r/AMWFs

Hello guys, for some religious reason, I have to find wife among people from Eastern Europe, especially those from Orthodox countries ( Russia, Serbia etc...).

I know Eastern Europe generally have less stéréotype toward Asian male, however from what I've heard, they are more conservative when it comes to marriage. So while a girl might go on date with me, but not necessarily obtaining the approval of its family.

For women of Eastern European origin who married to an Asian man, how was it with your family ? Did they approve or were they against it ? If it’s possible, I want to hear people from Serbia, a country I have a very good feeling with

I’m a white female in my mid 40’s. I’ve been seeing an Asian man in his late 40’s for about 2 months. He was born in the US. He has never been married and hasn’t really had long term relationships. I like this man a lot. Like down bad. I’m pretty sure he likes me a lot too but he is pretty guarded.

His mother is coming to stay with him for a few months and she has very high standards for who he should be with (career wise, academically, must be Asian etc.) I’m successful in my career but do not meet these requirements.

He has a demanding career and demanding hobbies he makes time for. With his mother coming it doesn’t sound like he will have much time for me (I’m sure he won’t introduce me bc I’m sure I’m not “good enough”). I understand that his mom is obviously a priority and should be. But I’m both hurt that he seemingly won’t be making much making time for me and curious how this mother thing will play out.

I don’t know a lot about the Asian mom dynamic except for what I see in the movies. I guess my question is do I wait this out and see what happens with his mom or is it a lost cause? Do some men, even in their late 40’s, let their mom control their love life? I know he has a mind of his own and I can’t see him calling it quits bc of her opinion, but at the same time I don’t want to be the lowest priority.

Hello everyone, I have been feeling so anxious and restless for really a long time because I feel my girlfriend(21F, and she thinks that she is NB, but whatever, she is forever the most beautiful one in my eyes) isn't satisfied with me. We are having a long-distance relationship( we have been dating for only few months), and we have really different hobbies. She likes anime and some games like deltarune, and some other cute things like Chiikawa, so to make her feel happier, I always use some spare time to learn more things about the things that she's interested in, just to add more topics that we can talk about. Besides the differences of our hobbies, we also have lots of things similar, like both of us having ADHD, and depression, I want to do my best to make her feel warmth and heal her traumas.

When she came to visit me in my city, I tried to pay for everything for her, buying gifts and food, but I felt I didn't do enough, supposed to take her to visit some more romantic places in my city to make her feel the trip is unforgettable. (Actually, I have to say I feel there supposed to be more decorations in my room; it's very simple and supposed to perpare a show towel for her and change the bed sheet more frequently, but boy, lol, always living in a rough life)Since she returned to her city, she has constantly feelings sleepy and lack energy about anything, so we began to talk less.

She is also struggling with her financial situation, needs to pay the rental fee and daily expenses, also the credit card (I don't really understand why her parents aren't paying these for her), luckily my parents are paying my rent and tuition and basic daily life expenses(I'm actually an international student from another country), so I only earn money for entertainment and helping her. I was a cashier, and I started working as a food delivery worker since this Wednesday, and the boss told me that I could receive my first salary on Thursday, so I told my girlfriend that I can send her some money on Thursday evening, but its already Sunday now, and I still haven't receive any salary! Boss only told me that they will check and give me a result on Monday. I feel really guilty and really sorry to my girlfriend, and since early this week she stopped talking to me, (didn't block me ), so , every time I think about she might struggling and feel desperate, i always feel my heart is being grilled and chopping. 😭

My parents don't like her, they think that she is overweight, and she is from a different culture background with me but I don't mind these at all, all I want is finish the last two semesters and get the diploma and find a better job and living with her, and I want to show her that I can be a responsible man, a credible person that she can trust and rely on. I sincerely apologize for the grammar mistakes that I made, English isn't my native and I need to work on it.

I seriously keep getting recommended weird posts by dumb wanna be influencers, and alot of them are AM too, where they complain about being liked because of being asian.

