u/ImCold555

I’m a white female in my mid 40’s. I’ve been seeing an Asian man in his late 40’s for about 2 months. He was born in the US. He has never been married and hasn’t really had long term relationships. I like this man a lot. Like down bad. I’m pretty sure he likes me a lot too but he is pretty guarded.

His mother is coming to stay with him for a few months and she has very high standards for who he should be with (career wise, academically, must be Asian etc.) I’m successful in my career but do not meet these requirements.

He has a demanding career and demanding hobbies he makes time for. With his mother coming it doesn’t sound like he will have much time for me (I’m sure he won’t introduce me bc I’m sure I’m not “good enough”). I understand that his mom is obviously a priority and should be. But I’m both hurt that he seemingly won’t be making much making time for me and curious how this mother thing will play out.

I don’t know a lot about the Asian mom dynamic except for what I see in the movies. I guess my question is do I wait this out and see what happens with his mom or is it a lost cause? Do some men, even in their late 40’s, let their mom control their love life? I know he has a mind of his own and I can’t see him calling it quits bc of her opinion, but at the same time I don’t want to be the lowest priority.

I’m not sure where to ask this so I hope I’m in the right place. I’m in a new relationship with a man in his late 40’s. I’m in my early 40’s. I’m newly divorced so don’t have a lot of sexual experience with different men after 30. To preface, I do not think sexual attraction is a problem here.

The first time we tried to have sex he could not get it up. I didn’t make a big deal of it and he said it had been a few years. Since then we have had sex twice. But both times during foreplay and during sex his penis went from hard to half chub to soft to hard again quite a few times. Sorry to be graphic. But then when having sex he only lasted maybe one min.

My confusion is this: if he is not consistently hard, how does he come so quickly? And is it normal to cycle through soft/half chub/hard even when things are hot and heavy? Doesn’t that make it harder to come? Also, what can I do to keep it hard besides bj action (which I do intermittently). I see him using his hand to keep it hard and I’m not sure if I should be doing something else.

I met this guy on hinge who was very nice and we went out twice. I had a good time but he’s not the guy for me. We did hook up on the second date. It’s not normally something I would do but I had just gotten out of a long sexless relationship.

This guy seemed more into me than I was into him and I told him it wasn’t going to work out. Now two weeks later I’m wondering if he’d be down for FWB. I am dating others but not hooking up with anyone. I don’t want to hook up with anyone else until I’m in a committed relationship.

Do you think it would be weird to ask him if he wants to be FWB? If so how do I ask? For context, neither of us has unmatched the other on hinge but we have not spoken since I “broke it off”.

I am visiting HMC and am looking for the following services. Would love spa recs. Cost is not a factor.

1. Massage at a place that has a western style table with adjustable head rest—no the donut on top of the table. These seem hard to come by in SE Asia and I have a sensitive neck unfortunately.
2. Headspa type experience with quality blowout afterwards
3. Nice clean Nail spa with relaxing vibes (needs nails and pedicure.)

I don’t want gel (regular polish) but my daughter wants gel.

Thanks in advance!