u/GoodCauliflower5148

I just wanted to ask because I just would like to be prepared but I do not have a finalized transcript yet until spring so how can I fulfill that requirement?

So basically someone I know was driving me and helping me do errands but he was talking to me first about his random problems (he usually does this when he drives I’m beginning to feel as though it’s deliberate low-key but that’s besides the point).

Essentially I ask him about classes and he talks to me about some issues he’s having with a counselor. And I told him he’s speaking to the wrong counselor you have to know what they are there for. He says idk what you mean. Then I start explaining like why the counselor couldn’t help him he has to do x y z first and then go to them. As I’m explaining I’m talking with my hands and motioning out the steps (I talk with my hands sometimes) and I’m getting a bit louder but it’s not angry or screaming it’s just getting a bit more bass and more like direct? I guess.

Well he tells me “who are you talking too like this?” And I’m confused because I’m like “uh…im not being aggressive I’m just talking” and he said “well you’re doing all this with your hands and you’re doing too much” to then I just stop and go back putting my hands down (cause you know he’s driving) and then he just continues and I’m irritated like what just happen? And then I calmly and sweetly and softly ask him to change the subject he gets irritated and was like “uh yeah…sure like what” then I change rhe subject to movies and then I continue.

But I didn’t like that for some reason like lmk if I’m wrong I’m okay with that but that just seemed like an obscene reaction for something so small over a subject that I’m trying to help him with. I just don’t wanna be his friend tbh like I don’t feel comfortable communicating with him anymore if I can’t be myself and I feel bad for being myself.

What should I do?

So essentially, me and my childhood friend have been friends for 15 years. I know his family, his gf is my friend, etc etc. However, ive realized this entire friendship has been (low-key) one sided.

He never made an effort to meet my parents (until I asked him then he said “if I was someone who didn’t gaf I just wouldn’t” but that was recently), never really asked about my past except when got grown and I talked about it, has never invited me to the parties he went too, kinda used me for emotional labor and a couple of months ago…he said that basically no one would be his best man at his wedding (his other friends mind you: he knows more about like their families n stuff, they recognize him, and he just been through things together, but they are also worse people in general I’ll get into that). I was also wondering atone point if I could be the godfather of his child but he didn’t think he’d be the right person to be a godparent back.

But in the past, I chopped it up to different life paths: I liked school, he didn’t, I went to college, he didn’t but regardless if he didn’t get his his diploma I didn’t care because he was my longest friend. I never cared about status I just did what I wanted same as he did but ppl including pur parents mentioned that that would push us away ya know? I never believed it and stood next to my friend

We had so much fun together too it wasnt all bad and his home was my escape from my own so it was fun to be his friend. We played video games, hung out with our friend groups, cracked jokes, and really bonded. He even said he wanted a gf with my personality and he got it I felt honored! lol

But then…2 years ago I had an ego death when I realized a lot of people have done horrible things in their past and they just…move on? That’s when he told me a lot about his past as well and I had no idea this was happening simultaneously it’s like…he had a double life and side I never knew. And it really made me look at the ppl he chose to surround himself with even more horribly because I knew he surrounded himself with crappy ppl I just didn’t know he engaged with it himself…

And now…ever since I studied abroad and started prioritizing myself more and more of his ways of thinking are starting to come out and I fear he may have passed down his family’s abusive patterns. It’s nothing major now but it does make me worry.

I fear I’m changing too: I cut off my toxic family, started prioritizing myself for once instead of other people (to great effect mind you all of the things I’ve dreamed of and “waited for others” for got done within a year of prioritizing myself) but I’ve started to notice something…we only text if I talk we only communicate when I want too and he seems to value hanging out with his other friends (granted we are states apart and he does have diagnosed adhd and other mental stuff so I don’t hold it against him).

Idk our values are really different now, he’s caring and loves me but I feel like if I showed it the same way he does we’d me nothing more than distant acquaintances and because I’m prioritizing myself…it’s starting to become that way.

Please lmk if any of this makes any sense this is such a weird gray area for me.

Also yes I did talk to him about these changes, values, n stuff and I don’t think it’s gonna change. What should I do? I don’t wanna cut him off but I also don’t wanna keep feeling like this…should I move on?

Hello everyone! I’m an upcoming 4th year in my university and I’m planning to apply for the JET program, I wanted to ask for any advice to prepare since the website said it opens in September but I want to start preparing now in July!

Specifically, I’d like to ask about the following:

-for recommendation letters can it be my mentor from a program who no longer works there? And can it also be my professor for my study abroad program?

-What other things can I do to prepare? Any random tips would be extremely helpful

Thank you so much!

So like…that was fast…I mean like…REEAAAALLLLYY fast. Just coming from the 90s anime it’s like speed run asf!!!! But let me get through my thoughts with pros and cons.

Pros: -I loved Rei’s characterization, shes supposed to be a mysterious psychic type of character whom others misjudge because of her powers. This to me is a better character than the 90s version who was more surface level and fiery (though dony get me wrong both Rei’s are dear to me I just understand and like this Rei even better because it’s more grounded and realistic to someone who has powers others think are ‘weird.’)

