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So, I am speaking to a girl through Shaadi.com and we both like each other. I even visited Mumbai last week and enjoyed my time there. For context, i am from Chennai, she is born and brought up in Airoli but is a Tamilian. She speaks highly of Airoli and says how her multicultural upbringing has benefitted her. She is thick friends with her neighbours and lowkey wants me to settle here as well.

I am not open to it, but I really like her and looks like we will have a long distance marriage atleast for 2-3 years, so I have to visit Airoli often. So how is the area and is it really multicultural? So last weekend I did pass through the area but to me it looked like any other areas, but she seems too attached. Can I know the reason?

So, i (30M) have started speaking to someone in Mumbai via Shaadi. Com and to meet her i had come to. Mumbai this weekend. We visited Juhu beach, Marine drive, Vashi etc and one thing which has surprised me the most is whichever restaurant or place i go, i am able to see an equivalent amount of women in large numbers.

Like lots of girl gangs, elder women gangs etc. I have visited all other metros and have been to all major cities in India, but even compared to Kolkata i am seeing more women. And it is not only in posh places. She took me to some Chowpatty area where there were small shops and there as well, i can see women in large numbers even at late night. It is refreshing to see and since there are women around always, i felt more comfortable going out with her late night than i do in my own city. This is an appreciation post, yes, but i also want Mumbaikars opinion on this.

So, i (30M) have started speaking to someone in Mumbai via Shaadi. Com and to meet her i had come to. Mumbai this weekend. We visited Juhu beach, Marine drive, Vashi etc and one thing which has surprised me the most is whichever restaurant or place i go, i am able to see an equivalent amount of women in large numbers.

Like lots of girl gangs, elder women gangs etc. I have visited all other metros and have been to all major cities in India, but even compared to Kolkata i am seeing more women. And it is not only in posh places. She took me to some Chowpatty area where there were small shops and there as well, i can see women in large numbers even at late night. It is refreshing to see and since there are women around always, i felt more comfortable going out with her late night than i do in my own city. This is an appreciation post, yes, but i also want Mumbaikars opinion on this.

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Please help me out by sharing your opinions.

So Me (31 M) has been talking to 30F via Shaadi.com since the past 3 months. We come from economically similar backgrounds, both earn well, etc. The major issue is the location. So I am a Tamil from Chennai, whereas she is a Tamil born and brought up in Mumbai.

When we initially talked she said she is looking for grooms from Mumbai only, so I left. Later she came back, started chatting and things are going well till now. Due to work, I couldn't go and visit her till now and I am planning to visit her in May. Our plan is to take things slow (Probably 6-7 more months) before planning for marriage.

Now, the major problem is I cannot leave Chennai (Due to nature of my work), her office HQ is in Bangalore but she is adamant about not leaving Mumbai so much that she is paying amount from her own salary for a co-working space where she goes and works everyday instead of shifting to Bangalore.

I can stay in Bangalore and adjust but Mumbai will be too far . So as of now we have decided i will come and stay with her for a week in Mumbai per month she will do the same with me in Chennai for a week the next month,etc. This is some big plan we have. For me the plan is okay, because the fact that I am unmarried till now is fear of commitment, and this feels like a good solution. She is a divorcee and she is also comfortable with this because she feels she adjusted way too much in the last marriage and she doesn't want to do same mistake here. Her reason for not leaving Mumbai is her entire support system is there. For me I cannot leave South India is cause of my business.

My major fear is I am used to such travel,living in multiplaxes so this won't feel like a sacrifice to me. But she is used to living her entire life in Navi Mumbai. School,college,work,etc. She recently even had a huge fight with her HR who asked her to move to a co working space which is 20 km from her home. So my fear is what if she sees this as a sacrifice? Since I won't view it as a sacrifice,will this create resentment? I asked her but she said you are overthinking. So has anyone worked out such an arrangement before? Did it workout? Please share your opinions. Nu

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Please help me out by sharing your opinions.

So Me (31 M) has been talking to 30F via Shaadi.com since the past 3 months. We come from economically similar backgrounds, both earn well, etc. The major issue is the location. So I am a Tamil from Chennai, whereas she is a Tamil born and brought up in Mumbai.

When we initially talked she said she is looking for grooms from Mumbai only, so I left. Later she came back, started chatting and things are going well till now. Due to work, I couldn't go and visit her till now and I am planning to visit her in May. Our plan is to take things slow (Probably 6-7 more months) before planning for marriage.

Now, the major problem is I cannot leave Chennai (Due to nature of my work), her office HQ is in Bangalore but she is adamant about not leaving Mumbai so much that she is paying amount from her own salary for a co-working space where she goes and works everyday instead of shifting to Bangalore.

I can stay in Bangalore and adjust but Mumbai will be too far . So as of now we have decided i will come and stay with her for a week in Mumbai per month she will do the same with me in Chennai for a week the next month,etc. This is some big plan we have. For me the plan is okay, because the fact that I am unmarried till now is fear of commitment, and this feels like a good solution. She is a divorcee and she is also comfortable with this because she feels she adjusted way too much in the last marriage and she doesn't want to do same mistake here. Her reason for not leaving Mumbai is her entire support system is there. For me I cannot leave South India is cause of my business.

My major fear is I am used to such travel,living in multiple places so this won't feel like a sacrifice to me. But she is used to living her entire life in Navi Mumbai. School,college,work,etc. She recently even had a huge fight with her HR who asked her to move to a co working space which is 20 km from her home. So my fear is what if she sees this as a sacrifice? Since I won't view it as a sacrifice,will this create resentment? I asked her but she said you are overthinking. So has anyone worked out such an arrangement before? Did it workout? Please share your opinions.

Ps: Planning to go DINK so that is not an issue

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Please help me out by sharing your opinions.

So Me (31 M) has been talking to 30F via Shaadi.com since the past 3 months. We come from economically similar backgrounds, both earn well, etc. The major issue is the location. So I am a Tamil from Chennai, whereas she is a Tamil born and brought up in Mumbai.

When we initially talked she said she is looking for grooms from Mumbai only, so I left. Later she came back, started chatting and things are going well till now. Due to work, I couldn't go and visit her till now and I am planning to visit her in May. Our plan is to take things slow (Probably 6-7 more months) before planning for marriage.

Now, the major problem is I cannot leave Chennai (Due to nature of my work), her office HQ is in Bangalore but she is adamant about not leaving Mumbai so much that she is paying amount from her own salary for a co-working space where she goes and works everyday instead of shifting to Bangalore.

I can stay in Bangalore and adjust but Mumbai will be too far . So as of now we have decided i will come and stay with her for a week in Mumbai per month she will do the same with me in Chennai for a week the next month,etc. This is some big plan we have. For me the plan is okay, because the fact that I am unmarried till now is fear of commitment, and this feels like a good solution. She is a divorcee and she is also comfortable with this because she feels she adjusted way too much in the last marriage and she doesn't want to do same mistake here. Her reason for not leaving Mumbai is her entire support system is there. For me I cannot leave South India is cause of my business.

My major fear is I am used to such travel,living in multiplaxes so this won't feel like a sacrifice to me. But she is used to living her entire life in Navi Mumbai. School,college,work,etc. She recently even had a huge fight with her HR who asked her to move to a co working space which is 20 km from her home. So my fear is what if she sees this as a sacrifice? Since I won't view it as a sacrifice,will this create resentment? I asked her but she said you are overthinking. So has anyone worked out such an arrangement before? Did it workout? Please share your opinions. Nu