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For too long in life, I was too "cool" to do something as boring as meditation. I was absolutely convinced that It was for people after 60 .

Until one day my friend dragged me to the course. I will never be more grateful. It's been over three years of regular meditation and by god's grace, life has never been better.

You just find this incredible sense of calm amidst the chaos. The resentment and frustrations one carries comes down considerably. Personally , it helped develop a great sense of focus.Everything just starts happening so effortlessly.

Another thing is you become so immune to what people say. You are able to see the larger picture and the criticism barely shakes you. The great part about meditation is that it makes you very emotionally resilient and yet very sensitive.

We often have this apprehension of meditation being something supernatural. But, it is actually just being conscious and aware of your breath. Something as simple as that.

Please please please give it a shot and stay consistent with it despite how boring it might get. You will thank yourself!!!!

I have this cousin of mine. Let us just say, he is incredibly successful. At 37, he is running a large profitable business and has everything in the world one can ask for.

But one thing that strikes every time I meet him is the incredible sense of humility. He has all the right to talk about his business, wealth, cars, status. But not once, have I heard him talk about himself, even slightly.

He always talks to the other person about something they would relate to. Be it their native place, their careers, their interests. He would talk about sport, finance, cooking, relationships, philosophy, history, as the situation and the person demands

And he does all of that with absolute sincere intention and not for being performative. Of course, being aware of so many things helps in those conversations.

Needless to say, everyone loves him!!

I have travelled to over 30 countries and have had the most amazing native dishes there. Be it Italian, French, Mexican, Japanese, Thai, Mediterranean, and each of them had their own beauty.

But given a chance to chose one dish, I would still chose daal chawal for life. I don't really have a reason for it. Absolutely nothing feels as fulfilling as a good portion of it. It truly makes you complete.

Just felt like sharing :)

Still a year short of 30. But let me write what I feel about this sub.

This sub, by far has to be the sub with the most sensible, lovely and genuine people I have come across on the web. Be it relationships, career or anything else, it is so good to see people come up with genuine advice and stories that uplift other people.

The anonymity on this app often brings out the ugly side of people, which thankfully isn't the case here. Maybe I am being a bit dramatic, but this sub almost feels like a home with one big family.

Kudos to people who have made this sub what it is and I hope it continues to be this way. Kudos!!!

When I was in my teens or even early twenties, I always admired people who were very vocal and visibly energetic. I always thought they had an amazing "personality".

As I have grown older and interacted more, I, for sure, can say that absolutely nothing beats the sense of reassurance that you feel around a calm individual.

We often confuse calmness with complacency. But that isn't what I am talking about. Have you ever come across these people who have this silent sense of confidence in their abilities? No drama, no long lectures, just a no nonsense approach towards work and life.

The kind of people who, just with a smile would indicate "I have got this". They almost have a sense of magnetism in them.

Trying to become one!!

I am still 29 so not sure if I should be advising on this sub. But it has helped me immensely, so I thought of sharing this. From someone who wasn't great in school to someone who is doing well by god's grace, this is my humble opinion.

Modern society has fooled us into thinking that more is always good. More hours in the gym, studying for more hours, pretending to work more hours at work. I am afraid all of that is absolute nonsense.

It always has to be quality over quantity. Hit the gym for 45 minutes and not two hours, but do it daily. If studying for an exam, do it 6 hours a day consistently and not 16. When working, prioritise the hard tasks first.

Chose consistency over intensity, progress over perfection, fundamentals over fads!!!

Just turned 29. For as long as I can remember, I have always loved my solitude.

Hitting the gym, work, practicing music keeps me occupied. And thankfully, I have no sense of void in life.

But, I am also aware that things will change. My parents won't be around forever. In times of grief and joy, I might need someone to share it with.

Does it really get lonely as you grow older. I absolutely love my solitude but also am now, a bit uncertain, after hearing experiences of people who didn't marry and are lonely.

I know I sound incredibly confused, but it is what it is 😅😅

Please feel free to comment on what do you think!!

Alright. Please don't kill me already.

I am just tired of the "made for each other" stuff. We probably don't even interact with 0.1 people whom we could have a had a romantic relationship with.

It is mostly in schools, colleges, residence neighbourhood, workplaces or through relatives that we meet our prospective partners. It is just a mere coincidence.

It is funny how if one was in a different school or stayed in a different locality, their "partner for life" would have been someone else. The "I cannot live without you" dialogue probably would have had a different reciever.

This isn't to say I am against love. But we need too realise that it is just a sheer coincidence. I know no one cares about what I think , but the "made for each other" rhetoric just irks me to the hilt.

P.S- The downvotes are here. But isn't it a fact?

Story time!!!!

One fine day, for the first time in so many years, my mother who cooks for all of us called me in the kitchen to help her. I, being the obedient son that I am 🫣, went to help her.

As it turns out, she wanted to give me a lesson, as I had been complaining about the food for the past few days.

She asked me to do every single thing. Starting with kneading the dough. Firstly, I just could not get the proportion of dough and water right. And in trying to get it right, I probably put in dough enough for the whole city/s. It took me a good two hours and yet I could not succeed.

