u/General_Opposite_138

Bonjour!

Je suis une femme de 34 ans qui travaille à temps plein, du lundi au vendredi de 8 h à 16 h.

Depuis ma séparation, il y a près de deux ans, avec le père de mes deux jeunes enfants, je dispose de davantage de temps libre puisque nous avons une garde partagée à 50-50.

J'aimerais trouver une source de revenus complémentaire qui me permettrait à la fois de rester occupée et d'économiser davantage pour réaliser plus de voyages dans les prochaines années. Toutefois, mon principal défi est mon horaire variable.

Nous avons une garde partagée selon un horaire 2-2-3, ce qui signifie que j'ai une fin de semaine sur deux de libre ainsi que deux soirées sans enfants en semaine, en alternance (lundi et mardi une semaine, puis mercredi et jeudi la suivante).

Auriez-vous des idées de revenus d'appoint ou de petits emplois qui pourraient bien s'adapter à ce type d'horaire?

Petite précision : les opportunités de type Arbonne, Tupperware, Monat, Herbalife ou toute autre entreprise fonctionnant selon un modèle de marketing relationnel (MLM) ne m'intéressent absolument pas. Je recherche plutôt un emploi ou une activité rémunérée avec une structure plus traditionnelle et un revenu concret.

Merci à l'avance pour vos suggestions!

I'm a woman in my 30s. I was in a relationship with a Chinese man for 10 years, and we have two daughters together. We separated about two years ago.

I've always been drawn to Japanese and Korean culture, and East Asian cultures more broadly, though I don't think it's in a "weeaboo" kind of way. At the same time, I've generally been more attracted to men with dark hair and dark eyes, which means I often find Asian men appealing physically.

The thing is, from the outside, I can see how it might look like I have a racial preference. However, I don't actually care where a man is from as long as I'm attracted to him and we share compatible values.

For example, I probably wouldn't date a Japanese man who has spent his entire life in Japan, simply because I think our values and life experiences would be too different. My ex immigrated to Canada when he was eight years old, so culturally we had a lot in common despite our different backgrounds.

What I'm wondering is this: given that I have mixed-race children and a dating history that seems to lean toward Asian men, does that come across negatively?

I don't believe I'm fetishizing Asian men. To me, they just tend to fit my physical type more often than other groups. Physical attraction is only one part of the equation though; shared values, compatibility, and personality are ultimately much more important.

I'm genuinely interested in hearing honest opinions.

I think I'm especially interested in hearing the perspectives of Asian men, since they're the ones on the receiving end of this kind of situation.

I'm a woman in my 30s. I was in a relationship with a Chinese man for 10 years, and we have two daughters together. We separated about two years ago.

I've always been drawn to Japanese and Korean culture, and East Asian cultures more broadly, though I don't think it's in a "weeaboo" kind of way. At the same time, I've generally been more attracted to men with dark hair and dark eyes, which means I often find Asian men appealing physically.

The thing is, from the outside, I can see how it might look like I have a racial preference. However, I don't actually care where a man is from as long as I'm attracted to him and we share compatible values.

For example, I probably wouldn't date a Japanese man who has spent his entire life in Japan, simply because I think our values and life experiences would be too different. My ex immigrated to Canada when he was eight years old, so culturally we had a lot in common despite our different backgrounds.

What I'm wondering is this: given that I have mixed-race children and a dating history that seems to lean toward Asian men, does that come across negatively?

I don't believe I'm fetishizing Asian men. To me, they just tend to fit my physical type more often than other groups. Physical attraction is only one part of the equation though; shared values, compatibility, and personality are ultimately much more important.

I'm genuinely interested in hearing honest opinions.

Edit : I think I'm especially interested in hearing the perspectives of Asian men, since they're the ones on the receiving end of this kind of situation.

I (35F) had a date with a 30(M) man. We both have kids with shared custody. We met in a bar close to my place and as I joined him at the table, he complimented my appearance. The date went well, easy going conversation, pretty good vibe. I usually never do this but since I felt safe and he seemed to want to pursue the date, I invited him to my place to have one last drink. I knew it would lead to sex, probably, which I was ok with. Beforehand, he even told me he would be interested in seeing me again. I am not looking for a specific type of relationship so I am open to one night stands if the vibe is fine. I haven't met anyone interesting enough to have physical contacts in a few months so I was eager to finally feel that attraction.

We chatted and, as I was expecting, ended up having sex. It was good, not awkward, at least, on my part. I consider myself pretty self aware so I feel I would have had signs if he wasn't into it. He left a little bit after as it was pretty late and he had to get his kid the next morning. He texted me when he got home.

The next day, I just asked him hos his morning was going, he said he was tired but otherwise good. That was it. I was taken aback that he didn't try to maintain the conversation but hey, we don't owe each other anything. Anyway, the next day, out of curiosity, I checked his Instagram profil and noticed that he unfollowed me. He also deleted me from hinge. Again, he is a free man but I thought it was a bit disrespectful without even one work like 'hey I changed my mind, I don't feel up to anything right now' or 'hey it was fun but I don't want to pursue this'.

This never happened to me so on impulse, I juste messaged him 'it's pretty low to delete me from everything without even one word. it says a lot about the type of person you are. ' and he just answered ' yeah i deleted hinge ' without addressing anything. So I blocked him.

I know it's part of the OLD but as adults, I expected something more mature. The main issue is that my ego is pretty bruised right now and I am sad to admit it did affect my self esteem a little bit.