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First day back at work is a month from today. Feels like once the 4th hits, it’s always a quick slide from there.

The whole situation is made more complicated by the reality of gay men dating and having sex with other men. Men are typically critically important in that scenario. So for a feminist gay man, what is the appropriate path to centering women, prioritizing them over men?

Oh, to be there when Joss comes back to the apartment and Trina tells her the drama of her parents and Jordan. Then is all “so what have you been up to lately? It’s been a minute.” A tale of two very different twenty- somethings.

“She ain’t gonna sleep with you, bro.” First off, I’m gay… so maybe let us come up with a different theory. Second, women are just better friends than guys. I kind of wish I was straight just so I wouldn’t have to deal with other men at all.

As we know, substitute teaching is one of those jobs when there are busy times of the year and slow times of the year. With summer vacation upon us, we’ve hit one of the slower parts. I have Doordash and Ubereats that keeps me busy and supplies some extra pay during this time. It’s nice in that when I’m actually busy during the school year I’m under no obligation to sign on like I would with a traditional second job.

I was covering a 4th grade ELA summer school class today. The class had two paras, a classroom para and a SPED para. They both spent most of the day just chilling in the back of the room. I didn’t care. I just did my thing. In the last hour, the administrator for the program and the instructional specialist came in to check in on things. In the next second, both paras had leaped to their feet and were suddenly working with students. That did give me a little internal chuckle.

My district has several different programs going right now. I’m currently already working as a para for the high school math remediation program. But that‘s Monday- Thursday and the pay is... not ideal. Today I got a call asking me to sub for a kinder teacher tomorrow and the pay is what I’d make in a week at my para job, so that‘ll be a nice little boost to my July paycheck.

Alas, my bills aren’t taking a vacation. Thoughts and prayers!

Son doesn’t really get on with other men in general. He’s always been closer to his sisters and me. I think he’s gay and macho type men especially put him off. But in any case, his dad has visitation but son wants to end it. I want to respect his wishes. He’s close enough to being grown to decide who he wants to live with. So would it be feasible to change the custody arrangement just based on this background?

It doesn’t come up often, but I have heard some takes from certain feminist circles that male homosexuality is based in misogyny. Here we have a case of men so put off by women physically that they’d rather be with men. But on the flip side, you could argue lying to a woman about being straight is also harmful. There are cases where a gay man and a straight woman go into a relationship knowing what they’re signing up for, though. Then of course there’s celibacy. So is the general idea though that to be feminist, men should avoid relationships with other men?

Im a resident sub, which is commonly referred to as a building sub on here. A few days ago I made a post on here saying that I was expected to be let go. We have an influx of regular subs these days and definitely no shortage. HR also took longer than normal to get on delivering assignments for next school year. But today my admin was notified by HR that we were approved for three resident subs for the 2026-27 school year. The school currently has two (myself included) and my admin indicated she would sign off on keeping us and also hire a third one. Guess I got in my head a bit too early!

I’ve been a building sub at my site for five years. It’s around this time that we get our assignments for the next year confirmed. This year, I was told it hasn’t been decided yet whether the position will resume. I was expecting it to head in this direction. The position was created as a response to the sub shortage the district was facing. But these days, as many of you can attest to, the sub shortage is gone. Now the competition on Frontline is stiff and it’ll only get worse when all the district‘s building subs are dumped back in the regular sub pool. I’ll wait and see how it plays out but I’m kind of planning to apply for a para position if this goes south for the sake of some stability. Being a sub is tough to maintain nowadays.

I’m a resident sub (often called a building sub). For those not in the know that means I’m a sub on staff at the school. Anyway, state testing time has come around. Ive been put in charge of testing students who require a separate setting, either due to a disability or excessive behaviors. There are three resident subs at my site but I’m the only one who showed up to the training and admin never got around to training the other two. I always thought that was a questionable idea, and here we are. I‘m at home with a horrid stomach virus and no one else can apparently test these students. We still have this week and next week for make ups, but idk… hopefully certain people learn a lesson from this.

I was setting up for state testing and this girl was being disruptive. Nothing unusual. This is a girl who gives off attitude to every staff member she happens upon and starts constant drama with other students. She’s been suspended multiple times this year for fighting and for shoving her science teacher.

Now I’m known to be a very patient man. I don’t yell. I don‘t lose my temper. Maybe it was the stress of making sure nothing goes wrong for testing. Maybe it was that I’ve been dealing with her for a little too long. But I crashed out a bit.

It started off as a warning. I told if she refuses to be quiet she has to leave. She started yelling at me that she wasn’t doing anything. Then started insulting me. I started seeing red. Opened the door and yelled at her “you need to get out of this classroom!” It wasn’t stern. It wasn’t slightly raised voice. It was full on.

The girl stormed off to the office and demanded to talk to a mandated reporter. A counselor came out and she told me later it became apparent pretty fast that there was nothing to report. I didn’t use expletives or touch her or even go anywhere near her. We were on opposite ends of the room.

I‘m just embarrassed. I’ve worked with students that have attitude before. But something about this particular one just rubs me the wrong way. Maybe it’s the fact that she’s willing to say or do anything. There are no limitations with her. Other staff checked on me through the day. Her usual teachers told me they don‘t even acknowledge her unless they absolutely have to. I don’t feel bad that I said what I said, or the tone, but just that I let a student get to me and I showed it. Idk it was just one of those days.

Had awkward conversation with a 6th grader today. For background, he was raised by two men. I had made a brief reference to my mom and this boy said, in a very nonchalant preteen boy sort of way, “I kinda wish I had a mom.” I didn’t really know what to say because sure, don’t want to unintentionally insult his family but also don’t want to invalidate his feelings. So I just sort of went “yeah…” and moved on. What would have been the appropriate response?