It's so ridiculous, obviously race and ethnicity will play a major role since a 100% asian will have the asian look 99% of the time, and hate to break it to the world, looks is the biggest factor for first impression before talking to someone.

I do agree that after that first impression, your character needs to shine in order to actually break the ice and develop a bond, but to say your race, culture, and looks shouldn't matter is total BS.

If there's one thing I will never be able to change about me is me being asian, and that means if a woman likes me for being asian the relationship should have higher chance of lasting.

Because I definitely would not choose a woman who wants me for my money, how much property i own, the car i drive. Even if she wants me for just my character (which would be amazing), my character can still change. PEOPLE CHANGE THEIR VALUES as they get older, meaning your spouse could fall out of love with you.

In the end, trust, work ethic, and compatibility is of uttermost importance. But race, culture, and looks, matter too, and I AM TOTALLY FINE WITH THAT.

F all the ultra liberal, holier than thou, 'oh look how virtuous i am by being critical of people who like me' people. Social media really ruins everything nowadays.

Just wondering if anyone has a story where, say you liked an AM or WF and they said they weren't into WF/AM, or its something you inferred, or they just weren't initially into you, but over time a romantic relationship developed? Like if someone say doesn't generally find x ethnicity attractive, how often do they find themselves eventually taking for a specific individual they have a real spark with, if you know what I'm saying.

Do Asian men ever like "bad girls"? Sarcastic alpha edgy?

Or only someone polite respectful mannerly submissive delicate who let's the guy lead?

I know everyone is different but I haven't had any luck finding Asian men who accept me for me

I'm a bit rough around the edges so I'm wondering if I should just give up on finding an asian partner?

I just wanted to post here to share my experience as a WF who is actively dating right now. In the course of about a month I've matched with all kinds of men. So far, the Asian men I've matched with have been the only ones to actually ask me out on an actual date. All the White, Black, and Latino guys I've matched with usually let the conversation die and never actually make it to the date. Just wanted to show my appreciation for the AM community for being men of action! At least in my very limited sample lol. ❤️

I see a lot of incel posts on those redpill communities or those comments on IG etc, where they slander WF for being toxic or whatever.

And i personally have yet to meet one.

literally all of my interactions, friendships,relationships,situationships have been healthy. Even my rejections, I was rejected by a tall blonde last year, and I have never walked away from a rejection with a smile on my face until this one, because both of us were smiling at the end. She was also the first ever girl I made blush lol, which was so cool to me.

And the other ones that I did end up chatting or more and it still didnt lead up to anything, it still didnt end up toxic, it just died off and we didnt go online slandering each other or whatnot. Something I did experience with my exes.

I personally think WF should fight back against those redpill posts and comments, unless i'm missing something, it's considered slander and that's illegal.

Please share your story 😊

As title, I have mostly known AF ever since and have never really get to know much WF growing up. Especially with a good portion of my childhood being in Asia I have rarely seen and know any WF until I moved back to NA.

Also over the years talking and hanging out with only AF, I realized nothing really ever clicked for me with any of them. I have been approached in HS by AF but at the end things didn't really work and I ended up never being in relationship ever lol.

However over the years living in NA and getting to meet more WF in different settings, I have become more attracted to some of them but at the same time I'm also not sure how to approach this as I have never really had any WF friends let alone dated one. (tbh I have also not been talking to a lot of women in general lately in recent years due to school and work)

Tbh, I'm just a little lost with my feelings rn and was wondering if anyone had any similar experiences or suggestions on what I should do next.

18M from Sydney, Australia a uni student (or college student whatever) and today I'm glad that I have approached someone.

I had a maths class test today. Usually my maths class is 2PM but came at 12PM due to the being a test (my teacher didn't mind); class usually is back to back from 12PM-6PM. I was sitting in the back of the classroom and there was a WF sitting directly in front of me. It was apparently her first time/week attending the class despite our class is already 4 weeks in.

