u/General_Climate2442

I saw this post and it reminded me of when I was younger. I was friends with women because I was insecure and felt I could not compete with other men. The problem is I'm straight and so when they anything other than hard lesbian, there are a lot of complicated boundary issues. Not just about the sexual stuff but it terms of emotional closeness and what is ok and what is not ok to share with them.

The biggest issue is that with one in particular it became parasocial since we were online friends for 16 years but never met face to face. But also, I find that women are often not reliable friends and these friendships tend to fade with time and in many cases they flat out ghost me. Or just break it off.

Lastly, fraternizing with women is fine but when you do so you tend to unconsciously emulate their behaviors and relational styles which can backfire when you want to actually date one.

How do autistic people perceive time? Or how do you perceive it? I ask because to me, time is visual and is a dimension of space. And I thought this way long before learning about spacetime/relativity theory. I think of time, including years and the calendar, as being an infinitely long ribbon stretching across the entire universe. But it is not a straight ribbon: it is twisted and helical. I imagine it extending before the universe began and beyond the universes end; yet those parts are hidden and cannot be seen even with the minds eye.

There seems to be a lot of criticism lately about this movie and how it's somehow politically incorrect. I never thought of it as politically conservative. It's all about Ferris taking the day off to save a friend from his own self destruction. It's a movie about confidence and self esteem. Cameron undergoes a transformation(the Catatonic episode) and a symbolic rebirth. Why does everyone assume it's about Ferris and hyperfixate on Ferris' privilege when in reality, he isn't even a realistic person. He's almost a mythological figure even in the movie. I liked to think of him as a manic pixie dream guy.

This is by far one of the greatest songs(even though the lyrics are hard to make out and seemingly vague). I have always wanted to make a music video to this song(staring me as the outlaw of course haha). It evokes a series of scenes from a movie:

Our hero, an eccentric outlaw who is deeply misunderstood and persecuted for being a social misfit, has fled the outpost town into the desert to escape being hanged for a crime he did not commit. He abandons his horse wanders on foot into a rocky desert plain surrounded by towering cliffs under a grey monsoon sky. He grows tired and sits down as dusk falls, taking out his revolver and puts a round into the magazine, puts the gun at his head in utter despair. He then drops the gun on the ground, lays down and dozes off. There is a full moon that night and instead of sleeping he goes into a trance. He sees blurry figures of plains Indians standing over him and sees their bonfire as the medicine man is performing his ritual cleansing. And then he finds himself standing again as a blue grey fog has settled on the valley. All of the sudden, 3 giants come out of the fog. They are about 200 feet tall and have bright glowing pale yellow eyes but no visible mouths(looking exactly like the iron giant). One stoops down to open its hands and he crawls into it them. The giant lifts him up high as he shudders in awe at the sight! And then as the giant holds him in the air he stands up and stands tall with that spark of confidence and purpose in his eyes. His despair is gone, his pride restored and he feels a rush of inner power. The last 2 power chords of the song show flashes of lightning bolts as he says to himself "the power is in me!".

That is, I *hear* it again and again.

• Austra: Lose it
• 3 doors down: When I'm gone
• Simon & Garfunkel: The sound of silence
• The Cure: A forest(for this one, it's as if Orpheus briefly escaped the underworld in the middle of the night by crawling up from a cave shaft. He thought he heard Eurydice calling him and ran off into the woods to discover she wasn't even there. He was lost in the forest all alone, but somehow crawled back into the underdark before dawn)

Undoubtedly there are many more. It is one of the most common themes in modern music. Orpheus is ancient rock legend who played the mean Lyre.

Since I cannot do polls I will have to use bullet points. What is your cognitive function?

• Tellurium(TE)
• Titanium(TI)
• Silicon(SI)
• Selenium(SE)
• Neon(NE)
• Nickel(NI)
• Iron(FE)
• Finland(FI)

I heard the name quite a lot among online synthpop circles back in the late 1990s but never bothered to listen to them. For some reason I as an American don't recall hearing "forever young" back in the 1980s as a kid. But in 2024 that song resurfaced online and I have no idea where(in cyberspace) and why. It became a retro hit and inspired a hit cover.

Needless to say, there is one song on their debut album I absolute love and that is "summer in Berlin". How did that not become a hit?

I wonder if the overrepresentation among autism amongst the polyamorous population might have some pragmatic reasons and not just be purely based on emotional preferences. The monogamous dating "market" is often competitive and if a person has only one partner, that partner has to meet multiple needs. For autistic guys in particular, they are often not able to effectively compete in heterosexual dating markets and especially those with unmaskable autism(sometimes it's economic: they might not make enough money to pay all of their bills). With polyamory, if you have multiple partners than different partners can fulfill different needs. I have also noticed poly women tend to be more accepting of non-traditional masculinity(or diverse masculine roles). I wonder if the issue carries over to autistic women in terms of not being able to compete or if for them, it's just more comfort with polyamory in general due to being high autonomy.