-The gem men! Nephrite, Kunsite, Zoisite, Jadeite. THEY WERE SO MUCH COOLER NGL!!! They had their own roles during the Silver Millenium, they served Prince Endymion and it was a beautiful parallel to the Moon Kingdoms Sailor Guardians and I’m so glad that each of the girls have an official love interests!!!! I was always upset that the girls never got boys in the 90s anime so this was a real treat and the gem men were very much more likeable and awesome to see!

-Their powers: like woah! They really are Demi goddesses. They can fly, have more unique powers, and Sailor Moon has the ability to use PLANETARY SCALE POWERS IN AN INSTANT! I love how she just swooped to outer space to use Moon Healing Escalation! So badass I love her!

-The Animation: idk why everyone was upset about it the Crystal animation is a CLEAR UPGRADE it is so beautiful and pretty and even the “noodle arms” was stunningly animated and it was sparkly but not overwhelmingly so anr I really loved the overall quality of the animation it was beautiful!

Now let’s move on…

Cons:

-WAAAAAYYYYYYY TOO fast. I mean it just felt like they skipped everything! I watch episode 1-2 with my friend who’s never seen sailor moon and I had to explain things because the anime skipped everything! I get it it’s supposed to be akin to the manga but a lot of the things they could have slowed down because it just felt rushed. It was even so bad that I was even confused at times and had to pause to process it.

-The powers were cool but I was really confused because a lot of them came out of nowhere (especially Sailor Moons powers) and this is before their memories came back so how could they learn how to fly, create barriers, manifest different aspects of their powers (I may be a bit harsh because the 90s anime had that same exact issue but it just went a bit fast).

-Endymion kiss scene. Okay this is really creepy she was unconscious, did not have her memories and some random man finds her alone and kisses her…gross. Like even Luna was like GET OFF OF HER! Also, Endymion in general is very quickly like…he knew Usagi’s identity and WHERE SHE LIVED AND CAME TO HER AT NIGHT LIKE…for good reason yes? But still…verrrrry creepy it’s giving Dimande vibes ugh. Just be her friend and TALK TO HER BEFORE YOU DO THAT ISH jeesh.

-Venus + Beryl…why they changed it UGH my girl DESERVED HER TIME TO SHINE NOT USAGI STEALING IT SHE HAS EVERYTHING SHE DID NOT NEED TO TAKE MY GIRLS KILL LIKE THAT!

Okay that’s all I got for now onward to Season 2!!!

This is a half rant and half genuine question but why do black elders micromanage me and ONLY ME? It irritates my soul I am a 25 year old man TWENTY FIVE not 15 not 10 not 2. I am 25!

Okay let me actually articulate what I am trying to say, so for context I’m a college student and have been working at this job for almost 3 years now but I’ve had other jobs where this has happened too for all the jobs ive had it’s been black elders who have given me the MOST difficult time because they just make up stuff I’m doing wrong to “teach me something” LEAVE ME ALONE! I’m not your kid I don’t know you!!! We share a culture and that’s it. Like don’t y’all got babies and grandchildren to lecture please don’t choose me I am not interested. You should not be trying to teach me and I’m just doing my job y’all make it worse because y’all try to correct me on something I did RIGHT BREAK IT THEN BLAME ME EVEN THOUGH IK WHAT IM DOING LEAVE ME TF ALONE! I don’t got no problems until you start magically creating one.

Then they get all sarcastic and irritable like this one dude asked me hey can you take the gluten free bread itll give you something to do. I said okay bet I’m going in the freezer and I take it out but it’s FROZEN so I put it in our cooler to thaw he come like “so did you do it or not” I was like “Uh…YEAH it’s frozen I put it in the cooler to thaw I’m not gonna give ppl with allergies frozen bread tf” (I didn’t say it like this I just ignored his attitude and said it calmly). He was like “oh okay well Laura would get a hissy fit if it’s not done” okay you let Her Talk to me shes the manager and I can have a grown conversation you don’t have to do all that extra stuff it’s unnecessary.

Maybe it’s because I “talk white” so they think like they gotta teach me smth??? Like no you don’t know me like that didn’t even ask cause you would know I didn’t grow up in no suburbs

The kicker is they are so sweet to white ppl treat them like frail puppies that need some loving and then treat me like I’m the grandchild they wished had an abortion like I dont want you to be my grandma I got mine thank you! I got a mama I got a daddy he at home and they married for 20 years, thank you but no thanks I’m good.

They just rude and getting snippy and I don’t even speak to them but then Theres the cool elders that be talking about the rude ones so I know I aint crazy shiiid getting on my nerves.

But please tell me what y’all think because I try to be so polite idk why they doing this like why are you all up in my bubble?

Idk I just never thought to do that to someone and treat them weirdly and the cool elders be with me but lmk and explanation please because I don’t know why they doing that?

So I need two 2-credit courses (one for each semester starting this upcoming fall to graduate on time. I heard about CSS 202 but I haven’t found it but there was one course called TURF 202: World of Turf did they change it? I wanna make sure I’m enroll in the right course.

Also, what’s another 2-credit easy elective course for spring? I just wanna know some updated options.

If someone could answer both I would really appreciate it!