Having a babyface feels like such a hindrance
I (F20) have facially looked the same since age 14. I’ve shown people pics from when I was 13/14 and they always say I look the same. It feels like a vampire to look in the mirror and see no changes in your appearance for the past few years. Watching everyone else change into their grown faces while you’re just stunted is so sad to witness. I’ve run into someone from middle school that I didn’t recognize yet they said I looked the same and was able to recognize me, with them being 21 I couldn’t remember who they were initially.
I get mistaken for 14/15 in person. The cashiers will say “aren’t you supposed to be in school?”. My physician think I’m waiting for my mom, my eye doctor thought the same. On top of this I’ve gotten braces and funny enough my orthodontist didn’t charge me correctly mistaking me for underage. Even in online spaces people have the consensus of me looking much younger than my age. I would understand if they thought I was 16/17 but being mistaken for a 8th/9th grader as a college junior is insane. Everyday I wear a good level of makeup because with it I can look closer to my age but without it I just age down😭
I do feel that it somewhat impacts my dating life too. I’ve been hit on by 14 year olds but not men of my own age?? Maybe they assume I’m a minor and leave me alone I’m not sure. Some I attract end up making weird comments about my braces and stuff which my friends describe these types as borderline pedophiles 😔. Hopefully my face will age within the next 10 years (seeing my siblings get mistaken for 16 in their late 20s is a peek into my future). I can’t be mad at guys for not being into someone who easily passes for underage. For a while I did have a lot of resentment towards them being more attracted to mature womanly looking types; I’ve grown to understand why the ones I attract aren’t the best options anyways.