u/Gibbons74

I work very closely with another Union member who is a 20 year old female. Another Union member, a late 50s to mid 60s male, has been relentlessly harassing her, calling her beautiful, calling her his girlfriend, asking her out. She's made it clear she has no interest. On Thursday she came up to me nearly in tears because he had chased her down to her car harassing her and the only way she could get away was to get in her car and drive away.

I took her to our supervisor and had her explain what happened. I've been witness to some of it. And I thought it would be resolved by having management let this older gentleman know to knock it off.

And that's what management did. They pulled him aside told them and instead of knocking it off he went to our human resource department and reported me and the 20 year old female for fabricating everything and trying to make him a victim by accusing him of sexual harassment.

So now there's an investigation. I told the 20-year-old not to talk to our Union steward until everything was sorted. I told her the Union steward represents the old guy. And that the union stewards job is to try to do whatever they can to see that he gets as little discipline as possible. Also, that the union won't help her by requesting video, or audio documentation, and will instead hope that media gets recorded over.

I suspect the best course forward is for a separate Union steward to represent each person. And then for a third Union steward to represent me, because I'm accused also.

I feel there's enough witnesses, documentation, and video, that the truth will eventually come forth. However I'm also very fearful of an "unsubstantiated" finding being made.

What's the best way forward for my 20 year old coworker?

My father is now willing to discuss his aging with his children. From what I've been able to gather, he has an estate plan, and some ideas about assisted living already picked out. He is starting to have memory issues and I'd like to make sure I record all his wishes and have everything in place as he ages and chooses to take whatever the next steps are for him.

Any good books that explore this topic from a holistic point of view? I can only think of 4 categories I need to work on with my dad: 1. Medical wishes. 2. Estate planning wishes. 3. Social planning (where he wants to live, what type of environment, ect). and 4. Housing/Assisted living (also tied to Social Planning).

Am I forgetting anything?

I've slowly, over years, have decreased contact with my mother.

This year, starting after Christmas, I went no contact. Her birthday and mother's day have passed since, so she knows I've completely pulled back.

Today she sent a text asking to meet because she doesn't know why I've abandoned her.

I think the best thing to do is just ignore it. I can't think of any possible positive outcome in talking to her.

I just wish the nightmare would go away, but I know it won't until she dies.

That is what I was told today by one of my schools.

I have a student on my special needs bus that starts behaving uncontrollably when something sets him off. That happened today, and part of what he was doing was trying to hit by African American students and calling them the N-word.

I was told he can't help it because of his conditions and that I need to accept that he will swear, and call kids the N-word and he can't be held accountable because he is ADHD.

Is there any way to combat this? I'm taking it to the school board if I can't resolve it sooner since our Board president is an African American.