u/Gibbons74

I've lost 49 pounds. I have 27 to go. I started weight lifting about a month ago and my weight went up (I know why, glucose, water near micro tears in muscle), and stayed up. I kept eating at a deficit, but didn't lose weight until I stopped lifting weights for 2 weeks.

What should I measure once I start lifting weights again? I was so happy measuring weight and watching it continue downward for the last 9 months that I become discouraged when it isn't going downward.

To lift weights I need to shift something in my mind so that I am measuring something meaningful.

What should I measure, and how did you get past the psychology of the weight gain after you started adding in weight lifting into your routine?

His girlfriend in Florida plays Fox News, LOUD, from the time she wakes up until she goes to bed.

She made him leave because of his dementia (which he won't see a doctor for). He was alone in his Michigan home for 6 weeks, and there seemed to be a big improvement, physically and mentally.

He's now going back to Florida to live with the girlfriend. I can't stop him, and really just want to give up on him.

I won't completely give up, but I was making progress with getting him help, and now he has cancelled his appointments because he's going back to Florida.

My dad has an estate plan. He has had it for 15 years and refuses to share the POA and Medical POA (or other directives). He probably has early to mid-stage dementia, but won't see a doctor. His paperwork was done in Michigan, but he has an on-again-off-again girlfriend in Florida, and is planning to leave Michigan for Florida next week until October.

How do I get copies of his paperwork if there is a medical problem? I recently found out who his attorney is. My Dad told me that I am the person to make his medical decisions when he can't anymore. I don't know who he has named on his Durable Power of Attorney, but I do know he has one.

Do I ask his attorney for a copy once he is incapacitated? It is a terrible I would have to do it that way, especially if he is in Florida and I'm in Ohio. The process would take days at best, especially if there was an episode on a Friday evening and I had to wait until Monday to even contact his attorney.

Is there a proper procedure for getting paperwork when the parent won't share it?

Dad's girlfriend lives in Florida. They lived together until last week. He came to visit his Michigan home and now the girlfriend has called both me and my sister to let us know she doesn't want him to live with her anymore. She says they are companions now, and that he can visit her in Florida, but can't live there. She is also saying that she won't visit him in Michigan unless he lives at a specific senior living facility (that her friends/family live at), and then only if my dad has a two bedroom apartment there.

My dad invested 17 years into the relationship, and cared for her when she was confined to a wheelchair. Now that her son is retired, and moved near her, she has decided she is "too old" to care for him. She still accepts $300/month from him to help with her finances (which needs to stop).

My dad has dementia and isn't understanding the situation. I'm going to visit him next week and try to explain it to him. I'm also going to try to get him to a doctor for a referral to a memory specialist, but so far he has refused.

Any suggestions on how to explain the relationship situation to my dad?

Does anyone know when the Louvre will open? I have 9:00 tickets and it is now 9:55 and nothing but a non-moving line in front of me.

I work very closely with another Union member who is a 20 year old female. Another Union member, a late 50s to mid 60s male, has been relentlessly harassing her, calling her beautiful, calling her his girlfriend, asking her out. She's made it clear she has no interest. On Thursday she came up to me nearly in tears because he had chased her down to her car harassing her and the only way she could get away was to get in her car and drive away.

I took her to our supervisor and had her explain what happened. I've been witness to some of it. And I thought it would be resolved by having management let this older gentleman know to knock it off.

And that's what management did. They pulled him aside told them and instead of knocking it off he went to our human resource department and reported me and the 20 year old female for fabricating everything and trying to make him a victim by accusing him of sexual harassment.

So now there's an investigation. I told the 20-year-old not to talk to our Union steward until everything was sorted. I told her the Union steward represents the old guy. And that the union stewards job is to try to do whatever they can to see that he gets as little discipline as possible. Also, that the union won't help her by requesting video, or audio documentation, and will instead hope that media gets recorded over.

I suspect the best course forward is for a separate Union steward to represent each person. And then for a third Union steward to represent me, because I'm accused also.

I feel there's enough witnesses, documentation, and video, that the truth will eventually come forth. However I'm also very fearful of an "unsubstantiated" finding being made.

What's the best way forward for my 20 year old coworker?

My father is now willing to discuss his aging with his children. From what I've been able to gather, he has an estate plan, and some ideas about assisted living already picked out. He is starting to have memory issues and I'd like to make sure I record all his wishes and have everything in place as he ages and chooses to take whatever the next steps are for him.

Any good books that explore this topic from a holistic point of view? I can only think of 4 categories I need to work on with my dad: 1. Medical wishes. 2. Estate planning wishes. 3. Social planning (where he wants to live, what type of environment, ect). and 4. Housing/Assisted living (also tied to Social Planning).

Am I forgetting anything?

I've slowly, over years, have decreased contact with my mother.

This year, starting after Christmas, I went no contact. Her birthday and mother's day have passed since, so she knows I've completely pulled back.

Today she sent a text asking to meet because she doesn't know why I've abandoned her.

I think the best thing to do is just ignore it. I can't think of any possible positive outcome in talking to her.

I just wish the nightmare would go away, but I know it won't until she dies.

That is what I was told today by one of my schools.

I have a student on my special needs bus that starts behaving uncontrollably when something sets him off. That happened today, and part of what he was doing was trying to hit by African American students and calling them the N-word.

I was told he can't help it because of his conditions and that I need to accept that he will swear, and call kids the N-word and he can't be held accountable because he is ADHD.

Is there any way to combat this? I'm taking it to the school board if I can't resolve it sooner since our Board president is an African American.