During the last minute of the class test, my heart started racing because usually every week in maths class, we split into small groups around the classroom. There are multiple whiteboards around the room, so each group picks a whiteboard and works through the tutorial questions together. The teacher then walks around from group to group, checks our work and helps us with the questions. I could tell that she was probably going to look for a group once the test was finished.

There was already a group of guys working together on the left side of the classroom (me and her were both on the LHS of the classroom), while other students were starting to form their own groups at the different whiteboards. Since she was sitting directly in front of me and didn't seem to have a group yet, I figured this was probably my chance to ask her.

I was a bit nervous and stuff and I looked around the room and trying to find other groups but at that point of time I said to myself "fuck it, I'm initiating the convo with her. You will miss 100% of the shots that you won't take."

I asked her "Hey would you mind if you join my group?" and she said "Yes sure"

Initially she seemed a bit cold/reserved so I wasn't sure whether if the interaction was going to go. Another guy joined us for one minute and he went to other group, which was literally me and her working through math questions on the whiteboard. As the lesson progressed, she got more engaged; which we were both laughing and giggling at the things.

At the end of the lesson we both exchanged Instagrams and she gave it to me. When I got back home I looked at her profile and realised she is with her boyfriend from a post she made like a month or two ago.

But hey at the end of the day I'm glad approached her and we had a nice chat.

I'm a woman in my 30s. I was in a relationship with a Chinese man for 10 years, and we have two daughters together. We separated about two years ago.

I've always been drawn to Japanese and Korean culture, and East Asian cultures more broadly, though I don't think it's in a "weeaboo" kind of way. At the same time, I've generally been more attracted to men with dark hair and dark eyes, which means I often find Asian men appealing physically.

The thing is, from the outside, I can see how it might look like I have a racial preference. However, I don't actually care where a man is from as long as I'm attracted to him and we share compatible values.

For example, I probably wouldn't date a Japanese man who has spent his entire life in Japan, simply because I think our values and life experiences would be too different. My ex immigrated to Canada when he was eight years old, so culturally we had a lot in common despite our different backgrounds.

What I'm wondering is this: given that I have mixed-race children and a dating history that seems to lean toward Asian men, does that come across negatively?

I don't believe I'm fetishizing Asian men. To me, they just tend to fit my physical type more often than other groups. Physical attraction is only one part of the equation though; shared values, compatibility, and personality are ultimately much more important.

I'm genuinely interested in hearing honest opinions.

I think I'm especially interested in hearing the perspectives of Asian men, since they're the ones on the receiving end of this kind of situation.

I saw an AMWF family from the South, with grown up children, on Instagram a while ago and noticed they were much into Christianity and confessed in their faith on their individual Instagram pages.

I also noticed the male children of the parents were themselves either married or dating WF who were themselves very openly into their Christian faith with verses from the Bible.

I read somewhere multiple times on other sub-reddits that people have seen quite a lot of AMWF couples in churches and that Christian WF are probably more likely to date AM with the same faith although I was sceptical.

Do you think this is likely to be true because I have my doubts although seeing the family on social media made me curious.

Im chinese and I LOVE cooking, I;m humble bragging, but it took me a long time to learn to cook. But I also appreciate it alot when a WF tells me she loves asian food. Italian used to be the most glazed one, and I do cook a lot of italian because its pretty healthy, however it makes a lot of mess, and tbh the taste is overrated. I;ve been to italy too, they put eggs and potatoes on their pizza. Sometimes its just potatoes (no lie).

Been hearing this a lot from men in amwf spaces

I know everyone has is different preferences thats why I'm hoping to hear everyone's answers here

When this is said , what exactly do you mean? What is your type of white female? What are you attracted to versus not attracted to?

I really wish men would specify what their "type" is in their posts versus asking for photos only to ghost afterwards with no explanation

Just as the title says, i’m wondering if anyone has or is experiencing this.

And if so, has it in the cause of sexual, physical snd intimacy avoidance?

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