less each week on my credit card. This includes any “fun” items. All other bills automatically draft, or aren’t on a credit card. The credit card is specifically for date nights, hobbies, etc.

Most weeks, it barely touches 100$, but I still kick myself for it. I don’t know why, but every small item I buy (even a 3$ pre workout drink from the gas station) I get annoyed at myself because it could’ve been in my savings. Does anyone else deal with this?

I’ve finally found a stable job, I’m truly happy and I’m making the most money I ever have before. I am looking at getting a house in the next year. Everything is going exceptionally well but this troubles me.

The whole point of being strict with money is so that you don’t stress over it, but now that I’m on stable grounds I’m constantly stressing over money! What the heck!

So I’ve been having an issue with my father lately and I’m curious if anyone else has had this situation before and if it ever corrected itself.

I’m 24, I was working at a plumbing company but didn’t really like it, and then transitioned into a really niche area of lawncare. (Requires certain amount of job hours, state testing, licensing, etc. - I’m not just mowing and blowing, not looking for “lawncare isn’t a trade!” replies please.)

Long story short, I love it. The money is the best I’ve ever made, great company, great coworkers, definite room for growth in the future. Everything I could hope for in the start of a career at my age.

My father seems to discredit all of this because I didn’t go to college. Every time the discussion of work, future, etc. comes up, he always interjects his thoughts about how “you’ll need some type of schooling if you ever want to make real money some day.”

I just don’t understand. To me it’s just an insanely out of touch and ridiculously inaccurate way of thinking.

Did anyone in here experience this type of thing early in their careers? By parents or relatives who did go to college? How did you handle it, did it go away?

I can sense resentment building and I definitely don’t like that, but I also don’t like when someone doesn’t respect my job just because it didn’t require 4 years at a college.

I believe that the “boss girl” mentality has done far more harm than good for the majority of women, and will continue to do so until those who bought into this rhetoric live unhappy, lonely lives.

As I have gotten into my mid 20s, I have noticed an overwhelming amount of 25+ year old women are among the most entitled, self absorbed individuals I have ever seen. They think the world revolves around them, they think the men they date should kiss the ground they walk on, and they’re completely exhausting to be around.

There was a recent experience that really struck me the wrong way, two women crossing the street, mid 20s. The light turned so a line of cars was waiting on them. They looked, made eye contact with me, and just continued walking. No wave, no hurried jog to clear the intersection. Just complete disdain for the 15+ cars they’ve held up.

And things like this happen all the time. No “thank you” if you hold a door open. No “excuse me” if they’re in your way in the store. As if they’re queens and they think the world is their servant.

You’ll see this in dating, where straight up disrespect to the men they’re supposed to be attracted to and enjoying time with is often celebrated on social media or between friends. The issue is, men don’t find this attractive and don’t want to deal with it, which leaves these women single and even more bitter.

In an effort to empower women, I believe we have created a huge disconnect in reality, and instead of independent women, we just now have unkind and selfish women.

FOR MODS ABD RULES: this is obviously not all women. There’s plenty of lovely, kind, friendly young women out there. Plenty of women don’t buy into this stuff, and are just normal like everyone else.

So I’ve had OCD for all of my teen/adult life. By far, my biggest trigger/issue is emetophobia. I had a couple experiences as a child that I think sparked this, but the biggest was I was actually thrown up on in second grade. A girl threw up on my back in line at school. That’s the only thing I can come up with as to why I have this issue.

It’s so annoying. Throughout middle/high school, and then minor professional hockey (I didn’t go to college, just hockey) any time a classmate or teammate got sick, I was always trying to find out when, what kind of illness, etc.. I would always wash hands excessively, and try to get teammates and family to do the same if possible.

Now that I’m working, this recent parasite is rough on me. Just the past two days, a coworker had a “stomach bug.” Just like always, I hear those words and I literally feel something in my body shift. I feel some uncomfortable “cloud” set over me. The handwashing, the monitoring myself, monitoring what the sick person touches, it’s all back. It’s just so exhausting.

Idk what to do. This avoidance isn’t sustainable. I can’t run from this forever. Does anyone else resonate? Has anyone overcome this?

I will try and make this as clear and easy to read as possible. I recently started a new job and just noticed an interesting discrepancy in one of my pay stubs. These are gross pay numbers. Weekly pay, every Friday.

PAYCHECK 1 (5/22/26)
Total Pay: $950.25
YTD: $950.25

PAYCHECK 2 (5/29/26)
Total Pay: $934.50
YTD: $1884.75

PAYCHECK 3 (6/05/26)
Total Pay: $740.25
YTD: $3365.25

PAYCHECK 4 (6/12/26)
Total pay: $1210.13
YTD: $3835.13

The issue is paycheck 3. My YTD is inflated by double that week’s amount. The correct YTD should’ve been $2625.

Then on the most recent check, it looks like it was corrected where the YTD only raises by $469.88, when I was actually paid over $1200.

Obviously on the most recent stub everything is accurate and appears up to date, but is this something you would go to HR or a payroll manager about? I just don’t want my taxes messed up because of something silly like this. I also want to correct it early if there is an issue, that way it doesn’t get worse and worse as I earn more with this company.

Thank you!