Then she asked me to cut a few vegetables. I never thought that cutting onions and tomatoes could require so much effort. The tears due to onions while cutting them are real. Similarly, for other vegetables, you have to be very cautious with the knife.

Needless to say, the weather isn't great either. To stand in the kitchen , near the stove for this long in that heat was not fun. And to think that people who cook for us have been doing this for so many years, made me appreciate them.

And yet so often, we without a thought just so casually say "sabzi mein yeh zyada hai, yeh kam hai, isko aise banaya karo". I have been guilty of it too. Two proper hours in the kitchen and I am never criticising food again.

To people who have cooked for me anywhere, thank you!!

P.S- To people making personal attacks, this did not mean that I don't appreciate her cooking. I, as a rule, do that everyday. And it wasn't ""criticising"', it was just a bit of nagging, which was wrong on my part. It is just that when I was asked to cook, I appreciated it a lot more sincerely.

I never thought, I would write this one day because our society has largely been about questioning people who don't have kids. But here is my point.

I came across this reel on Instagram a few days ago, where a couple was celebrating their DINK lifestyle. But honestly, it felt more like putting down people who have kids rather than celebrating their own decision. And guess what, I have come across a dozen such reels.

They talk about getting full sleep, reels with kids crying in the background while they are enjoying their drink, then they talk about expensive trips. Okayyyyy. Fine. And genuinely happy for you.

But what is it with mocking people who have kids???? No one is forcing you for anything. To whomsoever it may concern, stop shaming people for absurd reasons.

It takes a hell lot out of parents to raise a child. Of course, your argument is that it is their responsibility for bringing a child into this world. Yes, but a little sense of gratitude doesn't do much harm, does it?

I am going to get a lot of backlash and downvotes for it. So be it!!

God has been incredibly kind to me. I have achieved what everyone in the society would say is "successful"

I completed my engineering and MBA, both from Tier -1 colleges, landed a high paying job in a very reputed MNC. A good house, car, status, you name it, I have been blessed with everything.

But deep down, there is this void that doesn't get filled. There is always this constant search for meaning. There are ways you try and "escape" that void but it is what it is, an "escape"

At times, I just feel like packing my bags and going to the Himalayas forever. Maybe it is an extreme generalisation, but it is what I honestly feel.

Anyone else here who feels the same way ?

I am afraid but we as a society have messed up big time. In the race of exams, coaching, colleges and prestige, we have not allowed children to blossom into full lives.

This is not to disregard education. I am one of the biggest proponents of education and by god's grace it has helped me do well in life.

But here is the point. Humans, especially children need a channel to spend their physical and emotional energy. It is extremely important that they get an appropriate channel for it

Sport will teach them much more than anything else will. Learning to fail, endurance, perseverance, camaraderie to name a few. Similarly, music, more so devotional music, will help them to connect to their centre, which will keep them balanced.

I seriously started taking out time for both disciplines only in my early 20's and it has brought tremendous joy in my life. Kids, fortunately, have the blessing of time.

Let children blossom into full lives through sport and music!!

By god's grace, both my parents are hale and hearty. But they are growing old and it's not a very pleasant sight.

The very thought that my parents will leave me forever one day scares me to the core. But at the same time, I am very aware that it is something that is inevitable.

People who have dealt with this grief, how did you manage? Does that void ever get filled? What advice do you have for the rest of us?

For so many years, humans survived with almost nothing. Just an axe in the jungle and the entire species was good to go.

How did we arrive at complex education, fancy jobs, bungalows, cars and social prestige?

This isn't to say that any of it is wrong and we should go back to the jungles. But I dare say that all of this has made life so much more complex.

It always seems to be a race against time. As if, you are simultaneously competing with yourself and the society. Fifty years ago, as my grandfather tells me, life didn't really feel like a race and everyone moved at their own sweet pace.

Maybe I have oversimplified things here, but is it only me who thinks that we need to slow down a bit?

No matter how much we deny it, appreciation feels so good, no matter how small.

Be it a manager appreciating their subordinate, or a spouse appreciating their partner, or a parent appreciating their child, or appreciating the person who cooked for you, I think we are forgetting the art of appreciation.

By god's grace I am pretty successful in life, and yet nothing beats the excitement of appreciation of little things. When someone appreciates me for meeting them gracefully, or for a good dance step, the kid in me just cannot stop smiling.

The best part about it is that it takes absolutely nothing away from us. In fact appreciating someone feels good to the one doing it as well!!.

Hopefully, we can do it a little more. It will make the world a better place!!

We so often complicate things in trying to put that extra effort in our relationship. Gifts, dates and what not and all of that is absolutely fine too.

But, the best thing you can do for your partner or for that matter any relationship, be it your parents or friends, is being genuinely happy.

We often underestimate how good the other person feels when you are genuinely enthusiastic and joyful around them for absolutely no reason.

People won't like to hear this, but no one likes a person who is always complaining and grumpy, no matter how good looking or successful they are.

I guess, that also takes away the need for a lot of performative things that we do in our relationships. All of it allows everyone involved to be at their natural best, which I guess, is the secret to any sustainable relationship.